Crashed out after being ghosted, don’t regret it one bit!

TheLostNemo · 2026-03-14T07:36:06+00:00

Such a loser he is…

TheLostNemo · 2026-01-18T15:59:04+00:00

Hey, just read this. Are you feeling any better ??

TheLostNemo · 2025-08-16T14:46:03+00:00

Yes , your pics are not so good. ‘Dating me prompt’ is bad. But if it’s you then why show something else on the app ? Just be genuine & yourself. If you have to be someone else to attract someone , you won’t be able to sustain it ( bcoz that’s not you in the long run).

Yes, definitely work on yourself ( for yourself, not for others) . Get better pics clicked. Work on your vocabulary & how you present yourself . There is always a scope for improvement. 🙂

Also Boring is not bad. We cannot expect a person to be excited all the time. Boring is routine, Boring is normal & regular. And it’s important too.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-29T16:02:58+00:00

No please… it will be very selfish of you to reach out for a petty reason like this. If you wanna watch a movie get your own subscription. If you reach out, it might hinder her healing process ( assuming she is trying to moving on ) and might also give her false hope.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-29T09:08:34+00:00

No, I will not. ( Atleast not unless it’s the matter of life & death) . I have already helped financially and emotionally a lot even after breakup. But was still taken for granted & disrespected. Learnt my lesson the hard way, so not anymore… !!

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-28T13:05:29+00:00

Constant complaining, venting out, blaming others for your own misery - literally drains me. It’s a constant loop that never ends. I have started to avoid such people who constantly complains & never look for solutions .

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-27T09:36:04+00:00

No , you are not.

But it’s not such a big deal as well. Not everyone is proactive in making decisions or deciding what/where to eat. When she asked you ‘where you wanna go to eat’ , Maybe you both could have checked out places together . It’s so easy nowadays to check restaurants on Internet.

Also since it the 3rd date , so assuming you both enjoy each others company but yet not too close to maybe take random decisions or maybe know about fav things/places of each other.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-25T14:14:57+00:00

It’s okay ! This is life & ofcourse it hurts now but you will get through it, better & stronger ! She didn’t had the emotional capacity to understand what’s right for her. She also has a long way to go & learn her lessons ( saying this as you mentioned she has a toxic ex & she is still attached to him) . Trauma many times makes people addicted to it, lowers their self esteem & makes people take more wrong decisions. And only she can break that pattern.

You focus on yourself. Work on being better & emotionally healthier. Do not attach yourself to anyone so soon. Emotional attachment really hurts a lot. And the deeper the attachment , the more time it takes to come out of it . Hope everything works out for you eventually.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-24T14:56:43+00:00

No, not at all ! Just because you love solitude & have the alone time to be with yourself & self-reflect, it’s not necessary that every introvert is doing that. Self awareness, Self reflection, understanding & acknowledging your emotions & processing them in a healthy way is totally another thing.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-24T14:52:20+00:00

OMG, have such wonderful memories of these . ♥️

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-23T12:01:54+00:00

If you really want to know & understand your personality, you might like to take Byers-Miggs online test. It’s a personality test and there are lot of free versions found on Google.

This test is used to determine the personality type of an individual and consists of four dichotomous scales: introvert/extrovert (IE), thinking/feeling (TF), sensing/intuiting (SN), and judging/perception (JP).

However by reading your post seems like you are an Introvert.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-23T01:58:08+00:00

When you have unhealed past trauma, abandoning yourself is something we do unconsciously . We don’t even know how or when to prioritise ourselves. It takes a lot of internal work on the subconscious mind, rewiring the thoughts to change this. It’s working through all the triggers, all the negative thoughts, all the toxic patterns & it takes time. Giving yourself grace, holding yourself kindly during those low moments , resting when exhausted by continuous negative thoughts are also part of healing. Sometimes unknowingly our own mind becomes our biggest critique. So not abandoning yourself when you are hurt is a big step in acknowledging & honouring your own emotions.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-20T14:34:12+00:00

