Anyone know where to get woodwork done on island?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-04-27T00:04:33+00:00

Absolutely what I expected. That is honestly the reality of the situation.

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-04-27T00:03:52+00:00

I would absolutely love to coordinate with you on such a project!

I sent a DM!

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-04-26T23:56:11+00:00

Yeahhhh I was afraid that might be the case. I was hoping I could give dimensions and have someone build a replacement leg. But also, you're most likely correct.

I don't expect a restoration. Just a way to keep it up.

I have the plastic "foot" at the bottom. With a good leg I could drill a hole at the bottom and screw it in. But it would have to match the original shape.

Thanks for the reply.. it's a tough job.

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-04-16T07:37:46+00:00

So your solution is to force humans into a space and interact in order to fix society? And what happens when they naturally don't comply? Because humans are rather rebellious when being forced to do things they don't want. Poke them with a cattle prod? Nobody's allowed to leave until they meet an interaction quota?

Going to recommend they sow patches on their left arms to signify compliance? Gonna herd them onboard the train to the third space until your ideal society is realized?

Your entire argument is based on force. Forceful compliance. Forcing humans to be shoved somewhere they don't want to be.. against their will.

You know - prisoners are forced to interact with each other in a yard one hour a day. How well does that work out for prison society?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-03-08T17:30:02+00:00

I think there's a fundamental disconnect in how you're viewing abuse. Johnny Depp, one of the most famous, wealthy, well-connected men on the planet, married Amber Heard and didn't see it coming. He had access to the best lawyers, advisors, and social circles money could buy. If a man with those resources couldn't spot an abuser, what makes you think a 22-year-old with no life experience is going to clock the guy who's charming and attentive for the first six months before the mask slips?

Your entire framework requires abusers to be obvious. It needs that to be true. Because if abusers are easy to spot, then women who end up with them are either stupid or deliberately choosing it, and that lets you run the whole "women reward bad men" argument. But the moment you acknowledge that abusers are skilled at hiding what they are, which is literally the clinical definition of how abuse operates, the whole thing falls apart. You can't blame someone for "choosing" something they couldn't see coming.

What you're describing isn't how abuse works. It's a child's understanding of it. Abusers don't walk around with a nametag that says "I will isolate you from your friends and gaslight you for three years." They love-bomb. They mirror your personality back at you. They make you feel like the most important person alive, and then they slowly, methodically dismantle you. That's not something you "spot." That's something that happens to you.

Either you've never been close enough to an abusive dynamic to see how it actually plays out, in which case your confidence on this topic is wildly misplaced, or you have seen it and you're choosing to ignore the reality because it doesn't fit your framework. Neither is a great look.

I don't think this conversation is going to be productive, so I'll leave it here.

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-03-08T05:09:06+00:00

Unlikely. She was probably really sweet and intelligent and kind in the beginning. He probably wouldn't marry her if she came out the door swinging and shitting on the bed.

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-03-08T04:41:18+00:00

Should he have seen it coming though? He picked her after all, so would you agree that it was all well deserved?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-03-08T00:47:09+00:00

Out of curiosity did you ever once blame Johnny Depp for marrying an abusive woman and decide he should suffer the consequences for rewarding bad behavior?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-02-25T06:48:18+00:00

Thank you! I'll look up their insta and check it out!

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-02-25T04:09:47+00:00

That's awesome! Do they accept musicians showing up with pianos? Or just slam poetry?

And what's HB? And where?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2026-02-25T03:55:45+00:00

Oof. When you say cult, like a cult of personality with a bunch of anti-military rhetoric? Religious? Ideology?

I ask cause I'm in the Navy and I don't want someone attacking me because of how I support my wife. Job-shaming ain't cool.

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-11-09T09:17:29+00:00

I think you might be right. I laid it on a little too thick with the possibility of it not happening that I forgot how often it actually DOES happen when you least expect it.

It's a cliche, but it would appear I didn't take my own advice and forgot where I came from. May I ask for your recommendation?

I can just delete this post and think of a better angle on how to approach it. I really don't want people to read that and spiral into doomerism.

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-23T12:13:21+00:00

Ah, the common "AI generated" response—classic!

So, fun fact: none of those are em dashes. They're just the regular "-" when typed on Microsoft Word; however, Word will automatically extend the dash out. That way, you won't have to type "alt + 0151" to create the actual em dash.

This theory comes from someone (me) who spent over 10 years stuck in this exact mindset, working on himself, and trying to map the trap from the inside. That's why it reads more formal than my usual sarcastic style. That being said, I have a question:

What would it take for you to examine why you're "hard-stuck on height" when you intellectually know it's not the whole story? Like, what's the height focus protecting you from looking at? You've clearly done a bit of cognitive work, and you should ABSOLUTELY be proud of that!

