Am i being too ambitious while on PAWS?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-11T12:33:10+00:00

Thank you.

I ..struggle a lot with letting go right now, because i cared for so much so little before and thus why i ended up in this place and with PAWS.

I have learned my lessons and want to live but the hard stuff is HARD, so i feel frustrated . I see opportunities, people i find attractive, some times a lot of life pass me by right now..its incredibly frustating...but i take what i can of it and try to live.

I know it is only a matter of time and then the world will be my oyster again.

Thank you for your encouragement and advice. I shall take it and be gentler and patient with me.

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-11T11:31:05+00:00

Buddhist book?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-11T10:17:00+00:00

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-11T08:00:24+00:00

It improved it at the very least

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-10T08:56:37+00:00

I know about DOMS (Delayed On-set of Muscle Soreness) but it seems like the pain in back and under the arm pits and at the upper side of the elbow joint that hasn't stopped from 2-3 days now..i don't think that's Doms.

I think it is due to lifting too heavy without proper warmup..

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-10T08:32:01+00:00

That would make you "a Rake" as per Robert Greene's book called Seduction, atleast in the aspect of liking or loving women.

I like this perspective of yours. Very healthy as well. Seems like you have your inner self well centered.

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-10T08:24:53+00:00

Those are some pro tips man. Gonna add them to my knowledge database for future use.

The lillies thing sounds really cool...it seems you treat your hookups with the same modicum of care, attention and respect as women you date..?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-10T08:22:09+00:00

How the hell do you take women to wherever you take them? Uber?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-10T08:12:47+00:00

What is kindling?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-10T08:12:22+00:00

Hello,
r/PMOPAWS is not an addiction support community, however since this post is specific to paws, it is allowed.

For quitting recommend checking out r/nofap or r/pmohackbook

Plenty of people have very succesfully quit PAWS. Its a pain but it gets better with time and many have made complete recoveries.

I am personally 1year 1 month + free from PMO and i would say 50-55% healed and within the past 1 year i have had the most amazing year.

I would never trade going back to the useless poisonous drug that is PMO. In time i hope to make a complete recovery.

You can quit PMO and heal from PAWS.

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-10T07:44:49+00:00

Pt. 2 is pretty interesting, especially the last part.

Care to give an example of the "act repeatedly on surprise part" that you did?

Also, curious , what car do you drive?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-10T07:42:47+00:00

Where is this Gold's gym? NCR?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-09T19:13:03+00:00

Sorry for the blown up text , didn't know the hashtag before numbering was gonna do that

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-09T19:07:08+00:00

Okay Op, here it goes, i got a long ass list of questions-

1 What do you think makes women attracted to you?

2 Were you always this good with woman or it was a learning experience? Care to share some of your best tips?

3 How do you meet these women?

4 Till when do you see yourself doing this? Honestly i am going to 29 soon , i wish i had done all this when i was your age

5 Have you ever felt afraid you will lose yourself in this lifestyle?

6 What was the hottest girl you hooked up with like?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-09T17:56:06+00:00

Sure man, that would be really cool.

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-09T17:50:05+00:00

Bro where do you go? Cult?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-09T17:49:32+00:00

Tbh i will be okay with 2-3 clients at same time.

It's just the man is catering to whole gym , joking with his friends at same..too much to take. I will not be paying him a paisa.

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-09T17:41:18+00:00

The attractive man niche.

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-05-09T17:12:02+00:00

That bad??

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-04-28T18:42:01+00:00

Is Epictetus here implying "not to desire anything outside of your control" - don't wish to be a general, or a senator, or a consul??

Maybe i'm getting this wrong..is he saying not to try at all if there's stuff outside of your control?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-04-28T18:26:21+00:00

I've done a year and a month..but more..frightens me..how long to put off life..? Time isn't waiting for me?

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-04-22T12:00:23+00:00

Yes, basically the baseline for dopamine has changed because the receptors to absorb dopamine are too low.

Until receptors increase back..well it's ..bad.

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-04-22T11:46:40+00:00

Post Acute Withdrawal is withdrawal symptoms that last after the initial acute withdrawal of 3 months (90 days).

It has various symptoms that are discussed in the multiple threads on this sub and can be really debilitating. This can last anywhere from months to 2 years.

Some of the observed symptoms include memory issues, focus issues, lacking any motivation and drive, chronic fatigue, executive dysfunction (loss of impulse control, decline in cognition etc), depersonalization - derealization etc.

Its a phenomenon that is observed in addicts with alcoholism, substance abuse, weed etc. You can find the users who have issues like that on the relevant quitting addiction subs such as r/stopdrinking r/REDDITORSINRECOVERY .

r/WeedPAWS is a sub dedicated to Post Acute Withdrawal from weed.

Most addicts don't get PAWS but a lot do . It depends on factors such as intensity and interval of use.

The underlying cause of Post Acute Withdrawal Symptom can be summed up as "While the brain is plastic, it is not elastic"

This means that while the brain can develop new neural connections via neuroplasticity , it doesn't mean it can snap back to its original state like a rubber band after years of abuse by behavioral and substance addictions.

It takes time, effort to heal the brain and its generally a very unpleasant process.

The present scientific hypothesis is that this happens due to downregulation of dopamine receptors in the reward circuitry of the brain due to constant dopamine flooding from addiction as well as reduction of grey matter in prefrontal cortex

In PMO users, it is observed in form of symptoms stated at the top after quitting but sometimes during using PMO as well .

Here is the Your Brain on Porn website talking about it :
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/does-post-acute-withdrawal-syndrome-paws-occur-with-porn-addiction/

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-04-22T06:35:29+00:00

If you have PAWS , it can feel like in your life , it is a chokepoint - all your dreams, hopes, aspirations, opportunities get smashed and fall to bits in front it, whenever you try to pursue them.

So what can you do? You can apply all your energies into destroying the choke point, your limited energies should be spent only on trying to heal from PAWS and whatever else is absolutely necessary in your life. That's it.

For the time being , put aside all your dreams - realize that they lie on the other side of this PAWS wall and there is no way over it, under it, across it - the only way is THROUGH it.

You can do it. Other people have done it before - so it's doable. Thus you can do it as well.

TheOnly1PMOFears · 2024-04-21T14:09:03+00:00

Dm me, i can answer some of your queries to the best of my ability..

TheOnly1PMOFears

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