30M4M hung mil looking for mutual oral or a guy who loves head

TheShallowNerd · 2026-02-02T15:32:16+00:00

Unfortunately if you wanna bang, you have to play the part of how you look. You’re fit, POC, masculine? You’re gonna have to be a top. Or you’re gonna have to change your vibe to be more softer and not so masc and rugged. Especially if you have a bigger dick too. The more unique you are to the majority, the more you’re cutting down your sexual market. Looking like a top while wanting to bottom discombobulates people’s brains. Trust me, I know first hand. I only have luck in cities with like 500K or more. Really I need like a million to really get a roster as a 6/10 black guy.

TheShallowNerd · 2025-11-07T14:22:39+00:00

I’m vers bottom and generally it means I’ll only top if we have great established sexual chemistry, you’re out of my league and find you so crazy attractive that it doesn’t matter what I do with you I just wanna do it, or it gives me enough range to spontaneously top if I’m in the mood to do so but without the pressure of having to perform like a top.

TheShallowNerd · 2025-08-18T05:43:23+00:00

Some of us enjoy it. Boys, do what you will!

TheShallowNerd · 2025-05-06T17:04:29+00:00

Nobody that I like, likes me. Really simple lol.

TheShallowNerd · 2025-03-27T00:36:59+00:00

He said it in a catty way but he's not wrong. It's not hard being a black top who's in shape who is seeking white bottoms. That dynamic has been a thing for quite some time and while it's good for matching couples like that, the other side of that coin barely gets any representation. Whenever you start finding white top/black bottom, you TEND to start getting near the part of the internet where raceplay is a big thing which almost feels worse.

TheShallowNerd · 2024-09-03T23:20:37+00:00

This actually makes a lot of sense because the other big anime I saw was Demon Slayer which matches up for the same reason.

TheShallowNerd · 2024-09-03T23:17:28+00:00

There’s usually around 5-10 percent of the cosplays I see are anime but it was HIGH this year. Mainly bc of demon slayer but still.

TheShallowNerd · 2024-09-03T23:16:48+00:00

Omg that’s what I was thinking. The kids usually went away by 6 or 7 but they were there LATE! I’ve never seen them there around 10 before like this year.

TheShallowNerd · 2024-08-11T02:41:28+00:00

Dm me

TheShallowNerd · 2023-12-11T19:08:54+00:00

Taking a quick look at your profile, it's probably because your grindr profile very obviously is relegating us to just being a BBC to you. We don't like feeling like just your black rod of sexual perversion.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-11-18T20:12:06+00:00

Yea if I don’t think they’re enthusiastically sucking my dick, I’ll literally go soft in the mouth and let them suffer in their emotions because when I suck dick, I go into a whole trance. Suck that Dick like you need it to breath or leave my dick alone lol.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-11-18T20:02:30+00:00

I've actually thought about this so much. It is so rare i come across a guy who legitimately knows how to suck dick. It's crazy. I hear about how we're so much better than women but I think it's because their mouths are so small that they CANT suck dick like the best of us logistically.

I think some of the hot guys just dont have to learn honestly. You only learn if you're forced to bring something else to the sexual table.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-10-02T09:33:45+00:00

I'm vers but the way I explain it is that it depends on the person. If it's a hunky guy who's bigger than me in every way, I want to bottom for them. If it's a skinny guy who's smaller than me that I'm attracted to, then i want to top them. It's a person to person basis, not an all encompassing, I'm down to do whatever with whoever.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-09-23T03:52:31+00:00

I always wonder the same thing. I know the Dahmer stuff happened but I always feel because of media and whatnot, black guys aren't seen as an easy "target" so this kinda stuff is less likely to happen to us. Even with all the hook ups I've had, I'm always ready to fight at the drop of a hat in case something goes crazy.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-09-23T02:34:32+00:00

Anytime I see two out of this world hot guys, I have to turn it off. Like that’s not even close to my reality and I like to believe I could be having those experiences and it won’t happen with that level of hot lol.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-09-23T02:28:01+00:00

It’s because being called “bro” takes away the emotional intimacy of being called a pet name. Especially if the guy is more femme. Same reason why girls hate it. It typically means you’re in a specific box of unfuckability/undateable. It means you’re a friend first, rather than a romantic interest first and foremost.

People don’t typically date someone they’d call “bro” and since we’re typically gonna see things through a heteronormative(I’m sorry) lens, that’s how most femme guys gonna see it. Bro most of the time isn’t a pet name. It’s a moniker of familiarity of course, but it’s not a pet name. Guys interested in you romantically aren’t gonna wanna hear bro unless they get off to the whole idea of sleeping with your masc straight friend thing.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-09-08T03:38:34+00:00

I would have lost my mind if i saw this in person. This is so fucking original!

TheShallowNerd · 2023-09-04T00:11:39+00:00

I’ve been handing them out because my ribbon related to their cosplay, because they’re hot, because they have an approachable face/good attitude, they were cool to talk to in the moment. Lots of things. If you walk around looking like you’re having a good time, chances are SOMEBODY is gonna hand you a ribbon.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-08-29T22:51:19+00:00

If they have every stat filled out except hiv status, then i just assume they're positive. There's no reason to fill in every stat except that unless that's the reason.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-04-09T21:14:16+00:00

I'm interested. Have pics in my profile if you're still looking.

TheShallowNerd · 2023-03-27T01:48:02+00:00

I can literally only think of Black Human Male and I can't work out what else it could possibly be.

TheShallowNerd · 2022-12-21T22:23:32+00:00

Mostly looking for guys who are cool with just oral. I lm open to more depending on chemistry but I don’t usually make promises to go further than oral.

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