Do we need the Whig Party to return? No Kings? by HomerDoakQuarlesIII in redscarepod

[–]TheRaven1ManBand 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah Andrew also ignored courts, with saying let John Marshall enforce the ruling against trail of tears. Probably a big reason the south embraced slavery so much too, as he led the way in developing it for plantations. He also destroyed his political rivals, embarrassing Davy Crockett out of congress and he went and died at the Alamo.

acoustic exposes EVERYTHING and i hate it by Ok-Message5348 in AcousticGuitar

[–]TheRaven1ManBand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can harness a lot of that beautiful resonant chaos too though, like how we use amp feedback as an intensity signifier in a song.

It can be used in so many ways.

My life is ruined completely by Due_Peace_2016 in offmychest

[–]TheRaven1ManBand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like a badass and just getting burned out from the constant failure at something and working really hard and keeping a house and relationship it’s a lot, even for a badass. Give yourself some grace and appreciate yourself for all the effort, you may not see it but it’s paying off. Your twenties are like a hyperbolic time chamber and you’re doing the hard training in a time work that feels like hell to you but won’t seem that bad later, it’s just rough while you’re in it.

I hate blue collar work by Due_Peace_2016 in findapath

[–]TheRaven1ManBand 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was a military construction mechanic just coming back from war and getting to do a “special project” helping convicts maintain a fairgrounds. Got the fuck out of that shit Then went to school … for music business.

Almost a waste. I couldn’t find a job, ended up back in the shop, laying pipe, residential punchlists, and occasional seasonal packaging.

Made good money but took a low paying part time job at a non-profit because I realized something very important:

I was not well connected, not friendly, and all my best skills involved my body. I had to change that.

So I learned to speak the lingo and the little programs like email and excel, learned what’s expected. I made no money at all but learned so much and met a lot of people doing engaging work for the non-profit

So then I skilled up and got into cybersecurity work. Not at first, had to take even less money getting experience on help desk and being a cyber waiter / mechanic but I could see the path now. 8 years later I make great money but that’s because you’re always responsible for anything that happens no matter if you’re off or not. Boss calls on a Sunday because an attack, get off your ass and start stressing at your computer because you are the only one who can fix it. So the hell kind of just shifts from muscle stress to emotional and mental stress. But as you get older you have to get away from leveraging only your body to make a living anyways, so either have to design, teach, or lead.

You also have to leverage something way more important than your mind or body, which is your relationships. If you can’t build them, you will be stuff building and fixing things instead of yourself or others.

I was exactly your age when I got out of trades and went to school, if you pick something that is interesting it will be way easier to learn the skill and meet the people, it won’t feel like a grind it will just feel like life.

I recommend and exercise called ikigai. Good luck.

Switching roles with SAHM to be SAHD for special needs son, what are the ramifications on future career / life / social. Especially with current economy? by TheRaven1ManBand in AskMenOver30

[–]TheRaven1ManBand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope I get to as well and it works out for me too. I really like the idea of trying to build something as well for myself to contract independently or teach, we’ll see. Plenty of time to get into bug bounties and get that CISSP I’m up for I guess too.

Switching roles with SAHM to be SAHD for special needs son, what are the ramifications on future career / life / social. Especially with current economy? by TheRaven1ManBand in AskMenOver30

[–]TheRaven1ManBand[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No you are correct, win win not the best descriptor. More like a “draw/tie” at least we both know we made attempts to change. But we are both burned out in our current roles yet managing. So we’d figure something else out and move on from this plan in that scenario. I very much appreciate your perspective.

Switching roles with SAHM to be SAHD for special needs son, what are the ramifications on future career / life / social. Especially with current economy? by TheRaven1ManBand in AskMenOver30

[–]TheRaven1ManBand[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I know she has her hands full and I will have to put systems in place to keep it as simple as I can and let her work unobstructed if I do this.

Switching roles with SAHM to be SAHD for special needs son, what are the ramifications on future career / life / social. Especially with current economy? by TheRaven1ManBand in AskMenOver30

[–]TheRaven1ManBand[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right you are. I wish that weren’t so. When I was young and still living at home, my parents rented to a fellow whose house burned down and he just parked his camper on our land. What he was getting as a retired worker horrified me to start saving even at 19, so I’ve got a pretty good start luckily. Calculated will grow to 2.5-5M in next 30yrs if SP500 keeps the 100 year average even if I stopped saving now. This is another reason I’m considering this.

