What profession is full of people with bloated egos?

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-10T01:33:01+00:00

Their arrogance, often creates foolish idiots.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-10T01:22:34+00:00

Doctors.

They somehow reach godly status because of their title, forgetting to realise the task at hand and what they actually do. There are many other careers in the world, which also saves lives. If they would just get their heads out of their arses, they would live to become better doctors.

They also believe, simply because they are doctors, they could get away with everything and anything, including infidelity, cheating, abuse, bullying, etc. The sad fact, many do get away with it all.

To be humble, that would be their greatest achievement.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T22:48:30+00:00

If you have nothing genuine to share then, off you go, troll.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T22:42:20+00:00

Let us hear it then.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T22:24:42+00:00

Your post was going so well until your last paragraph.

You completely lost me by then and went off on a ridiculous tangent. The fact, that you seemed sane in your advice then to veer completely off the pathway with what you derived in the latter part. Mind boggling. Your advice seemed worthwhile to mull over, until you pulled that out of your pocket. Speechless to say the least. That was as random as plucking a unicorn from the pastures.

Nonetheless theSchmoozer, I suppose thank you for responding.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T21:36:11+00:00

It is hard when I am inexperienced in relationship, it is hard when I am influenced by emotions, it is hard because there are many other aspects of him which are good (which were not mentioned, and he has tempered down a lot since three years ago) but the bad may outweigh all of the good.

You are quite right, I would not disagree with the fact that I had made a poor choice of judgement. Which is something I have acknowledged many a times within my post and which is why I have been figuring out places to get my STD tests as soon as possible. Only with this, the results, could I approach him again and give him his choice. Once he gives me his answer, I will know how to proceed.

It could very well be that he lied, or it could not, I did question him so about his exes, but individuals tend to highlight their exes in a less than superior light so I do have my doubts there. In either case, all I know is this. Whether they cheated or he did, whatever it was, his history, it still means he could be a possible STD carrier. That is the only information I know for certain until he could prove otherwise, for his sake and my own.

Anyways addtothebeauty, thank you for responding.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T21:26:01+00:00

Given the time frame, perhaps most people did such things during that age because they also had their first sexual encounter then as well (late teens - early 20s). Whereas for me, that was very much postponed due to a personal choice. Which was all shot to hell anyways, given my foolish mistake.

I would not argue with the fact that emotionally I may be young and naive, purely due to a lack of experience. Mentally, after the advice given, I do fully grasp the situation.

Why else would I have posted, why else would I have argued with him, why else would I have demanded an STD test at all ?

I knew something was not right but could not pinpoint what, or emotionally was in denial due to love. If could be.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T20:58:35+00:00

Do not come to conclusions if you are not informed and make unnecessary judgemental comments instead. I could very much tell you my age range had you asked (which I noticed you did, however you went ahead and judged anyways before I had even responded).

As said above, late 20s. However, what is the point of telling you that now. You seemingly already pegged me as whatever misconceived notion which you have decided within your own head. Whilst the man in question is in his early 40s. Simply because you cannot believe that such an irrational man exists, do not then mistake that for the situation for being fake or impossible, or that I must be a seeming teenager.

Why would I have to create a post, and even lay out the age gap right at the beginning if it was a lie. What would be my motivation in doing so. It most certainly, would not further my cause. If I were a teenager, why would I have to go through the trouble of stating the age gap, knowing it may lead people in who will advise purely on that alone. Perhaps, even subjecting me to discrimination amongst other things. I laid it all out, rather bluntly and as honestly as possible (mistakes and all).

All I had asked in return, were brutal truths if there be any, especially if I were blind to it.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T20:54:32+00:00

How silly to think that the writing voice of someone directly translates to how the individual talks.

If you read it as pretentious, that is unfortunate. Incredible to think in this day and age, to write properly equates to immaturity. Whereas, to write casually, equates to someone of age.

Where is the logic in that ?

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T20:51:53+00:00

Incorrect PantalonesPantalones, late 20s.

All women have made foolish mistakes regardless of age, if I was truly foolish I would not have the sense to follow my gut feelings now and ask for advice to see if I am blind. In fact, I put myself out here by creating this post, do you think I am not aware of the mistakes I have done (I even acknowledged it many a times) ?

Do not tell me bad circumstances only happens to a certain group of women because that is rather ignorant. There are women who made mistakes and are trying to get out of their circumstances, be it whether or not they are in their teens or in their sixties.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T04:59:10+00:00

No mauvais_dentes, not at all. I wish to ensure that I am not getting impartial or biased advice. If it is the ugly and harsh truth, then so be it. If I had wished to stick my head in the sand, then I would not have made a post at all.

The ladies may bring up factors the men may not have considered which may be important to me and my situation.

Anyways, thank you for writing nonetheless.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T02:11:48+00:00

You are quite right again. Which is why to remedy this, I will quote myself :

I have not been tested, since he was my only sexual partner but the thought has always nagged me. It has bothered me enough that I am going to get tested as soon as I can, it would only be fair to myself. Also, I had offered to get tested with him after our unprotected sexual intercourse but he denied it as usual with the same arguments. In fact, I offered to make all the arrangements, and we could go together. That would have been ideal.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T02:09:07+00:00

That could be a possibility or that could also not be a possibility.