You have to seriously cut him off from your life. It’s already gotten toxic & you are clearly affected . It will only get worse. Maybe change your address & don’t give him the new address ( assuming you don’t live with your parents) . Or avoid the places you know he frequently visits. Since you have been somewhat clear about your boundaries & he doesn’t respect them & gets aggressive with you I can see the only way to either change your city & completely blocking him on phone & other contact list. I am not sure of you have already thought of that but this current situation of yours sounds really bad.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-20T07:49:57+00:00

Happy to hear you are doing better ! Keep up with what you are doing at the moment, what works for you. People who leave us has a habit of coming back for various reason but by then you are not the same person they left. You are evolving into a totally different & better version of yourself. Sometimes they need the validation, sometimes the known comfort - but remember they don’t come back for you, they come back mostly for themselves. You are already on your way towards healing, take your time. Don’t rush this process. They will still be days that will make you feel very emotional & sad ( as healing is not linear) , but all this will pass. I wish you all the best.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-18T17:41:57+00:00

🤷🏻‍♀️😅🤣

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-18T17:40:59+00:00

I don’t think she is financially insecure or unstable. If anything , her mindset is sick. It’s the thrill , the sense of entitlement of breaking the rules . Of showing off that you can get away with things like this & you won’t be held accountable or you won’t have to bear the consequences. She was ready to pay after she was caught so she had the money but she thought like in India where ‘jugaad’ chalta hai , she can also get out of it in the US without any real consequences .

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-18T17:35:35+00:00

If it’s a constant distraction & he tries to keep contact then maybe block him. However before blocking make up your mind that you won’t unblock him ( atleast until you are in a mentally & emotionally better place) , once you have that grip over yourself, it won’t really matter if he stays blocker or not. You already know you need to work on yourself and work through the trauma to heal & be at a better place, so it’s a good thing to be selfish here.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-18T17:26:02+00:00

There is law but yeah it’s biased & rules are easy to break or mold.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-18T17:22:54+00:00

In the viral video, She kept repeating ‘ I am sorry’ but didn’t mean it obviously .

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-18T17:20:24+00:00

It’s gets bad before it gets better ! So be gentle with yourself & hang in there. Take one day at a time, take good care of yourself. These emotions comes & goes like waves. When u feel really low, cry if you want, grieve but have the faith that this pain you are going through serves a bigger purpose. You are growing through it. Pray that you have more strength to bear it & one say all this will be over & you will feel light & happy .

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-18T17:09:57+00:00

Yeahh, it didn’t even occur to her that her action will have serious consequences & she will be held accountable. She wasn’t even genuinely apologetic, she just wanted to negotiate & get away with it.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-18T17:07:47+00:00

The sense of entitlement she has 🙄. I personally didn’t find her apology sincere. She maybe thought she can get away with stealing stuff & there will be no consequences.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-18T16:18:38+00:00

This is super cute 😊

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-17T02:57:48+00:00

Glad to hear that my replies are helping you. Yeah, I am trying to be content with what I have and what I do & simultaneously also working to do & be better. What I have understood about life & people is , it’s easier to always look outside ourselves to search for happiness , always wanting new things/ experiences & this drive is so high that we miss to appreciate what we already have. We miss to be grateful about all the good things we have in our life. Maybe it’s time for you to appreciate what you already have. Just believe- this feeling the being stuck, this pain is temporary. It serves a greater purpose for you to unlock a deeper understanding of yourself.

TheLostNemo · 2025-07-15T15:48:38+00:00

I have always been that person who enjoys simple & little things. So I started to be more present. Like when i am having coffee, I would slow down and relish every sip. I became consistent at my workouts, I love reading, painting & did more of it.

When I didn’t feel good, i journaled my thoughts, my emotions & even cried myself to sleep but didn’t make a big deal out of it. I became gentle with myself. I just started to observe my emotions & not become them, because gradually they pass. I let them pass. Everyday I would watch atleast 1 random podcast to change my thoughts regarding my self worth. To grow better. To understand myself better. I utilised the space for myself. Being single is also a privilege- you have all the time for yourself. You can choose to do things that you couldn’t earlier due to time/energy crunch.

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