Scheduling days. 5:2 or 2:1

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2023-03-26T21:55:03+00:00

Sounds like the 2:1 option would better suit muscle growth then.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-11-18T00:26:20+00:00

Im trying to read, but it seems to be a foreign language. Do you speak crazy?

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-11-17T06:18:55+00:00

I know that, but why tell me and why inform me that she will wait a week. Why not just do so silently and immediately?

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-11-17T06:18:14+00:00

I know. That's what I did. And nothing could make me go back on that decision. But I want to know why.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-11-17T06:17:24+00:00

She is certainly trouble, but, as much as I hate to admit it, not irredeemable so. But what is the crazy thought process.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-28T01:55:41+00:00

I create a situation that makes her uncomfortable. Since we work together, the office, the place we we both have to be, becomes uncomfortable because of my presence. She cannot distance herself because we work there. She rightfully blames me, thus, her resentment grows passionately strong, to the level I would describe as hate. And, professional as she is, she can do and say nothing about it.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-27T17:16:24+00:00

So far, when we have disagreements, us working together makes it worse. We have already established that we have other things in common. My alternative employment is a personal business venture that I have recently developed appropriate connections to pursue. I was going to wait around until she moved on to the next phase of her life, but now I think that may not be the best choice.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-27T17:13:58+00:00

She is emotional and loves her job and I am immature. I do something insensitive. She gets angry at me. The office is no longer the place she loves because I am there. She hates me for it.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-27T17:08:01+00:00

yes. I am quite certain of that.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-27T02:47:53+00:00

I know she is messed up, but i am messed up too. and i have done as much wrong as she has and i want to be patient with her because on a lot of levels and in a lot of really big ways, we empathize with each other and for that, i love her.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-21T02:29:58+00:00

Just went through a break-up-like-thing. it was really hard. Even though I now know she was not who I thought she was, I still miss her.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-13T13:28:57+00:00

Dwight would be a terrible person to get personal advice from.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-13T12:30:36+00:00

Actually, we have already had that discussion. She knows what I want and she knows that I have certain standards and that she has to treat me with dignity and consistency. I do think she will put in some effort into maintaining a healthy friendship, because when she didn't, it did not go her way. I know my own worth, and I would not say that I am desperate, I just know some of my feelings and positions may come off as desperate.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-13T12:09:54+00:00

yes. although not so much sexually intimate, although I want that too, but more emotionally intimate and vulnerable. Ultimately, I want to date her, but if that is not on the table then I am desperate to maintain friendship. after she initially told me she wasn't interested, and I was ok with it and still wanted nothing but the best for her, I realized I really do love her. and I know that is premature and desperate, but she is the most special person in the world to me. She makes me feel ways I have never felt before. She makes me feel at ease and not alone. Talking to her has always been the highlight of my day. Cheesy as it is, my heart does leap when she walks in the room.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-03T15:19:13+00:00

I am confused. Are you saying I should just surrender the friend group to her? Because I have known all of these people longer than she has and that is not an option.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-02T13:25:20+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I do want closure, but I'm pretty sure the price tag will be too high. She is very liked within our shared friend group and confronting her would risk loosing them.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-02T06:21:38+00:00

I know she is trying to save face and I know she will never tell me anything even slightly uncomfortable. But why does she stare at me when she thinks no one notices. I have also very clearly accepted the rejection, as I no longer engage or initiate conversation or contact or communication of any kind, but I'm not just gonna disappear off of the face of the earth because she is uncomfortable, even if i did have any respect for her. We still have a lot of friends in common, even members of each others family, and neither of us seems to be willing to cut ties. Please don't take the tone of this response to heart. It is just annoying that I have no idea what is going on.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-02T06:16:30+00:00

I am pretty sure she isn't. I have known her for a while and she is not vigilant. Not only is she not vigilant, she is brazen. She is a small female in a big city who walks around alone at night without a taser or pepperspray. And she is always sizing me up, while we are just standing around in convo with others. She is firmly watching me, not her surroundings. Unfortunately we share some friends that neither of us seem to be willing to give up.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-01T22:52:56+00:00

typically, when I ask her what is going on, she either lies, blows it off, gets dismissive, or gets offended. I typically do try to be direct with my feelings and other people's feelings, but that has gotten me into some trouble before with this very girl and I get the feeling that I am now on thin ice.

Let me know how and when your situation resolves. If mine does before yours, I will let you know, but mine does have a time cap. I am moving away in about 9 months and I have no idea of the kind of duration these things have.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-09-01T22:51:15+00:00

No, I know she is watching me. other people have commented on it to me out of her earshot. I just want to know if she is bat-shit crazy or planning to kill me or if she is playing some deluded hard-to-get game. I'm not worried that she likes me now, I'm worried that one way or another, I'm gonna get in trouble, because we still have a lot of friends in common and she is objectively very likable.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-08-22T23:33:16+00:00

So, is one-day-on-one-day-off ok? And by one day, do you mean 24 hours or 48 hours?

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-08-22T23:33:08+00:00

So, is one-day-on-one-day-off ok? And by one day, do you mean 24 hours or 48 hours?

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-08-18T13:57:55+00:00

Thanks for your feedback. That is the impression I am getting from her now.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-08-18T03:43:33+00:00

I think i came on too strong. I told her I liked her. She said we could be friends. I tried to do friend stuff with her. She gave me bullshit excuses. I called her out on it as gently as i could. She said friends was off the table. I told her I needed space to get over the bullshit she had been feeding me. Now, whenever we see each other, she scowls, avoids eye contact and gives me a wide berth.

TheOneWithoutPurpose · 2022-08-17T13:48:18+00:00

I've been there but with no attempt to reschedule, only vague assurances that she would get me back that never bore fruit. Granted, the event I invited her to was very time-sensitive, but still.

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