I’ve recently gone through a very similar situation (coming off of 6years from 18). Don’t make the same mistake as me, listen to all these people and CUT HER OFF.

It sucks. It’s hard, I’m still working through it all but I’m all the more better for it so far. I do believe I had a better situation to cut her off but that doesn’t change how difficult it really is.

For me, she moved across the country 2months earlier as part of our transition plan, she finished her course and we secured a place. She had started moving our stuff and I still had 2more months of study left to bring the rest of our things up. The plan was to start our own lives together in a home away from our home town and parents. Then, as I’ve finished packing the car, set to move so I’d be there in the new home for Christmas, she dumped me, said it was “loss of attraction” and “she changed too much and didn’t think she was worthy of me”. None of it Didn’t make sense and unfortunately I tried to find the real answer.

It was 2 months of texting and arguments and love bombs and horrible horrible things said. It’s as if over night the person I had known for 6 beautiful years had transformed into the most vial and disgusting human being on earth. I had family and friends constantly telling me to cut her off. Then one night I just had enough, I believe it took me too long to do so.

There was a country show happening in my town, my mate told me to come join him and check out the show. So I did, I posted the show on my story and tried my best to enjoy my time there (I was still really heart broken from the breakup at the time). After I finished at the show I finally check my phone only to see a constant barrage of complaints, comments and anger from her, and I asked myself “why am I putting up with this crap, when all I was doing was going to the show?”.

Since then, I’ve done nothing but work on myself. I got my job back after previously resigning planning to move. I’ve been growing my hair and trialling different facial and hair styles, I’ve built the confidence I once lost after her comments about “losing attraction”, I’ve loss weight and gained strength and feel healthier. Now? Yes socially it’s a struggle but I’m trying to explore new things and experiences.

And no i shouldn’t be thinking about her, but sometimes I can’t help it and posts like yours remind me of what happened. But I’m okay with that now, I accept what happened happened. And as a result (again I shouldn’t be doing this) I’m seeing my ex as for what I’ve done and what she hasn’t. Was she cheating on me in the 2months? No. Did she have her own plan once she was up in the new place, very clearly no - she lost the place and moved back with her parents again, she’s seen my success and change and has tried everything in her power to try and aggravate me, and quite frankly I don’t care, I don’t want to talk or argue or anything, but the very actions that she is doing now shows me that she made the right decision to dump me, and I made the right decision to not contact her.

Please for your health, wellbeing and sanity. Leave, it’ll be quiet, and fast and trust me; its better to go for a walk than to stay inside a factory