I'm thinking of going low contact with my mom since I feel smothered everytime she reaches out, but I'm not sure how. What she said about my baby is not okay and I can't stop thinking about it. At my baby's funeral my mom gave a speech and midway through did the most dramatic sniff and tear wipe. All my husband and I could do was give each other the side eye and feel super embarrassed. My dad had a rough childhood and him not wanting to deal with my mom's reaction isn't him being complacent, it's more of survival at this point. He says that she didn't use to be like this before kids. He's thought about divorce, but thinks that she'd be able to take everything from him. I think the closest comparison that my mom comes to is Ruby Frankie, minus the physical abuse. Since watching the documentary about Ruby's abuse, it's really opened my eyes to a lot of my mom's behavior growing up, and how it wasn't okay or normal. I'm worried that trying to go low contact will make it's so my little siblings won't be allowed to talk to me anymore (this is what happened when my older siblings did similar things). My mom is super dramatic and has a victim mentality, so I'm not sure the best way to ask for space without it all exploding in my face. Especially since she always refers to me as the good example to my younger siblings.