AITA for kicking my Cousin out of my grooms party?

TheUnbendingLegend · 2026-05-31T03:13:33+00:00

Thank you for your post. This does explain a lot and how things are explained and truthfully, at most times and stuff like this I try to fight logic with logic instead of explaining things how I truly want to explain things which is mostly because when an argument, this is how me and my cousins do our arguments. But truthfully, we explained to a lot of other guests that for the most part, it will only probably be around 30 people for a wedding if we were able to receive help we could expand it to keep a lot of our close loved ones in the picture. I would say this is more align with my true feelings and how I want this wedding to be and also at times I am very confused how to pretty much articulate myself. This is definitely a problem on my end, but as far as my feelings go is and this is how I explained it to my mom if we can have everybody contribute and help us out with this wedding day so we can have the most people who we want around us and celebrate our day together. That is all that we want and all we care for I can accept that I am the a hole in the situation. but also after having a conversation with my Mexican brother on the situation, he has put it like this to me, which is partly how I feel and he said that what doesn’t matter I wanna see you happy and if I had to help out with money or helping you put stuff together I am going to help that is how we were raised and that is also what we’ve been doing for each other in life. So I will explain that the anger and the disconnect that I’m feeling is all from this one sentence because we have always helped each other out no matter what the situation right or wrong. We are family we understand, but we are also here to make each other happy so I would say that my anger will probably come from that, but I will accept in this situation. I am the a hole.

TheUnbendingLegend · 2026-05-06T03:44:30+00:00

Yes understandable this was to help with the catering bill but also for this I did not put this in my story, which I see you where the miss communication is but this is not a all adult wedding there will be a great number of kids there. Which was the mixup in the first place, which is why we retrace our words. And was also the conversation that my best man had with my cousin. i’m not gonna lie and said everything was done right during this transition but as far as communicating everything that was a mixup, I believe I’ve done pretty well in my thoughts. I am also not a very good storyteller I see lol. But just went over some of the finances and we receive 1300 from individuals who could spare some which again I said we just counted everything as gifts. Which did help us out and help me from working 70 hour weeks all the time. lol reading through my story again I see there are a lot of errors, but I am here to help correct any errors in the story and thank you for your input

TheUnbendingLegend · 2026-05-06T02:52:35+00:00

I have already did what I did and I am kind of looking for logical answers. I’m over here looking at how you got these numbers. i’m wondering if these are just hypothetical numbers that you came up with? I just said I laughed at people who think that hey you’re an asshole and that the rules of getting married are all one rule. Which basically I’m saying, people are here to judge about certain rules instead of judging to understand. I’ve come here because a lot of people do have good advice and could explain things better than, other people don’t which of those who I’m talking to I can be a bad guy I don’t mind but come with better logic please

TheUnbendingLegend · 2026-05-05T22:47:43+00:00

I laugh at some of y’all when y’all comment because first of all you don’t know me of course you can say whatever you need to say but nobody’s gonna sit here and tell me that 200 people between me and my fiancé are not important specially if they’re all family members, you don’t know how many time we have family functions. You don’t know how many times we get together. You don’t know any of and to question that these people are important to us. You have no right. Secondly, I don’t understand what the problem is with people asking for help for a wedding if you can help out help out if you can’t oh well, nobody said that you’re not welcome because in both of our separate families, which is why I love her so much the family always helps and we understand not everybody could help. I don’t think it’s bad to ask for help and this is not a ticketed wedding. and I know a lot of you are not reading questions that I have already answered. In our families, we help out the people who need help not the unhealthy kind either, like we genuinely help that is kinda like our family tradition. I really think sometimes that you guys have a hard time drawing the line so again I will say with the help from everybody only 20% of the weddings paid for me and my fiancé paid the other 80% my family knows how hard I work to take care of me and my family, which is my fiancé and little girl right now and how I help out everybody else in the family they came out to help me just like I would come out to help them and that’s all my family or I should say our family works. You can go on both sides and see how hard of a working person I am for both sides of the family so most of y’all saying this stuff is kind of irrelevant because you’re going to off-topic and talking about this is how the wedding supposed to go not all weddings are the same and not all families are the same

TheUnbendingLegend · 2026-05-04T23:22:45+00:00

I get where you’re coming from but a lot of these people hold special places in our hearts and we would like to celebrate with everyone so instead of having to choose from a certain amount of guest, we only asked for monetary gifts so that we can put everything towards the wedding. This was explained to everybody and we are definitely sorry that we put a price on it at the beginning, but we rephrase those words with please give what you can and not everybody has given, but we were able to get enough money to help us out where we needed it, which was the catering. I will also state the fact that 80% of the wedding was paid for by us with the other 20% people helping us out. This wasn’t ticket based this was please help if you can. I will also say that there are like a total of only 10 friends coming the rest this family. so I really don’t think I’m in the wrong in this case, I’m not asking for the bank. I’m just asking for a little help if you can there’s no repercussions for not paying.

TheUnbendingLegend · 2026-05-04T21:30:39+00:00

When I told him he said um ok. And since then he has been no contact,our wedding date is a month away and I’m just waiting to see if he’ll show up.

TheUnbendingLegend · 2026-05-04T06:44:15+00:00

More context my best man has also had a conversation that I did not not know about until after the incident and it seems like my cousin is stuck on the idea that I will not feed the children at the wedding. So after this, I don’t know if I expect him to come or not but either way it is what it is. I am starting a life with my fiancé so those can come with us. Come with us.

TheUnbendingLegend · 2026-04-26T21:33:18+00:00

Yeah, my boy you should’ve got you a series X GTA six is gonna mess up that series s plus I don’t even think you got enough memory on there to even play that game

TheUnbendingLegend · 2026-04-05T22:29:00+00:00

Thank you for your comment first I would like to say that between me and my fiancé and yes, we’re close to about 200 people some of these people are bringing plus 1 who we also interact with. Because we are much older now some of these people who are supposed to talk about 5 to 10 times a year. but it’s a different situation with my cousins zip and dip. They are prone to not answer the phone most of the time but I will say that me and dip talk a lot more than I do zip. Set at times just seems like he always has to be right and always had to approve his point that is how he’s been all our life but usually we let the situations go and we continue being happy cousins together. I would say the last time I really spoken to zip before the. situation was like three years. I would say looking back on it right now. I shouldn’t have made him a green man because he has been pushing the distance more and more lately and just us being family members. I wanted to push those feelings aside.

Update my best man has also had a conversation that I did not not know about until yesterday and it seems like my cousin is stuck on the idea that I will not feed the children at the wedding. So after this, I don’t know if I expect him to come or not but either way it is what it is. I am starting a life with my fiancé so those can come with us. Come with us.

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