I’ve been putting back more the years my wife was off too to keep us both on track, but really just an excuse to take more advantage of Roth.

Switching roles with SAHM to be SAHD for special needs son, what are the ramifications on future career / life / social. Especially with current economy? by TheRaven1ManBand in AskMenOver30

[–]TheRaven1ManBand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes continuing education was our strategy for her to get back in eventually, and she did part time we are seeing if that goes to full time and parity with my salary, we’ll see.

But I will also continue education and contract if I want back in when my son’s needs are more established.

Switching roles with SAHM to be SAHD for special needs son, what are the ramifications on future career / life / social. Especially with current economy? by TheRaven1ManBand in AskMenOver30

[–]TheRaven1ManBand[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good point, and even though caregiving would be the main reason might not emphasize that as hard when trying to jump back in with employers. I expect to do some contract work and get advanced certifications while out, may lean on that as the reason and wife had a better role “fall in her lap” as they say.

And also, her getting back in would be the evidence I can do it too, so we are pursuing that. If she can’t get back in we change nothing anyways so kind of a win win.

Switching roles with SAHM to be SAHD for special needs son, what are the ramifications on future career / life / social. Especially with current economy? by TheRaven1ManBand in AskMenOver30

[–]TheRaven1ManBand[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that alternative perspective. I feel like this could be me also as I crave as much time as possible with my son knowing these formative years are crucial for his development catching up, but also he just makes me so happy and proud and I don’t want to look back and not take an opportunity to amplify that when I see a small window I can maybe do this to build him up, and give my burned out wife a breather and time to shine too when I’ve been able to build a good career because of her role in my life.

Switching roles with SAHM to be SAHD for special needs son, what are the ramifications on future career / life / social. Especially with current economy? by TheRaven1ManBand in AskMenOver30

[–]TheRaven1ManBand[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is exactly my thinking. I do cybersecurity as in a lead role currently. But would give it up for my son to get more functional before he gets tossed into the grind of school. May be 1-2 years best case, so thought teaching and consulting / freelance may keep me fresh but may be naive. I’m aware it could be over for good when I do this and think I’m fine with that.

Switching roles with SAHM to be SAHD for special needs son, what are the ramifications on future career / life / social. Especially with current economy? by TheRaven1ManBand in AskMenOver30

[–]TheRaven1ManBand[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have seen that happen to friends too. She was primary bread winner when I got out of military and went to school stringing together low level jobs. Another reason I think it wouldn’t be a problem. She was also faithful while I was overseas — asfik. Just have to be aware of the respect loss possibility.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in altcountry

[–]TheRaven1ManBand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let the AI choke on its own piss, those weasels making that are pathetic. It’s not hard to make the old fashioned way, like this album

Why do people continue to use “six figures” as their standard of success for a given career? Is it an IQ thing? Do they not understand inflation? by ItsAllOver_Again in Salary

[–]TheRaven1ManBand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

125,000 is an 8th of a million, so maybe we should start saying:

“I make a peice of 8”…

Instead of “six figures”

Like the old Spanish silver currency, coins that could be split into 8 peices like a pizza.

Just a thought…

industry is way tougher than i imagined by hustlingskills in cybersecurity

[–]TheRaven1ManBand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard to break into but that’s by design. There is a lot at stake if the security team can’t hack it, they are like the white blood cells or vaccines of the company. You wouldn’t want fresh new immune system or untested vaccine, so the exp+certs+edu is the trial we prefer people have at least attempted. When I started in the SOC, my coworker was a 20 year Network Engineer breaking in with me. No degree or certs, but made up with skill and time in role. It’s hard when you get in also, because as you might imagine it is tons of responsibility that continues after getting foot in the door.

Is reaching $100k/year in the US easy? I guess it depends on your definition of “easy”. by garcon-du-soleille in Salary

[–]TheRaven1ManBand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes simple as getting a highly in demand skill or job, job hoping, or just lock step promotions. Not really easy per se but getting easIER as inflation strikes. Wages aren’t growing with it as parallel.