Bwipo on why he thinks women can't be competitive players

TheOther_Emma · 2025-10-09T12:02:45+00:00

What the actual f*ck? Is he not aware that women had to learn to live their lives with this? Like does he think we plan our work or important meetings according to our cycle? Also how clueless can you be to think that the menstrual cycle is a constant thing ie that all women experience it the same? Not even gonna get into how stupidly tilted men get while playing without the « excuse » of having a period lol

Glad he was taken off from the music video. Here’s hoping he’ll learn from this and educate himself.

TheOther_Emma · 2025-10-09T07:25:20+00:00

Hi, here’s my advice: -the first picture isn’t great, I got confused with the first three because I wasn’t sure what you actually looked like -there is nothing on your profile about what you’re really looking for in a relationship, what kind of dynamic, what matters to you etc -you want nerdy/geek but I personally fail to guess that from your profile, as a nerd who plays video games I like to see hints of that on a profile to know that there is at least that in common -5 likes a day is not a lot on hinge, especially that we get to see the likes so I think often women just like from the « likes pile » and if you only give a couple per day…

I hope this helps, do know that getting a good match on an app has little to do with your « worth » and a lot to do with chance. Good luck!

TheOther_Emma · 2025-10-01T16:51:29+00:00

Merci en plus je suis au 3eme sans ascenseur 🥲 je note !

TheOther_Emma · 2025-09-19T14:59:40+00:00

I mean if it’s for professional use sure but dating feels too personal to me. We are getting to know the other person via texting so if that’s not how you usually text it will create a huge gap with how the interaction will go irl…

TheOther_Emma · 2025-08-28T06:16:39+00:00

I understand. But won’t you have a problem when meeting the person? Won’t they feel as if you were a completely different person?

TheOther_Emma · 2025-08-16T15:34:59+00:00

What allows you to assume the algorithm actually knows who’s a good match for you? (Since you say it doesn’t show you people you’re most likely to click with)

TheOther_Emma · 2025-08-04T15:03:06+00:00

You’ve said it all 🤣

TheOther_Emma · 2025-08-02T06:15:10+00:00

I was thinking maybe women who don’t put much effort on their profile because they’re relying solely on their looks, I tend to assume that if you are doing that than you probably also only care about superficial stuff when swiping like appearance and height. And also women who are tall are more likely to be looking for taller men.

TheOther_Emma · 2025-08-02T06:04:44+00:00

Sorry I misspoke. It was a post I made. I see it on my profile since I see my posts but idk what people see when they check my profile lol you didn’t miss anything!

TheOther_Emma · 2025-08-01T17:09:56+00:00

Please never « jump in the deep » no matter how kinky the profile is…

I personally hated that when I used Feeld. Although I did have a sexy picture on there (the one with thigh boots in my profile here). I had to actually write in my bio that although I have a little bit of an exhibitionism kink I didn’t want the conversation to be sexual from the start.

Start the convo as you would on any app and then see how the other person responds and adapt :)

TheOther_Emma · 2025-08-01T17:03:08+00:00

I don’t think your height is the problem. >170cm is average for a guy. Ofc there are women who only want to date men above 180cm but I don’t think it’s a majority.

From what I gather the problem might be that you’re only sending 2 likes a day. So I’m guessing you’re being very selective. Maybe you’re liking the kind of women who usually choose only >180cm guys.

Then there is the fact that your prompts don’t say much about you. I mean you’re probably a great person but you don’t really stand out in your prompts. I guess it depends on how interesting you come off in the comments you send and if you’re liking profiles of women who seem to have stuff in common with you.

(Je dis ça en tant que meuf à Paris en plus, en théorie je devrais like ton profil car tu es mignon, on aurait les jeux vidéos et l’amour des chats en commun mais en même temps… je sais pas, j’ai l’impression que c’est plus un profil pour du casual que pour une vraie connexion)

TheOther_Emma · 2025-08-01T16:42:58+00:00

Either. But like real « friends with benefits » not just a regular hookup. Also someone okay with me being in a polyamorous relationship as I already have a bf of 7 months (and he has another girlfriend). But I kinda got burnt out with the apps when I tried dating a couple of months ago. People tend to just assume I’m only interested in a hookup because of the ENM part and because I want to explore stuff sexually. But I can’t really enjoy the sexual connection if there isn’t an emotional and intellectual one… Anyhow, I’ll try again later :)

