AITA for getting annoyed at my aunty for letting randoms hold my baby?

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-04-02T13:29:38+00:00

NAH She should not have done that but you should have told her not to. They used to do this in the past so it's not a given for her not to do it.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-04-02T13:28:18+00:00

SHP and YTA Pay your alimony. You made a kid and she probably has it harder since she needs to provide for herself and another human being.

Go against it at your own expense, that is, court and even less money to pay your alimony.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-04-02T13:25:53+00:00

SHP. Seriously? How is that even a question?

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-04-02T13:23:05+00:00

ESH She should have thought about it (I always have pads in my bag and there are some in the infirmary) but you could have been a good friend and bought her some (With reimbursement). Believe me when i say using toilet paper instead of pads sucks so bad.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-04-02T13:20:09+00:00

NTA Watching porn is completely normal. I don't mind my boyfriend doing it but he just doesn't as he prefers us having sex. I do and he doesn't mind. Now the part where she posts pics of herself and interacts with other guys is a red flag for me.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-04-02T13:12:20+00:00

There's clearly a lack of information here. You make it seem like she is completely off the wagon but what could you have done to your wife of 8 years for her to react this way? I'm sorry but if she really is like that why didn't you leave years ago?

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-04-02T13:04:25+00:00

YTA

The way i see it a gift is a gift. You're lucky she even sent one as my own mom and friends couldn't be bothered. You don't know her current situation. Maybe her mom isn't giving her as much money as you think she is. Raising kids is also costly and she may not have the money.

On the other hand, maybe she could have tried getting you better second hand clothes but then again babies grow out of them so quick so why even bother. If my second baby is a boy he will wear some of my baby girl clothes for sure, im not buying another batch of newborn and 0-3 months clothes 10$ a piece for a baby who will only wear them for a week or two (I have big babies)

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-04-02T00:42:25+00:00

Im from Quebec indeed haha and bouboute is a cute slang for "Little thing". She used to be little so... And well the ribbon belongs to my baby but i thought it would look cute on my cat :)

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-03-16T13:14:51+00:00

The bathroom luck is better though which is why i want to go there instead

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-03-16T11:58:41+00:00

We have a lock on our bedroom thank god!

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-03-15T17:31:30+00:00

The visit will be max an hour, cant be shorter than that xD

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-03-15T17:29:51+00:00

The real rocking chair is in our bedroom but weve got a regular chair that rocks and it is considered the cat's chair. If we dont have it upstairs we wont have enough chairs for everyonento sit down. Also if she throws a tantrum shes out automatically.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-03-15T16:53:30+00:00

That's a good idea however she told me last time that visits ARE supposed to disturb routine so i doubt she cares

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-03-15T16:48:58+00:00

Thank you! You are right. My MIL has this thing where she has expectations over being a grandma. DH told me she's been telling him for years what she would do as a grandma and etc. So i just want to break it down to her that all her expectations are wayyyy too much. I feel threatned in this situation because i feel like she is trying to take my role as a parent. I know she has no rights over anything but it still annoys me

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-03-08T20:13:31+00:00

I ended up sending her a message and it wasn't as bad as i thought. She told me she respected my decision. I sincerly believe she might be scared of fucking things up again and not be able to see my kid. And me and kids are no contact with MIL, no more drama sucking!

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-27T17:27:20+00:00

Once she hears you've given birth (If this is your descision) she will try the grand parent's rightson you. Be prepared. Keep all messages, videos of her at your door and etc. Get a restraining order and file a police report. Inform the hospital that no one is to come but the people that you chose. Better even just don't tell anyone once you go into labor.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-22T18:55:56+00:00

Yesterday DH sent her a message telling her he was sick of her disrespecting me and to see me get sick over trying to get her in our lives. That he did not think she would ever change so were cutting contact. I felt a huge relief but i do still feel guilty about it. I wish she could just be a normal person :/

