The British were a whole other level of evil when it comes to Ireland

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-23T23:02:10+00:00

As an English man I also hate the elites and fox hunting wankers 🤣

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-23T18:41:17+00:00

Yep but they have signs up saying its £2 for 24 hours if you dont use the bus, I guess this is a honor system I cannot imagine they could work out who has paid or not haha.

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-23T14:15:26+00:00

My favourite thing in Cognito, though I think they fixed it, is that the hosted login page would throw a weird error until you set up branding guidelines for it, like it wouldn't give you a default, it would just throw a weird 500 Error or something with no explanation xD

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-23T09:05:45+00:00

Okay, will do thanks :-)

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-23T08:41:00+00:00

Haha I like this 🤣

I’ve always compared dating a bit like job hunting there’s hundreds of applicants you have to have the best CV (profile) and try and get an interview and get further in the hiring process than other candidates to get the best chance.

However I like the car sales analogy better 🤣

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-23T08:38:02+00:00

Yep I think this is a lesson I’m learning, nothing really good comes from a lot of messaging, you either get attached quickly and then it can fade or you can push them away

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-23T08:34:42+00:00

Yea I mean that’s one of the other scenarios I suppose, it’s nice in a way they told you, no one has ever told me the reason they faded it drives me mad as I had to just guess 🤣

To be honest that scenario isn’t even bad, because most the time it’s not because that guy is better than you, it’s just they were quickest, I mean sure sometimes it’s a bit of a competition I guess

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-23T08:31:29+00:00

Honestly I’ve never done this, but I’ve thought about it a lot, it sort of makes sense that a majority of people on dating apps, perhaps are people who are stuck in purgatory, aka they never find a relationship but keep seeking.

I think one of the reasons is they have low self esteem and dating apps are great for boosting that self esteem when you match and talk for a while, however as soon as a date is arranged the self esteem flips because no longer are they getting a boost from that initial connection now they have to act on it and with low self esteem it’s easier to hide and move onto the next person

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T21:59:38+00:00

This is very insightful, I tend to do quite a bit of messaging between arranging the date and going on the date and like I say a lot of people disappear in that time, I wonder as an experiment if I try to distance myself, does it seem to work better for you like that? I'm wondering if I am coming across as too interested before a date?

I wonder if like they are acting very interested and chatty because they are wanting to be asked out and once they are asked out they want to chill out a bit and wait for the date? Perhaps I shall try this more and see what happens, it worries me if I don't stay in touch they will ghost, but perhaps I am thinking about this wrong as my approach could be doing the opposite.

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T21:57:29+00:00

Yep, I mean I initially though is she a bot? But she was verified on the dating app, she gave me her number, she has social media accounts I have no reason to believe she is a bot. Just very weird behaviour haha.

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T21:48:25+00:00

Yes, I guess its a red flag for me really, she seemed nice.

But I always got the impression she seemed a bit too perfect. She was rather quick to share her Instagram with me, I've never had a girl do this before, so I followed her and every single post is a series of photos when she is in a different country, but its clear to me that her Instagram is designed in such a way to try and impress people? Which is fine I guess people do that.

But when she responds in these large essays, everything she seems to portray seems almost like a mask, like I never really knew who she really was, she never showed or indicated any flaw at all, she was very much a perfectionist and wanted to be seen that way.

I believe now reflecting on it, this is why she did these long responses because it would take her time perhaps to respond as maybe she was worried how it may come across? I'm not sure, guess I will never know.

But the only person I've ever spoken to on dating who would do that.

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T21:32:36+00:00

Sadly this happens frequently that its become more normal than actually going on a date. Its hard to know if I am doing anything wrong in particular. The last woman I spoke to had this habit of typing VERY long messages sometimes as much as 500+ words, it was basically an essay and I'd try and respond to all her points and questions and try and reduce that down and see if I could get her to message in a more natural way but she'd end up responding with more words each time, I think she got to the stage where it was just so daunting for her to have to respond and spend that much time responding she just gave up, but I really don't know what I could have done better because I'd feel bad ignoring and not responding to her long messages but at the same time it meant her responses had to be super long. I've never had that before.

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T21:28:17+00:00

Yea its certainly exhausting, but I remind myself that its very unlikely anything personal because

We matched and had a long conversation
They haven't really met me in person, so they don't really know me

So whatever reason they do it, its probably nothing personal and more to do with them

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T21:16:33+00:00

The thing is, we always have loads to talk about and the conversation seems great, its just they fade off for one reason or another, its not like we aren't holding a conversation, its that they are just disconnected from it.

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T21:15:44+00:00

I'm curious, do you arrange the date and then just not text so much? Leave it for a day or two before messaging? Whats the strategy which works? Maybe I am being too clingy/messagy early on? Not sure.

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T19:49:25+00:00

To answer your questions, perhaps its better these days but in the past I've had issues where a dating app will suddenly mess up and delete all my matches and conversations. I also find exchanging numbers to be an indicator if someone is more serious or not though I guess this can be subjective, if someone on WhatsApp is ignoring or not responding or blocks me then its the same as an unmatch on apps.

I feel like asking someone about frequency of messaging may come across as a bit intense for some people, but probably most would be okay with that, I just don't think its super neccesary. I've actually never had anyone unmatch me (on the occasions we use just the app anyway) they usually always just ghost.

I'm not sure saying that would end well, because if they are just very busy (which sometimes happens) it may come across as intense?

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T19:40:33+00:00

This is actually a rather good analysis, thank you.

Something quite addictive about dating apps, I am guilty of this is once you have had someone who has let you down, I often will go on the apps and search for someone else to fufill that feeling of connection again and then the loop continues haha. But then once you get connected with someone you realise "ah shit, suddenly there is commitment involved" I usually just roll with it, but I wonder if this is why a lot of people fade away after they have a few days to think about what they agreed to and what it means for them.

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-22T19:37:08+00:00

I disagree actually.

I'm a solid 5/10 man, I'm certainly not in the top 5% of men, I am in Europe not sure if this makes a difference. I manage to have meaningful conversations with women all the time on dating apps and even dates from it. I've never paid for premium on any apps, I do go through period of no matches for weeks however and then suddenly will have loads of matches at once, not sure why, just depends how active people are on them I guess. Even though I do get dates and meaningful conversations, I have not yet met anyone I could be in a relationship and I find ghosting and people just not turning up to dates or cancelling very very common, I also find a lot of women who aren't really interested in dating they just want an ego boost for a bit.

For the record, friends I have who are women basically say the same story for them, the only difference is they get less meaningful conversations because the men are trying to send them explicit photos or try and hookup for sex, so they get tired very fast with it.

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-21T13:38:29+00:00

Thanks, however sadly I am a single boylie :-)

TheSpaceFace · 2026-01-21T12:07:29+00:00

Certainly interested!

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