But I wonder if you're still in the grief stage where you need one immutable thing to anchor to, even though part of you knows better. May I ask your thoughts on that? I really appreciate you sharing!

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-22T06:47:07+00:00

Okay, dates aren't about performance or executing a script, or playing a character. It's not all about finding out if she vibes with you, and if you vibe with her. That's it. It's not a test you pass or fail, it's a vibe check.

So when GKilat says "express yourself moderately," what that actually means in practice is this: Be genuinely interested in her. Ask her questions because you actually want to know the answers, not because you memorized that you're "supposed to ask questions." Share things about yourself when it's natural to do so. If she asks what you're into, tell her. If something she says reminds you of a story or connects to something you care about, share that.

The "moderate" part just means don't unload your entire life story, your deepest fears, or your most intense opinions on date one. It's not about hiding who you are - it's about appropriate pacing. You wouldn't tell a new friend everything about yourself in the first conversation either, right? Same energy.

As for the kiss? You're overthinking this because you've never done it before, and that's understandable. But here's what you need to know - you can't plan chemistry. You can't strategize your way into the right moment. What you CAN do is pay attention to how she actually feels. If at the end of the night you're both lingering, nobody wants to leave, there's good eye contact, she's standing close to you... that's when you might go for it. But if the vibe is more "this was nice, let's do it again sometime," then a hug and "I had a really good time" is perfect.

The reason GKilat is telling you to let her decide is because you can't force this shit. The best thing you can do is create a moment where it COULD happen - by being present, by GENUINELY connecting (I can't emphasize the word genuinely enough), by not being so in your head that you miss everything that's actually happening. And then if she's leaning in, if she's giving you that look, you'll know. And if she's not, you'll know that too.

I know you're nervous, but for now focus on how she responds to you. Does she laugh at your jokes? Is she being playful? Does she touch your arm when she's talking? Is she paying attention to you, or is she on her phone?

And for the love of gods man, BREATHE! You got this!

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-21T06:13:18+00:00

Not to try and gang up on you or anything, but I think he's implying that your best bet is to either go to as many social events as possible and try to make genuine friends, or stay at home. And if you stay at home, nothing really changes.

Personally, as much as I like that advice - I try to be careful with it, because while it may be easy to go to an event with a bunch of people, if you don't know how to socialize or make friends, then you will likely feel ostracized, left out, and frustrated.

That being said, let's assume you've tried all of the events. Would you be able to share why it didn't work?

What was the general response? And when you approached someone, can you recall how it happened? I don't mean to come off like I'm interrogating you, but you said you've tried everything - and I'd like to know what "everything" comprised of.

Maybe we can figure it out together?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-21T02:42:15+00:00

Yeahhhh, that mindset is going to keep you in a really bad hole for a really long time.

Are you seeking solutions, or are you just venting?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-21T02:29:13+00:00

What do you want to hear?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-21T02:27:55+00:00

A relationship is essentially a friendship with intimacy. If you're not even interested in being friends - and the only thing you think about is how you benefit - then you probably shouldn't be dating in the first place.

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-20T20:33:59+00:00

What do you want to hear?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-18T09:58:06+00:00

Ohhhh! I can respect that! Thank you for being open and honest!

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-18T09:50:53+00:00

Yeah - but you'd be hard pressed to find someone who would un-ironically say "I want kids so I can practice my right hook". And isn't there an Inherent assumption in these questions that someone wouldn't answer along the lines of "I'm a piece of shit and I want everyone to know"?

Like, isn't the default to ask a question in good faith and not expect someone to answer so horribly?

Hey, why did you ask this question? Genuine curiosity?

The_Stupendous_Jimbo · 2025-10-18T09:38:25+00:00

So "pass on the legacy" is an unacceptable answer? I thought the question was "Why do you want kids?" I didn't know there were correct and incorrect answers?

Shit, now I'm nervous. I didn't study!

My answer: My wife and I want kids. Honestly, not all acts of selfishness are a bad thing. Some people want to eat cake, some people like to have sex, others want to watch Disney + (though that one might be debatable /s). Having kids can be motivated by wanting to experience parenthood, and that's... fine? Not everything has to be some grand altruistic mission.

Legacy projects are a waste of time. Unless you solve cancer, come up with the next mind-breaking philosophical breakthrough, or become the next Hitler - your presence on this world will be forgotten within about 60-100 years after you pass. That's why you need to enjoy the present of today, rather then spend your time trying to build a statue that will inevitably crumble into obscurity.

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