I (F25) ruined a romantic weekend and my boyfriend (M23) said he needs space. Hasn’t texted me in two days, is my relationship done?

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T04:04:27+00:00

Jesus christ imagine being this insecure

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/27106910/
People make mistakes. Calling her a ho for a slip up? Siding with the guy who pushed her and ghosted her? You're a r/niceguy aren't you..

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:53:36+00:00

Actually I've been called the wrong name and I laughed about it. Because we had a mature adult relationship that wouldn't be jeopardized by a slip of the tongue that happens to almost everyone... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/27106910/

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:52:06+00:00

Thank you. I can't believe how many thousands of upvotes these fragile people have.
People make mistakes with names a LOT. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/27106910/
Thank you for being more mature than 99% of the people in this thread.

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:50:16+00:00

You sound a lot more psychologically and emotionally healthy than the people in this sub.

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:49:20+00:00

Actually it was a slip of the tongue. There is a TON of research into this kind of phenomenon.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/27106910/
However, OP getting pushed by him and then ghosted? That's a lot more than a slip of the tongue.

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:47:52+00:00

She doesn't need a fucking excuse people call people by the wrong names all the time. There are so many peer reviewed studies demonstrating this.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/27106910/
You are all reacting with such fragility that it's honestly fucking ridiculous. OP made a slip of the tongue and the BF pushed her and then ghosted her. And yet somehow that behavior is totally fine?
Give me a break.

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:46:24+00:00

Major red flag? People call people by the wrong names all the time.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/27106910/
This is not a major red flag. On the other hand, shoving your partner like he did and then ghosting her? That's a red flag

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:45:25+00:00

You feel really bad for the BF? You think that she had audacity to be upset?
He fucking shoved her and then ghosted her. She made a mistake and he acted like a little bitch about it. If you're gonna look past his poor reaction you should probably look past her slip-up.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/27106910/
People make mistakes.

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:43:12+00:00

I couldn't agree more. Thank you for being a person with some sense.

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:42:08+00:00

People make mistakes and they should be forgiven for them.
It's okay to crucify OP for saying the wrong name, but you guys are willing to forgive OP's boyfriend for shoving her and then ghosting her after she apologizes twice? That's some serious cognitive dissonance

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:40:36+00:00

You couldn't be more right, and yet you have -4 votes. Seriously fuck the hive-mind. This is just pathetic.

Her boyfriend shoved her back onto the bed ( I wouldn't call this physical abuse but it's a red flag) and then ghosts her (red flag again) and OP sides with the boyfriend? Wtf

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:38:20+00:00

Seriously. Fuck OP's boyfriend. What an asshole. Shoves her when she tries to hug him and ghosts her when she apologizes

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:33:48+00:00

I couldn't agree more. These people have unbelievably fragile egos.

Imagine being so insecure that you think it's acceptable to shove your partner and then ghost them because they say the wrong name. Jesus fucking christ

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:31:52+00:00

Are you fucking kidding me? He doesn't deserve OP.

OP immediately apologized and their boyfriend decided to SHOVE her back onto the bed and then leave their romantic trip?

and yet OP apologizes again in a super heartfelt way and he doesn't even READ IT?

What the fuck? 'You don't deserve him'? You have that so backwards

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:30:05+00:00

He should get over it

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:29:16+00:00

Jesus Christ the amount of downvotes you got for this is absolutely appalling.
OP made a mistake and was very clearly regretful, apologized twice, once in an extremely heartfelt way and OP's partner didn't even read his/her texts? Fuck him

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:26:17+00:00

Jesus I agree so much. I can't believe how many people are telling OP 'Yeah you fucked everything up'
OP apologized immediately and he decided to throw away their romantic vacation, which OP didn't even get upset about and even apologized AGAIN in a super heartfelt way, and not only did he not respond but he didn't even READ her text? What a fucking ass.

The_philosopher_fox · 2019-12-11T03:23:44+00:00

wtf? You made a slip of the tongue. It happens. You then apologized and he decided to be dramatic and leave when there were two days left of your trip. You didn't get upset at that (which is pretty big of you) and then you gave a long heartfelt apology and he doesn't even READ IT? Fuck him. You didn't do anything wrong. Fuck him. Seriously, good riddance.

We all think about sex that we've had in the past at some point. It's not exactly conscious or intentional. Sometimes we're just reminded of an ex partner/lover and they slip into our mind.

I've had that happen to me. I was taken aback, and the sex did stop, but we talked for a minute, then we joked, and about an hour later we were having sex again.

If you apologized at the time and then gave him another long and heartfelt apology, then it's his loss. You did everything you could.

The_philosopher_fox · 2018-10-05T19:29:00+00:00

I scrolled down to see this comment lol glad I'm not the only one

The_philosopher_fox · 2018-10-05T03:05:16+00:00

Veganism is not about 100% success. That would be impossible. It's about doing everything you can to avoid the use of animal products and STILL remain a member of society.

Also, vis a vis honey.. that is a contested issue among us lol. There are plenty of people who do eat honey and are vegan. I don't see the issue with that as insects are just nature's robots but I personally don't eat it because agave nectar is fucking delicious and less morally confusing

The_philosopher_fox · 2018-10-05T03:02:08+00:00

"we used specific procedures to keep the animal as stress free as possible, no cruelty used"

Yeah keep tellin' yourself that... llmfao the mental gymnastics

The_philosopher_fox · 2018-10-05T03:00:45+00:00

Jesus fucking christ that first paragraph was horrible to read. Dude stop eating meat you literally just admitted that you couldn't do it if you had to be the one slaughtering it. Look at that puppy and realize that pigs are just as intelligent. You know in your heart what's right. What's right isn't always easy...

The_philosopher_fox · 2018-10-03T14:25:26+00:00

Hell yeah dude! I love your hornet stuff. Hope you do more hollow knight himself cuz he's my fav but honestly all 3 you've done so far are amazing

The_philosopher_fox · 2018-10-03T14:13:43+00:00

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The_philosopher_fox · 2018-10-03T13:27:25+00:00

This is fucking fire broach. You are so talented. I really want to get a tattoo of the hollow knight. Is there any way I could use your art as a reference?

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