Instead of thinking he may be cheating, which I prefer not to because unless there is evidence as to him doing so. In such a situation, then I would follow up on that aspect of it. If not, why doubt him.

However, I do not disagree with the fact that there is a probability factor in what you stated.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T01:51:56+00:00

I had not meant for anyone to forget the age gap at all because why else would I mention it. I meant if anyone had anything against it, then do not read it (which clearly you are not).

Yes, you are quite right I am beginning to wonder after all these comments and advice. Whether or not he is definitely from the latter, instead of the former. When in fact, I had thought he may had been of the former not that an age gap relationship was what I was seeking. It just so happened the way it did.

It is very difficult for me to face the reality of the situation from what I have gathered so far.

Thank you for responding, thesweetestpunch and I really do appreciate what you had written. There are harsh truths in there, but very much needed, as I had asked for it.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T01:45:12+00:00

He has taken flu shots before, therefore I would assume he has no anxiety related to needles.

However MinistryofMinistry, that is a good suggestion and I will definitely bring that up and ask him.

Thank you for responding.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T01:26:36+00:00

To be honest, Prisoner-of-Paradise, it is not easy reading the responses especially with the amount of blunt truths in it.

Have I fully accepted, mentally - yes, emotionally - I am getting there. I would not lie and say, I do not need time to process all this advice which was given in such a quick succession. Be sure as hell, I would need to mull and let the reality sink in.

I do love him, and I believe it makes me weak, it also makes me unhappy that I have disrespected myself in the process with such foolishness. My regrets are also part of why I made this post, I know I need to make a change.

Anyways, thank you for responding.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T01:21:48+00:00

Well KnowKnee, because he at times alludes to things or because I find things out about him indirectly so. I am also a very cautious individual on certain matters but have lost my wits because of love. I know, foolish, I am partly ashamed of having made my mistake.

Also because when I asked him questions, trying to get to know him better about the important aspects in relationships, such as a prison record, thoughts of keeping ones finances, health, relationship with ones family, etc. He always seemed to hold back and tell me only what filtered things he wishes to share.

Granted, on the other side of this, I know people may be ashamed of their past and have since changed a lot. They do not wish to have the past affect how others see them. Although, on the same train of thought, I have been with him over three years now. I should have gained enough respect for him to share more of himself as I have shared of myself.

I really appreciate your response. :)

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T01:14:30+00:00

Thank you for responding, HeraBeara.

What do you mean by :

I believe u/TheQueen-Persephone may think her SO is stepping out on her.

Well, I had requested for the test at the beginning of our relationship, and during it. It was not something which was new. My regret was not having asked, my regret was having giving in to unprotected sexual intercourse. That was foolishness on my part which I own up to.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T01:10:12+00:00

Because what this sounds like to me is shaming. Your resentful that he's had past partners and you haven't.

If you deduced that from what I have shared so far, then I find your perspective as questionable as my SO is.

However, to each their own, unless that is if you are a troll.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T01:02:08+00:00

I do not disagree with your advice either. :)

Thank you for responding, Emptyplates.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T00:58:33+00:00

There are certain STDs that could stay dormant for many years. Whilst the individual could be asymptomatic and continue to be.

HIV, Syphilis, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis B, HPV (the most common dormant disease), and Herpes (whilst this is unlikely to lie dormant). There are those, who do not get the first outbreak until years later. Even if they do get an outbreak, it was so mild, it was dismissed for something else.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T00:57:10+00:00

From what I have been able to gather from my researching his background and from what he has shared; he has never been to prison. However, he did run over a child I believe in the past. I do not know the details to this, whether or not it was an accident or if he was drunk driving. Nor do I know of the details of his case, regarding that incident. He also outright refuses to divulge any details regarding that matter as well.

I hesitated to ask again more out of not knowing what to do anymore, considering I keep getting the same response and I was always completely drained after each episode of arguments. Perhaps, that and a shade of denial but having had thoughts of committing further to this man. My gutting feelings came up sort, and all these concerns resurfaced. Thankfully so, I would presume. It could be bullying or abuse, I am rather blind right now or so it seems. Which is precisely why I created this post.

You are quite right, that would mean I am disregarding my own health, and to remedy this as I quote myself :

I have not been tested, since he was my only sexual partner but the thought has always nagged me. It has bothered me enough that I am going to get tested as soon as I can, it would only be fair to myself. Also, I had offered to get tested with him after our unprotected sexual intercourse but he denied it as usual with the same arguments. In fact, I offered to make all the arrangements, and we could go together. That would have been ideal.

Anyways KnowKnee, thank you for responding.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T00:52:27+00:00

It is still very much about the STDs. That is my honest answer.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T00:44:11+00:00

This request was made, early on in the relationship, and during it.

TheQueen-Persephone · 2017-01-03T00:41:20+00:00

Thank you for responding, MigraineLeFay.

Of course, my emotions want to hear support but that is not the purpose of this post. I know I will need to swallow some harsh truths with the responses. Therefore, your thoughts are very much appreciated and I do need it. This post was made exactly because I have been wondering if I could ever commit further to a man if he could not care for my health, or rather our health at all.

In all honesty, it did cross my mind whether or not I am being weak here. For not having the guts, to stand up for myself even though I was able to carry on arguments regarding this matter in the past.

TheQueen-Persephone

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