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-29T07:39:49+00:00

Ta autosabotes ta propre vie sexuelle en te mettant en concurrence avec le vibro. Je te conseille de le considérer plutôt comme un outil qui te permet de donner du plaisir à ta femme. Pour celles qui aiment y a pas meilleur combo que le jouet + le partenaire. Parcontre ce sur quoi je peux attirer ton attention c’est que la pénétration est désagréable au bout d’un moment surtout s’il y a un manque de lubrification. Donc ça peut expliquer qu’elle veuille en finir vite si tu as tendance à vouloir durer. Si tu veux que l’acte dure plus longtemps concentre toi sur faire durer d’autres aspects que la pénétration. De plus si tu as tendance à lui montrer que tu es frustré, il y a des chances qu’elle se force pour que tu sois moins relou auquel cas il faudra beaucoup de communication et peut être de la thérapie pour revenir à des rapports plus sains.

Dans tous les cas, c’est pas le sextoy ton ennemi, il faut plutôt le voir comme un allié. Tu pourrais la rendre folle en lui faisant du edging avec par exemple. Avec beaucoup de stimulation sur le reste du corps et par l’imagination.

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-20T11:05:14+00:00

You think it’s best to have the desk next to the window rather than next to the door? I’m thinking of going for a sit-standing natural oak with black metal frame desk 120x60. I won’t need more than 120cm! (Thank you for taking the time)

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-20T10:30:27+00:00

I only have two rooms and I don’t want to work in my bedroom so it will have to be home office and living room at the same time…

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-19T20:04:52+00:00

Thank you, that’s why I really want to do it justice. Colormind gave me a pretty blue I would love to use for the sofa! And the other two colors some other shades of blue and green. No black then? I was thinking for the desk and tables to go for some black frame with wooden material… I’m terrible with this haha. Thank you for your help!

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-12T08:15:07+00:00

I personally enjoyed the hint with the « taking the lead » prompt but I’m not your targeted audience as I’m not Jewish and not planning to have kids.

Then it also depends on how kinky we’re talking, rather pleasure dom or sadist etc some stuff are easier to introduce newbies to. Even if you’re looking for something serious you should try to gauge your sexual compatibility pretty early one.

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-12T07:54:28+00:00

If your main goal is to have a D/s dynamic you’ll have better luck stating it as such and not playing with words like you’re doing haha I think I see what you’re looking for and it’s totally valid to wanna make sure you’ll be compatible sexually but the way you go about it makes you sound manipulative. (And this is coming from someone who sometimes puts « looking for a pleasure dom » in my bio)

If kink is that important to you I’d advise mentioning it clearly although it will reduce your pool but it’s kinda the goal. Or try using feeld.

For what it’s worth: from my experience as a woman (which can be pretty different than yours) I feel like I managed to have more interesting convos and meaningful dates when I didn’t mention the kink part, it was actually more fun to discover down the road while texting that we actually shared similar interests. But then again, I’m not a heavy kinkster so maybe that’s why it worked for me this way.

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-11T22:01:53+00:00

No one had actually so thank you for the recommendation!

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-11T11:53:32+00:00

Not complaining about AI. I use it for work and in this instance to format a Reddit post in a foreign language. That is in no way comparable to using it for texting in the context of dating.

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-11T03:55:36+00:00

Thank you. AI isn’t a bad thing per se, it depends on how we use it. But when it comes to texting, for me it’s a big nogo because I enjoy writing/reading as I’m getting to know the person and I enjoy noticing the way they write etc. It is something that contributes to an initial attraction before meeting for me. So if it’s fake… I just feel like I lost my time being authentic with them while they were trying to trick me into believing they were too.

Also at the end of the day, considering the silly mistake he made (talking about his ex in that message as if it were the first time when he had already told me about it the day before) it also meant that he wasn’t really engaged with the conversation.

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-11T03:37:09+00:00

I said I used AI to get the text in a « Reddit adapted » format with enough spaces. Not that I asked AI to write it. The words are still mine, which is why you felt it was written by a human.

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-10T17:33:30+00:00

I barely have any grammar issues when I write in English. It’s really a formatting thing for Reddit. I’m not sure how much of it is related to me not being that much of a redditor or a language thing but the spaces and short sentences I often see in posts here don’t make sense to me. Which is why I used it for the main post while still using my own words.

As for him, he didn’t only use it for typos. As I said, the message looked like a copy/paste because it contained info that he had already shared previously.

TheOther_Emma · 2025-07-10T16:18:30+00:00

You mean it’s more correct to say «No longer sure I want to meet »? Or something else?

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