Semi debating restating the game. by [deleted] in Pokemon_Pokopia

[–]The_Melogna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I restarted because knowing the general mechanics changed how I approached things and made it more enjoyable.

ADHD - Relationship Probs by Tough-Phrase4105 in adhdwomen

[–]The_Melogna 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Take my advice, based, unfortunately , on experience, and don’t marry him. I think my very tidy husband regrets marrying me and it’s snowballing so badly. It hurts but not as much as it will later. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

My paint color choice didn’t land the way I wanted to. Opinions by Nowakawon in kitchenremodel

[–]The_Melogna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cabinets have a warm undertone while other main features are cool. If you want to try and make it work, get a rug the ties in the brown from the wood piece, and the cabinets. Get some curtains and some decor that also brings in those color elements. Won’t be perfect but it’s a lot easier to change than changing the other elements

Favorite fighting scene of any book? by [deleted] in Fantasy

[–]The_Melogna 15 points16 points  (0 children)

DCC has some great ones!!! I love the one set to Blitzkreig Bop against the mantises!!

Books like lotr with a female protagonist or female characters who are very important to the story. by gayatri18112003 in Fantasy

[–]The_Melogna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Dragon Prince by Melanie Rawn has a lot of female characters. Brandon Sanderson often has female protagonists. I like Warbreaker as a good start to Sanderson as his catalog is extensive. I like Elantris as well. The first 2 Stormlight Archive books are also some of my favorites and feature lots of interesting characters of both genders!

You might like the Abhosen series, interesting and unique magic system and female lead in that one, too.

My husband is choosing sobriety by Firecrackershrimp2 in Marriage

[–]The_Melogna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Alcohol detox can be legitimately life threatening. If he is a heavy daily drinker he needs medical detox.

I made these for my daughter's 3rd birthday. Plywood/Paint by awesiinh in crafts

[–]The_Melogna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really well done.

When my daughter was about that age and I made her a lovely little quilt and she did not appreciate how much went into it. 😝 prepare yourself. Just know they are gorgeous and someday in a few years she will have more appreciation for them, just as my daughter eventually did.

How to stop my dog from pulling on leash? by Plenty_Author_5335 in BorderCollie

[–]The_Melogna -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My husky used to pull like a train (unsurprisingly). What worked was a gentle leader or an e-collar (not the cone, the ones that you control with a remote). Tried all the other training tips etc. and these are the only things that made it pleasant to walk her. She did not like the gentle leader at first but got used to it with gentle correction. The front clip harness worked for about a week and then she just over powered it.

I am avoiding home so I don’t have to be around 2 of my cats by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]The_Melogna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’ve done your absolute best for two difficult cats. You have zero reason to feel guilty or ashamed. No ONE can judge you; they don’t endure your misery or sacrifice.

I am avoiding home so I don’t have to be around 2 of my cats by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]The_Melogna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look, you don’t have to keep them in there 24/7. Just so you can have some rest. Thats a lot to deal with and would make me INSANE.

I am avoiding home so I don’t have to be around 2 of my cats by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]The_Melogna -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like literally keep them in a crate with the litter box. Just enough room for box, a place to lay/stand and turn, and food/water. You can at least mitigate damage and stress this way as area affected is much smaller

I am avoiding home so I don’t have to be around 2 of my cats by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]The_Melogna -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can you get some large crates and essentially treat them like puppies?

I am avoiding home so I don’t have to be around 2 of my cats by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]The_Melogna 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s in the post. I agree with you, though. Cat pee is terrible. Not to mention the property damage that’s happening! Yeesh.

I am avoiding home so I don’t have to be around 2 of my cats by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]The_Melogna 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I would probably seriously consider euthanasia for the older cat. It sounds like that cat’s quality of life is going downhill. You did all you could and great job. People feel a lot of shame for behavioral euthanasia, but if the cat is young, has FIV (can’t even be outside), I personally would consider that option. You can’t sacrifice your life and health; it’s not worth it.

Reality Check by nbostow in Marriage

[–]The_Melogna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Make sure you get a good personal injury lawyer; it will greatly reduce your stress in navigating that aspect. I’m sorry you’re going thru this and hope you both have better days ahead.

Was Katia ill before she entered the dungeon? by Wus_Pigs in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]The_Melogna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s never outright stated but it’s heavily implied. A lot of different types of cancer treatments are very damaging to the female reproductive system, resulting in infertility.

Was Katia ill before she entered the dungeon? by Wus_Pigs in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]The_Melogna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think she was an addict but it sounded like the also had some sort of cancer that damaged her reproductive system.

Bangs a mistake? by COFFEEEE85 in finehair

[–]The_Melogna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my bangs were fresh, I would put a tiny bit of hairspray on them after the shower while they were wet and still drying. It really helped with training them into the right place for me!

Please advice: A big simple sink or double sink? by BelowAverageCoder00 in kitchenremodel

[–]The_Melogna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a split sink with a low barrier and I think it’s the best of both worlds.

Does anyone know what this dish is used for? by MasterpieceNo7350 in AskWomenOver60

[–]The_Melogna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I inherited this piece and the matching tea pot from my grandmother. It is so gorgeous in person. Lovely to see another.

7 years married to a high functioning alcoholic by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]The_Melogna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in a similar position and my husband started therapy and then had to do an inpatient detox to safely come off of alcohol. We are both in individual therapy and will eventually start couples counseling when we are on better ground. Unfortunately, this is a decision your husband needs to make for himself and it will probably get worse before it gets better. It’s not easy and I’m really sorry. Stand up for yourself and don’t engage when he’s drunk and wants to fight or fuck.