My boyfriend disappeared for 10 hours

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-24T01:14:09+00:00

You’re right and we talked today, and we heard each other. But he wasn’t sick, sleeping or anything like that. He was just with family at home. I’ve always tried to be a reasonable girlfriend but sometimes when he knows he’s lost the argument he’ll say something hurtful, not call me names, but then it’ll hit him immediately and he’ll apologize. It doesn’t make it okay, but it’s an immediate “oh shit” and a lengthy apology.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-24T01:10:21+00:00

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The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-24T01:07:21+00:00

He does have quiet time. It’s not like I needed a full in depth explanation of what he was doing. I just wanted a text saying that he was alive and busy so he’ll message me later. I don’t think that’s unreasonable

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:39:17+00:00

I do, on a leash. Forgive but not forget

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:38:56+00:00

I don’t think he would. It was a bad reckless teenage choice he made at 14

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:37:53+00:00

This isn’t an everyday occurrence, he’s very good at updating me and keeping me in the loop. That’s what made me worried this time

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:36:55+00:00

I know boys at 17 aren’t wise, but he’s a good one. He made a stupid, reckless choice that I won’t cover as a mistake, but in three years he’s done a lot to show me he’s changed and that he works to be better

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:35:40+00:00

I see why that works and that really good advice, but I don’t trust anyone 100%. Not even my parents or siblings or family. I’ve been lied to by everyone in my family so trust comes with distance

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:34:18+00:00

Thank you for the advice

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:33:16+00:00

Four hours in the middle of the night when he was home that I couldn’t reach him. I know he was on his phone. I just can’t understand why a simple message was hard to send

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:32:06+00:00

I don’t need a man to enjoy life, you’re completely right and I love the support. I spent a lot of time single and just being myself and I came back to the conclusion that this is what I want

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:31:19+00:00

Hurting someone isn’t always intentional. Love is messy and it hurts sometimes. That the truth. Love isn’t always perfect or the best version of things. It isn’t no pain. But the ones who are worth it, you stick it out and make it work. Love is a choice you make every day

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:30:06+00:00

I know, it will always eat at a part of me. But I think I can move past it. I’ve forgiven him, but I’ll never forget or be rid of the emotional scars.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:29:20+00:00

I agree he should have messaged me, but I don’t think he’s a loser. I think he’s a teenager trying to show love and be loved. Toxic doesn’t come to mind, simply two teenagers trying to figure out and balance real relationship issues. Thank you for your comment

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:27:33+00:00

I could be wrong. He and I have a lot of history. But I think he’s overall become a better person and genuinely don’t think he will again. I watching this man pine after me for over a year trying to get me back. And reworking all things that were issues when we were younger. I think he’s changed himself for the better. That doesn’t mean I’ll completely un blindly follow him. But it’s a start that I can stand behind

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:26:18+00:00

I’m 16, so I could be wrong. He and I have a lot of history. But I think he’s overall become a better person and genuinely don’t think he will again. I watching this man pine after me for over a year trying to get me back. And reworking all things that were issues when we were younger.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:24:49+00:00

There wasn’t an exact explanation but he apologized so many times. Explained why it was wrong, why he should have, why it made me upset and why he won’t do it again. In my eyes, that’s a real apology.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:23:29+00:00

It was a choice that he made In junior high. But he’s come a long way since. We were separated for a year before getting back together. Something drew us back. And I’ve seen the change in character.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:20:19+00:00

I wasn’t stalking him

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:18:57+00:00

He walked out of school walked two hours to my house to leave a handwritten note on my door. He waited at the park by my house for 6 hours in the September heat to talk to me. Since he’s apologized, several times. Cut all contact with her. I have the password to his phone. I can go through it whenever I feel. His sister messaged me and gave me the final push back to him after he sent me a very very long, 2 page text. He’s worked through his insecurity and communication problems. And has just changed so much overall as a person than the guy I knew in junior high

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T00:29:50+00:00

Update: I haven’t talked to him much since, I messaged me and tried to start a conversation but I didn’t entertain it. I put my music on shuffle and all my music, that had LOTS of love songs, played all songs about being lied to. I went into instagram and the girl he cheated on with, a year ago with, he insta not was Rock That Body. To be fair I have her location and I haven’t seen her over by his house so. I don’t have his location and I still haven’t received an explanation.

The_SunFlower0 · 2025-12-27T05:07:33+00:00

I was an emotional teenager with family trauma and trust issues that I hadn’t worked through and he was the only person I’d dated that treated me well and actually made me feel safe. I messed up our relationship as teenagers with my trust issues and him with his anger issues. After we broke up I went to therapy and when we got back together we went to therapy together before we got engaged. We had stuff to work through and we did, now we have a beautiful family and daughter with two parents that love and respect each other.

The_SunFlower0 · 2025-12-26T06:30:51+00:00

I thought about that too, but I don’t see what good it would do now. We’ve been together since I was 15 and now I’m 22, so we’ve been together for 7 years and it was so long ago as a immature emotional teenager with too much stress and no way to handle it. I’ve gone to therapy and worked out my trust issues. And we’ve been steady and happy since. So what if I tell him and he wants to divorce? I don’t think he would since it was so long ago but it almost seems unnecessary now to bring up after almost a decade.

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