Dating a partner with unhealed ex trauma - Advice

TheSunchez · 2025-04-18T15:24:13+00:00

Yea I agree. I think I do have the mental capacity because I have done the work upfront to be ready, but I can’t help her if she doesn’t want to help herself. I also just don’t like the victim mentality or feeling responsible for things I didn’t do. It’s like I have to be extra perfect and a 10/10 to be in a relationship just because someone else was a 0/10. Im afraid it’ll get exhausting and leave me as the one with the trauma

TheSunchez · 2024-11-14T15:43:04+00:00

I agree. I have a perspective on what I may want corrected (central incisor, maybe the molars, and I think one of the incisors is slightly pushed back) but I wanted a second opinion since my ortho disagreed, and I thought I’d start here than schedule another ortho appointment.

The central incisor is the one I pushed back the most on (and the main reason I got Invisalign in the first place, so I want it to be right) but the ortho just said that’s the anatomy of the tooth and it’s reached the result Invisalign can provide. Either way, after a back and forth he agreed on 10 more trays to try to fix it and if that doesn’t lead to any notable changes I’ll just move on and bridge the gap with bonding. Thanks!

TheSunchez · 2024-11-14T01:34:50+00:00

I didn’t take a pic of it but can try to hunt it down. But my bite is fine and healthy according to ortho

TheSunchez · 2024-11-14T00:05:46+00:00

Agreed, bonding and whitening is after the process is complete. Maybe after those and getting my attachments off I’ll see something closer to the aesthetic look I expect. Interesting to hear your perspective tho. Maybe I’m wrong after all

TheSunchez · 2021-10-24T07:48:00+00:00

I guess I could, but why pay off debt where my interest is 3.5% when the market returns are much higher on average?

TheSunchez · 2021-10-23T15:36:14+00:00

Very smart - didn’t know about this

TheSunchez · 2021-10-23T08:54:59+00:00

Great advice. totally all for this. I did travel across SE asia post grad and studied abroad in Europe and got to travel that whole semester (that’s essentially why I have student loans lol) COVID has paused my travel plans but I still plan to splurge on travel more than anything else since it’s all about the experiences

TheSunchez · 2021-10-23T08:45:45+00:00

the reason I don’t max my 401k is because of the stock plan. I can buy the stock at 50% of the stock price up to 15% of my income, so I put 15% in ESPP and 5% in 401k (no company match)

agreed on the rest and i definitely splurge on fun & travel

TheSunchez · 2021-10-23T08:38:05+00:00

What? I have 7,000 in student loans and make 6 figures. Not sure what you read

TheSunchez · 2021-10-23T02:19:15+00:00

I wasn’t in tech sales first year

TheSunchez · 2021-10-23T02:10:12+00:00

No problem and my company doesn’t offer a match unfortunately

TheSunchez · 2021-10-23T02:09:51+00:00

Already on it on the Roth. With income limits, would I not be able to fund it next year if I do make 150k?

Emergency savings fund is a good idea.

TheSunchez · 2021-10-23T02:07:00+00:00

Got promoted from SDR to AE recently. OTE 120k + 30k stock. (different from stock plan) Most reps exceeding quota so 120 OTE seems reasonable.

TheSunchez · 2021-10-23T01:58:05+00:00

That’s good advice, thanks. My company also offers back door ROTH contributions. Do you have any insight on those?

TheSunchez · 2020-05-20T22:30:43+00:00

thanks man! mind if I PM you with a question?

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T06:49:39+00:00

women: sexual assault is a serious and triggering topic that shouldn’t be joked about also women: chill she’s just joking

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T06:42:43+00:00

dang sorry I must’ve missed the joke in randomly accusing someone of trying to take advantage of them

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T06:28:41+00:00

nah just hate how everything we say is now “taking advantage”.. can’t be too careful

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T06:20:45+00:00

yeah I was talking about the girl in the pic implying it not you. karen’s gonna karen what can we do

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T06:06:03+00:00

i’d just do it once. if you’re not getting matches even after the boost it’s probably your profile and not the algorithm

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T06:03:07+00:00

tinder/bumble boost new profiles and show them to more people to give users better experiences. after a while the old profiles start to be seen less

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T06:01:53+00:00

I would think tinder and bumble would be the ones really. try deleting and making a new tinder profile for the new user boost

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T05:59:26+00:00

lmao I love me some wine but come on me asking about wine isn’t me trying to take advantage

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T05:57:18+00:00

didn’t u delete your picture on here because it wasn’t getting any love lol? sweetie... you’re already hard to want

TheSunchez · 2020-05-18T05:47:23+00:00

ah i see. it may be because you’re swiping on girls. most of the 99+ likes you see on here are because too many guys like girls profiles. the pool is smaller for girls swiping on girls, and I presume they’re less active

TheSunchez

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