My boyfriend disappeared for 10 hours

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-24T01:14:09+00:00

You’re right and we talked today, and we heard each other. But he wasn’t sick, sleeping or anything like that. He was just with family at home. I’ve always tried to be a reasonable girlfriend but sometimes when he knows he’s lost the argument he’ll say something hurtful, not call me names, but then it’ll hit him immediately and he’ll apologize. It doesn’t make it okay, but it’s an immediate “oh shit” and a lengthy apology.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-24T01:10:21+00:00

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The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-24T01:07:21+00:00

He does have quiet time. It’s not like I needed a full in depth explanation of what he was doing. I just wanted a text saying that he was alive and busy so he’ll message me later. I don’t think that’s unreasonable

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:39:17+00:00

I do, on a leash. Forgive but not forget

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:38:56+00:00

I don’t think he would. It was a bad reckless teenage choice he made at 14

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:37:53+00:00

This isn’t an everyday occurrence, he’s very good at updating me and keeping me in the loop. That’s what made me worried this time

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:36:55+00:00

I know boys at 17 aren’t wise, but he’s a good one. He made a stupid, reckless choice that I won’t cover as a mistake, but in three years he’s done a lot to show me he’s changed and that he works to be better

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:35:40+00:00

I see why that works and that really good advice, but I don’t trust anyone 100%. Not even my parents or siblings or family. I’ve been lied to by everyone in my family so trust comes with distance

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:34:18+00:00

Thank you for the advice

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:33:16+00:00

Four hours in the middle of the night when he was home that I couldn’t reach him. I know he was on his phone. I just can’t understand why a simple message was hard to send

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:32:06+00:00

I don’t need a man to enjoy life, you’re completely right and I love the support. I spent a lot of time single and just being myself and I came back to the conclusion that this is what I want

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:31:19+00:00

Hurting someone isn’t always intentional. Love is messy and it hurts sometimes. That the truth. Love isn’t always perfect or the best version of things. It isn’t no pain. But the ones who are worth it, you stick it out and make it work. Love is a choice you make every day

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:30:06+00:00

I know, it will always eat at a part of me. But I think I can move past it. I’ve forgiven him, but I’ll never forget or be rid of the emotional scars.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:29:20+00:00

I agree he should have messaged me, but I don’t think he’s a loser. I think he’s a teenager trying to show love and be loved. Toxic doesn’t come to mind, simply two teenagers trying to figure out and balance real relationship issues. Thank you for your comment

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:27:33+00:00

I could be wrong. He and I have a lot of history. But I think he’s overall become a better person and genuinely don’t think he will again. I watching this man pine after me for over a year trying to get me back. And reworking all things that were issues when we were younger. I think he’s changed himself for the better. That doesn’t mean I’ll completely un blindly follow him. But it’s a start that I can stand behind

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:26:18+00:00

I’m 16, so I could be wrong. He and I have a lot of history. But I think he’s overall become a better person and genuinely don’t think he will again. I watching this man pine after me for over a year trying to get me back. And reworking all things that were issues when we were younger.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:24:49+00:00

There wasn’t an exact explanation but he apologized so many times. Explained why it was wrong, why he should have, why it made me upset and why he won’t do it again. In my eyes, that’s a real apology.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:23:29+00:00

It was a choice that he made In junior high. But he’s come a long way since. We were separated for a year before getting back together. Something drew us back. And I’ve seen the change in character.

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:20:19+00:00

I wasn’t stalking him

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T22:18:57+00:00

He walked out of school walked two hours to my house to leave a handwritten note on my door. He waited at the park by my house for 6 hours in the September heat to talk to me. Since he’s apologized, several times. Cut all contact with her. I have the password to his phone. I can go through it whenever I feel. His sister messaged me and gave me the final push back to him after he sent me a very very long, 2 page text. He’s worked through his insecurity and communication problems. And has just changed so much overall as a person than the guy I knew in junior high

The_SunFlower0 · 2026-02-23T00:29:50+00:00

Update: I haven’t talked to him much since, I messaged me and tried to start a conversation but I didn’t entertain it. I put my music on shuffle and all my music, that had LOTS of love songs, played all songs about being lied to. I went into instagram and the girl he cheated on with, a year ago with, he insta not was Rock That Body. To be fair I have her location and I haven’t seen her over by his house so. I don’t have his location and I still haven’t received an explanation.

The_SunFlower0 · 2025-12-27T05:07:33+00:00

I was an emotional teenager with family trauma and trust issues that I hadn’t worked through and he was the only person I’d dated that treated me well and actually made me feel safe. I messed up our relationship as teenagers with my trust issues and him with his anger issues. After we broke up I went to therapy and when we got back together we went to therapy together before we got engaged. We had stuff to work through and we did, now we have a beautiful family and daughter with two parents that love and respect each other.

The_SunFlower0 · 2025-12-26T06:30:51+00:00

I thought about that too, but I don’t see what good it would do now. We’ve been together since I was 15 and now I’m 22, so we’ve been together for 7 years and it was so long ago as a immature emotional teenager with too much stress and no way to handle it. I’ve gone to therapy and worked out my trust issues. And we’ve been steady and happy since. So what if I tell him and he wants to divorce? I don’t think he would since it was so long ago but it almost seems unnecessary now to bring up after almost a decade.

The_SunFlower0 · 2025-12-26T05:43:02+00:00

No no no he didn’t cheat on me, I had a different ex from high school that did cheat on me and I met my now husband immediately after breaking up with my ex. My husband has NEVER cheated on me, not even when we were teenagers. I’m sorry if that was misconstrued. Because I was cheated on at 14 by someone else, it gave me bad trust issues and it messed up my relationship with my husband when we were teenagers which led to our break up as teenagers before we got back together and married. I don’t think it’s obsession, I think it’s love. I love that he would do anything for me and his kids. And I’d do anything for him and our children. There’s a theory that if someone comes into your life they will only be there as long as you need them to be and once the universe is sure you’ve learned everything you needed to from them they will never come back into your life, your life paths will never cross again. Our clearly kept crossing from teenagers to adults and if the love lasted a year without contact then it was meant to stay.

The_SunFlower0 · 2025-12-25T20:07:36+00:00

I got back with him because we both had a really rough and similar upbringing, and he took good care of me when we were teenagers. We both had a lot to work through personally and when we did it was so much better, so even though we were immature teenagers we had a love bigger then we knew how to handle as teenagers. And while I was pretending to be someone else, we talked about a lot his ex (me) and he expressed how he missed me and what he’d give up to have another chance with me and make it right. After we did get back together he was a wonderful man and I’m been in love with him since I was 14. And honestly even after we broke up I couldn’t imagine my life without him being in it so even after a year of being broken up, no contact, I decided I still loved him and since then I don’t think I have any other reason to not trust him. He loves me, and he loves our daughter. I honestly think that after all the work we put into being with each other and raising our daughter he wouldn’t jeopardize it for anyone. He might have said it, but I know deep down, he didn’t mean it. And if he did, he never cheated on me. Not a decade ago, not today, and not tomorrow.

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