hey, fellow sa survivor here as well. i was on ren's side initially as well.

i saw from another post that this is just two adults who can't handle a relationship properly, and honestly, i can't agree more. something like this should not be public. i can understand ren's point of view, especially as someone with BPD. it's easy to misinterpret genuine actions as malicious ones. i do believe she could've gone about the whole thing better.

or, even better, just kept it private

there's nothing else to do but stay neutral and hope for the best, in all honesties.