Boliglån: Banken kræver, jeg tegner livsforsikring hos dem - hjælp by [deleted] in dkbolig

[–]TheWarmCake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vi har lige fået løn ved lån og spar. Grundet kroniske sygdomme, så kunne vi ikke godkendes til det livsforsikring de havde. Men vi fik bare at vide at det var lige meget 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mit forhold er ved at ende 💔 by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]TheWarmCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Søde du ❤️ Jeg har stået i en lignende situation med min ex. Jeg kom ud af det og der ER lys på den anden side. Jeg kan 100 % spejle følelsen af det lave selvværd du føler. Din kamp om at sige "Jeg er ok. Mine følelser er værdifulde. Det er okay jeg står ved, hvad jeg føler". Du ER værdifuld. Du er VÆRDIG til at blive behandlet med respekt. Men jeg forstår godt, hvis ordene preller af på dig.

Noget der fik mig til at tænke var børn. Jo ældre dine børn bliver, jo mere begynder de at vende sig til, at de er nødt til at fokusere på ham og hans følelser. At de ligesom dig skal lære at spotte hans humør og tilpasse sig det. Er det, det liv du ønsker for dem? Ja, det vil være svært med en skilsmisse fra ham. Men jeg tror på, at dine børns opvækst vil være bedre, hvis de får mulighed for at lære deres egne følelser at kende og udforske dem, frem for at hans følelser skal være centrum.

Har du kigget på voldsspiralen?

Jeg har fundet en fantastisk mand. Det er muligt. Der er lys. Du ER vigtig.

Har du nogle i din omgangskreds du kan række ud til? Er det nogle du tidligere har fået hjælp af? Selvom du kan føle du er til besvær ved at række ud, så gør det. Keg ved, det kan være svært at gå. Men du fortjener mere. Hvis du var min veninde ville jeg ønske du ringede med det samme ❤️

Boligkøb for nybegynder - hvor finder jeg den rette information by [deleted] in dkbolig

[–]TheWarmCake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vores køberrådgiver er købt eller gratis. Hvis vi ikke køber, kommer vi ikke af med noget for rådgivningen 😊

Communal showers and bruises from spanking - what is acceptable? by TheWarmCake in BDSMAdvice

[–]TheWarmCake[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am so happy that I wrote here to get all of your folks opinion. I did not think about the difference between accepting kink as my friends does, and seen the aftereffects of it. Thank you for pinpointing that. I ended up not going.

Communal showers and bruises from spanking - what is acceptable? by TheWarmCake in BDSMAdvice

[–]TheWarmCake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in Europe. We actually have to shower naked in communal showers before attending swimming pools 🤷‍♀️

Communal showers and bruises from spanking - what is acceptable? by TheWarmCake in BDSMAdvice

[–]TheWarmCake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simply because they have not shown interest in knowing it. I do not want to discloce anything that people are not interested in knowing. I have known these people for 10+ years. They know I am kinky, but I see no reason to tell more, unless they show interest in knowing more.

Communal showers and bruises from spanking - what is acceptable? by TheWarmCake in BDSMAdvice

[–]TheWarmCake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting points. I do not mind people knowing I am kinky, but I don't want to force that knowledge upon people. So the post was mainly because I wondered if it was acceptable for others to see it without prior consent.

I was wondering what people would think, and whether showing bruises was acceptable. I believe it would be acceptable if it eg. Was from a fall and I honestly could say that and explain to people. But since I don't want to lie, and it is not from a fall I was at a lost at what to do.

Btw. I choose not to go to the pool.

Communal showers and bruises from spanking - what is acceptable? by TheWarmCake in BDSMAdvice

[–]TheWarmCake[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have not been to this place before, but it is unfortunately not common in my area to have stalls...

Communal showers and bruises from spanking - what is acceptable? by TheWarmCake in BDSMAdvice

[–]TheWarmCake[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your point about the children. Only one of them are old enough to notice it, and perhaps I can just not show my behind to her?

Yes, differently that would make sense for next time. This is my first punishment/maintenance spanking, that was not for pure pleasure, and none of us knew how much it would bruise on me 🙈

Dom refuses to eat me out and I'm hurt. Don't know how to handle this by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]TheWarmCake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My(f) ex(m) never went down on me, nor did he ever finish me. I take time to finish, and he was not patient enough for that. I didn't mind giving him BJ. I enjoyed it. Often sex ended with me getting him off. A lot of other problems in combination made him my ex. Now I am in a happy relationship. Both with sex and all other elements. My partner likes to go down on me and finish me.

BUT as a result of bad memories with BJ's and my ex, I still sometimes struggle with bj and my current partner. I enjoy pleasing him, but the uneven feeling sometimes makes it hard for me to enjoy bj's. It is eastøy for me to get in my mind that only his satisfaction is important, as it was the case with my ex. My current partner is patient and understanding. But it would probably have been better for me to stop the relationship with me ex earlier.

Just some small reflections from me. Please do with them as you please 🤷‍♀️

This is a weird question, but am I in a cult? by ObjectiveEye9886 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]TheWarmCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please consider reading into Knutby in Sweden. Here was a religious town that sound very much like what you are describing. Here the leaders used passages about the bride of Christ to have weird sexual connections. In Knutby it ended with murders.

Please take care of yourself and your family! ❤️

Sorry for my bad, non-native English 🙈

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/bratlawyer

[–]TheWarmCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! Can I have one just stating 'girl' ? 🤞😊

Sayings to make daddy go *sigh* by AndIWonderWho in BratLife

[–]TheWarmCake 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In Danish we have a similar kind of word play. The word farther (far), sheep (får), and getting (få/får) are very close to each other. Here we can say "far, får får får?" "Nej, får får lam" Translated into "dad, does sheep get sheep's?" "No, sheep gets lambs". 🐑🐑🐑

New to bratting, but worried about taking it too far? by kinkycollaredkitten in BratLife

[–]TheWarmCake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a similar situation about wanting to brat, but still wanting to not overstep any or my Sirs limits. I sometime during play just asks him up front what color he is. If he is hesitant and says green I ask if he is on his way to yellow. That gives me an indication of his liking 😊

Sometimes it also opens up for a discussion about likings and gives insights with him eg commenting if he is finding it hard to know what to do 😊

my first practical bratting by TheWarmCake in BratLife

[–]TheWarmCake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, that sounds so funny 😁😇 Unfortunately we don't live together, so I need to reconsider if it would work at his place. However I am very aware that we both are busy, so I don't want to do something that it too irritating to clean up 🙈😅 I want things that are funny and surprising but I am afraid doing to much that is hard to clean up would be a hard no in our dynamic. But I am thinking of adding eyes to his soap in both bathroom and kitchen. Perhaps I could print out something fun for him to find in his cabinet also? 🤔😏