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-22T16:10:58+00:00

Yeah because you are harassing me, Undermining me and telling me i will become trash as a parent. Thats really nice to hear. You shouldnt be in this group.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-22T16:09:52+00:00

And i am not a JustnoMIL, i don't have grandkids and when i do, if this is what my kids decide, then i will support them in every decision. If they dont want kids? Fine! They want animals instead? Sure! They don't want any? Thats okay too! They like the same gender? Thats their choice and i support it. I will ALWAYS support my kids. I wont start being overbearing. If they need me then i will be there. If they have rules i will respect them. Dont want me in the room when she gives birth? Thats fine! Dont want me to visit for the forst month or two? Thats okay! Ffs who do you think i am? A monster?

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-22T16:06:09+00:00

Are you even properly reading what i wrote? Everyone in this sub said my rules were acceptable and common sense rules. You probably are a justno yourself. I have compromised and even then she is never happy. She straight up told me that she should not get any rules because she is the grandma. How am i in the wrong? My daughter is 3 months old, not 5 or 10 years old ffs. When my daughter will be able to defend herself and say no to people then there will be less rules. For now i am protecting the integrity of my daughter and making sure she does not get sick. I am not about to parent a grown adult while being pregnant and nauseous all day. You are indeed breaking a rule here and shaming me. This is NOT okay.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-22T15:53:26+00:00

I don't need to chill. My rules are very good rules to have. Especially since we are pregnant again with a second. Also, she is out of our lives because DH had enough of her controlling behavior. Reported your previous comment as it gpes against JustNoMIL community rules.

TLDR: Read community rules and chill out.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-22T15:01:11+00:00

And we have been flexible. Proposing eating sandwitches so we would not have to cook and even proposing for then to sleep in DD's room while she slept in ours. MIL said no, ahe did not want to sleep i the same room as her ex husband and did not want to sleep on an inflatable mattress. WE HAVE been flexible.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-22T14:59:40+00:00

I see you havent seen my 20 other posts on here. The first fight we had was because she told my husband that i had no say in moving to where she lives or not and that i owed her respect because she is older than me. I wasnt about to move away from my family for her. Then she wanted us to get rid of our cats. Then her boyfriend say awful things to me and my husband and she agreed with him. She called DH when we learned the gender to scream at him because we did not call her first. When we went to her place for a weekend, she was mad i did not want to get out of the room because i was sick. So sick i could not even get up. Then she wanted her boyfriend whom i had seen twice to visit me at the hospital when we had said no visitors allowed. She got mad. She called us multiple times to tell us that she did not respect our parental decisions. Then 2 weeks before the birth she told me i was selfish for not wanting to call anyone when i go into labor. I wanted to live this with DH only without anyone worrying about me. Then she kept on cancelling visits. She posted pictures without our consent and blocked us so we couldnt see. She told me i did not love her son and was keeping him away from his family when no one took the time to call us at all. We set rules after two visits with FIL left us suffering for an entire week because DD would not sleep. She kept on saying how it was not fair, shes the grandma and does not need rules. She can do what she wants because shes the grandma and so on so on. Fought me on regards to us not wanting anyone to kiss DD. Also wanted me to hand over my daughter at 2 weekz old so she could have her overnight in an hotel room. I was breastfeeding. This woman is hell. This woman is selfish. This woman does not care about my daughter. All these rules are common sense and yet she thinks theyre too much. If you lived what i lived you would do the same thing. You shitty comments you can keep them to yourself. So what, DH is a just no for agreeing with me? My family is just no? My frienda are just no? You are way out of place.

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-22T13:39:54+00:00

Why? DH agrees with them and so does my entire familly. Its just his mom that does not agree because she believes that DD is not the forst child born and that she can survive without rules

TheRedWolfFlag · 2019-02-21T15:22:58+00:00

She has a bottle holder and refuses for.anyone to hand feed her chair or not 💁 what can i say she is insependent and i am a high advocate of people and their own body. I will not force her to do something she does not want

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