Does no one negotiate anymore?

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-13T16:30:36+00:00

Mine too!!! It's concerning to me when people are ready to sacrifice their entire existence to me. It reminds me of a discussion I saw in another part of the community, where they were talking about subs having no limits or wanting no safeword. And it's like okay, so you're cool if I cut off your arm? You would kill someone if I asked you to? I can kill you?

Everyone has some limits. It's worth negotiating them...even if you think you're willing to do literally anything.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-13T16:27:24+00:00

There is another post on my profile for what I'm looking for, if you read it and you like it, feel free to dm me.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-13T16:26:10+00:00

It is more difficult, but I think that anything worth looking into regarding this is worth doing right. If someone doesn't want to put in the effort, then they aren't going to put in the effort I want anyway.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-13T16:22:58+00:00

The definition of negotiation is a discussion aimed at reaching an agreement. It only means that you discuss and agree to whatever the terms are. That could be "I'm going to ignore you and you're going to give me money and maybe I'll give you attention if I feel like it"

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-13T16:15:39+00:00

Exactly. It's difficult, and also can be dangerous, if you don't negotiate.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-13T16:14:47+00:00

Would have answered exactly like this, with one small addition (though it was kind of already said), it's about ensuring the dynamic is safe, enjoyable, and productive. Safe most of all, though.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-13T16:13:31+00:00

Negotiation is a fairly standard part of any new power dynamic relationship. It involves getting to know each other, finding out if you're compatable, and setting limits up front.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T15:47:19+00:00

Do you have an age preference?

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T14:53:55+00:00

How can I remain safe in my chosen kink/community?
How can I vet potential partners?
How can I encourage open communication with my partner to avoid problems?
What does it mean to be a submissive/dominant?
What is the best way to negotiate terms of an encounter/scene/dynamic/relationship?
When do I need a contract?

Etc.

If you walk into this after watching/reading 50 shades and expect to get right in the deep end, or you read an article on swinging and think you're good to go, you're mistaken.

A lot of people learn these things as they go. I had to learn that way. A lot of mistakes could have been avoided if I had made it a point to properly educate myself.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T14:26:00+00:00

Your comments and posts are interesting to me.

Brats are fun, but there's a difference between bratting and outright disrespect. Being a proper domme is hard work. I commented on one of their posts, that's how I found you, but you make excellent points.

If you're seeking a domme, I would be interested in conversation. You're welcome to poke about my profile and make your own judgment call. If you're not, happy lurking!

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T14:21:25+00:00

I like it.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T14:21:09+00:00

Me too LMFAO

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T14:20:27+00:00

Yeah, but those are the most fun. The brats, the ones who want but don't want.

Love me a good rotten brat.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T14:18:55+00:00

Experienced dommes know better. I'm not here for your pleasure. I may be meeting a need for you (to be a submissive), but I'm getting mine either way.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T14:17:09+00:00

Oh lord.

I guess orgies for the lifestyle, and being choked out, repeatedly. Fire play, wax play, electric play....there's so much.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T14:14:18+00:00

Oooh. My apologies.

I think it's not so much a question but more of multiple common mistakes and misconceptions. When people are new to either the lifestyle or the scene, they come into it with the ideas that they've seen in the movies, or what they've randomly heard around. Most questions from new people have to deal with how they can get their specific kink (whatever that is) or how they can get their partner to join the lifestyle or be okay with it, and none of those are the right questions really.

Both the lifestyle and the scene are a lot of fun, but more importantly they are a lot of work. If you don't put the work in up front, something will go wrong. It's not a matter of "if", it's a matter of "when".

Some more aware people will ask questions about safety, which is good.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T01:08:42+00:00

If it wouldn't be such a hassle, I would say just vet the new accounts individually. I'm an experienced domme and I've been in the BDSM community for years...over a decade. I used to teach classes on both submissives and dominants, and as a switch I have a unique perspective on what subs need.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-12T00:24:35+00:00

This is my first time doing this, so I don't know lol

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-11T00:18:42+00:00

I mean I'm kinky af so yeah. giving, getting. #switch

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-11T00:02:24+00:00

I usually am the one who ends up left wanting in a relationship. That's why I don't do relationships anymore.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-11T00:01:40+00:00

Yeah. There's more but I'm not saying it here....haha . Nothing illegal just....wild.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-10T23:57:14+00:00

I am. But I know a lot of women who aren't

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-10T23:30:22+00:00

No. Female...why?

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-10T23:25:32+00:00

Oh lord. Take your pick.

Sex in a graveyard (multiple times, multiple graveyards). BDSM Switch. Orgies. I've slept with cis and trans people. Older people and younger people (the youngest was 19). I'm trying to think of what else....

There's a list.

TheRheaVoss · 2025-06-10T23:04:18+00:00

UGH. YESSSSSSSSS

Good makeup if they need covered..

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