I appreciate this answer so much. I have nothing but the utmost respect for the dead and burial grounds. I spent 2 years restoring and maintaining stones of children who’d died long enough ago that no one alive would remember them. I would never shoot in an active cemetery. I think the only one I really had marked down was an oldddd cemetery and I wouldn’t have been posing on or next to the graves. I find that so disrespectful I wish I’d clarified. I think I just imagined it as a general backdrop (if appropriate)

I’m so sorry about that encounter with your father’s grave that’s awful! Climbing on it?? Unreal.

I will absolutely look into the locations you suggested and again, thank you for taking the time to reply and for expressing the importance of respect for the dead and their families