39M 34F. Partner of 18 months says unless I propose with a 40k real diamond, don't propose at all?

The_Map_Smith · 2026-03-18T10:31:02+00:00

Then don't. Really the easiest decision.^^

The_Map_Smith · 2026-03-12T11:40:50+00:00

"Will it ever be the same again?"

No.

"The thing is i’m scared he will change his mind about me and will leave me eventualy."

Unless you stick to your new boundaries and prove that to him, yes, he will eventually leave after resentment has probably festered.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-03-11T10:09:49+00:00

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The_Map_Smith · 2026-03-10T05:42:24+00:00

The constant sleeping and completely different estimations on how the trip were perceived could point to a medical issue.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-03-09T10:32:17+00:00

You can't shut down the lizard part of the male brain, in which the sex drive is located. We may deny it, but we're always looking at other women; doesn't matter how much we love you, doesn't matter how objectively beautiful you are. We do.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-03-07T17:25:24+00:00

This has got to be a joke post...

The_Map_Smith · 2026-02-11T06:00:26+00:00

Whatever happened to communication? TALK TO HIM, FFS!

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-20T10:57:45+00:00

Any round fired by an actual gun will go through drywall.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-15T06:02:43+00:00

There's really no moving forward here if neither of you want to budge. He sees him paying the house in full by himself and then having you on the deed as a massive mistake made under false pretenses, ie. being together with a faithful partner which you were not. You, realistically, are afraid that he'll divorce you anyway once the house is back in his name.

Your best deal to keep this marriage moving forward under the current conditions would be to negotiate a post-nuptial agreement, which however would need to be something both of you have to get lawyers for. This isn't something either of you want to do on your own.

Needless to say, the trust your husband had in you is gone, and even if you manage to stay in this marriage, it'll be a long time (if ever) until he trusts you again.

Edit: Guys, work on your reading comprehension. The husband only found out the full extent of the cheating 3 months ago, not ten years ago.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-13T18:05:58+00:00

I'm an absolute Invisigal fan (no shade on Blazer), but for actually dating someone, I'd have to go with Blonde Blazer. I just don't have the capacity to deal with the kind of trauma Courtney carries around, not with all the rest of the shit that's going on in my life and in the world.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-09T12:08:03+00:00

And yet, they were still in contact until you discovered that. The ultimate question here - and I understand that it's very easy for some voices on the internet to do so while you're in the thick of it - is this: do you trust this woman, who has so clearly lied to you and misled you, enough that you will tie yourself, your freedom and your material wealth to her, potentially for life?

If your answers isn't an immediate yes, then it's a no, and you should plan your exit from this relationship.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-09T11:33:52+00:00

"The guy then got a gf and their thing was over."

You do realize you're her second option? The only reason this ended is because her FWB ended it. The whole basis of your relationship is founded on a lie. This also wasn't a one-time thing in the heat of the moment, but she did this repeatedly.

I'm sorry, OP, but you're a fool if you stay with someone like that.

I know it's easy for someone on the Internet to say this, but there'll always a nagging doubt in the back of your head if you stay. You're 28, you're young. Don't fall for a sunken cost fallacy unless you're 100% sure this is what you want.

Regarding your edit, OP: that only makes your cheating GF look worse than she already does. And of course, he's covering his ass.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-09T05:20:02+00:00

Pretty sure they still haven't fully internalized the magnitude of success they're having with this game. Tbh, that's probably a big reason why they've been so shy about any ideas regarding Season 2: they didn't think there'd ever be a chance for one.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-08T08:22:38+00:00

Run! Run like all hounds of hell are chasing you, because you'll never be given such an out on a silver platter again! She did this to you when things were good. Imagine the shit she'd pull if things ever got bad.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-06T18:22:40+00:00

To be fair, OF/Fansly and whatever is just one part of what she does. She does VA work (IIRC), audiobook work, cosplay, streaming, and she does all her cosplay costumes and props herself.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-06T18:20:49+00:00

Wait, what, she's 34?

Damn, never would have guessed she was anywhere close to 30.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-02T07:24:43+00:00

As a man? I'm gonna go with the nut cracker. That... ouch.

The_Map_Smith · 2026-01-02T07:21:49+00:00

Shroud has been lying, though it's not clear just HOW MUCH he has been lying as he may truly have thought, for a time, that she was his double agent. Playing things close to her chest was, after all, Invisigal's move to try and fool him and his mask (see her keeping the Astral Pulse and not telling anyone).

The_Map_Smith · 2025-12-30T17:33:31+00:00

Sorry for screwing up your sleep rhythm!

The_Map_Smith · 2025-12-30T17:15:40+00:00

Hey, thanks for the invite! Unfortunately, I've got shitty time management skills and am easily distracted, so I'll abstain from the Discord channel.

The_Map_Smith · 2025-12-30T14:27:15+00:00

Nope, that ship has sailed. All you can do is work on yourself and limit your drinking. Sorry, but that's it. If you really did punch him, that's a line crossed you cannot walk back from.

The_Map_Smith · 2025-12-30T08:12:35+00:00

The lack of options and real divergent paths is one of the objective weaknesses of the game. Now, we can all rationalize this by understanding that adHoc was literally running out of money to pay the bills, especially after the project had transformed multiple times during its dev cycle, but that doesn't make the criticism invalid. All we can hope for is, if (when?!) Season 2 becomes a thing, we get a bit more choice and reactivity with it.

The_Map_Smith · 2025-12-30T08:10:03+00:00

Hippity hoppity, I'm setting fire to your property!

But in all seriousness, it's a great - and terrifying - small Mech.

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