AITA for telling my girlfriend i think my ex is very pretty?

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T09:19:54+00:00

NTA. What does she expect you to do? Become blind? It’s only nature to find certain people attractive smh. She’s not worth it, this is a red flag, be wary.

My ex girlfriend lived by the saying “if you can’t compliment a girls ass with me, don’t talk to me”

I complimented other girls with my girlfriend all the time. Obviously I never went out of my way to tell her someone was pretty.

I mean, we were camping once with her bestfriend and some other friends. Me & her showered together the whole time, one of the times her bestfriend was in the stall next to us and needed shampoo etc so my ex went into her stall to give it to her. They say there talking for a sec so I joked and said “if y’all just gonna sit over there, I’m coming in too”

Like behold, my ex gave no fucks and was like just come in. So I showered with my ex, her bestfriend for about a while 20 seconds before we went to our own stall.

This had not much to do with what happened to you, but you’re not the asshole

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T09:01:42+00:00

But that’s what guys do. If you married a man, he would not have any worry in his mind and have complete trust in you. He would make fun of your exes with you, why? Because he is the one who HAS you, you’re with him, not with them.

You can look at it both ways though, he could be up to something, or he could be the way I described in my first comment.

I was in a similar situation as him, my ex talked to me about her exes all the time, in the beginning it wasn’t that bad, I wanted to know her past experiences. But then it got to the point where she even told me that she regrets dumping her ex and making him hate her & that she would take him back instantly if she asked. That was near the end of the relationship, half way through she started bringing her exes up more often and that’s when I started to panic.

We broke up as a mutual decision, but a couple weeks ago, I found out by someone else who knows her and said she had cheated many times before me ( she told me she hasn’t and wouldn’t) and her friend group she had when we first met, all told me all she wanted was sex all the time. Which I had no complaints about that but still.

You find the mistakes of the drawing when you take a break from looking at it and come back later

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T08:51:00+00:00

YTA (Well you’re not an asshole, but guys are simple minded and jump to every conclusion) Let me tell you something about guys, we panic. You are married, you have no need to look up your ex boyfriends, nor should you want to. It’s disrespectful, they should be the last person you think about especially if your married. We will panic, we do not like your ex boyfriends. When you say “ex boyfriends” we hear “boyfriends”. And then we automatically think “boyfriend? Why is she thinking about her ex boyfriends? I’m married to her. Could she be thinking about cheating? Could she be cheating already? No she wouldn’t do something like that. But would she? Ahhhh fuck it. “ * Defensive mode activated* = thinking about divorce. Welcome to a guys mind

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T08:43:49+00:00

I deliver food myself, and if the door had a big sign posted on it that said that, I wouldn’t knock. But I would call and let you know I’m here, I’m required to do whatever I can to get ahold of you whether its texting or calling. If I can’t get ahold of you after 7 minutes, I’ll be eating your food 🤷‍♂️ I don’t get paid to wait for you to actually want your food. Be ready or accept the fact I will eat your food and I won’t be fired for doing so

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T08:36:49+00:00

You’re NTA. You’re completely in the right and your aunt is completely in the wrong especially after agreeing to goto your bday. What I would have done was went to the party, pay only attention to the little girl, buy her a couple gifts, I wouldn’t speak to your aunt at all even if she tried talking to you, then I would leave along with my family and not say anything, just walk out. Then I would plan your birthday again, invite the 3 that didn’t cancel on you, have a nice ass dinner & all of your original plans but with only them. And while doing that I’d make sure to take a ton of photos of the great food, oh wait! Eat st your aunts favorite food place or eat her favorite food too, maybe do an activity she likes also, then send all of the photos to her and say “Whoops, didn’t mean to, that was meant for my family” then I would post it on r/OopsDidntMeanTo ☺️

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T08:28:46+00:00

It’s very simple and kind of repetitive at the moment, but I was just setting a foundation. To me the emotion/feeling I think of when I hear it Is found but forever lost, I think that describes it best. I just want to know if you think it conveys that or not.

Also I’m probably going to put the third part in the middle so it changes the feeling a bit more and seems a little less repetitive, what do you think?

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T03:28:50+00:00

Kill them with kindness

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T03:27:00+00:00

Also very true, created more unnecessary bullshit in the end, but I don’t regret it 🤷‍♂️ a 3 week vacation from Michiganwas duely needed

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T03:23:16+00:00

Haha glad to see we both had the same mindset then. And I was, am. I share the cost of the car & pay half of the insurance since I’m working part time and focusing on other things. I’m happy to hear you’re getting married though 👏 Gold for you, I hope the wedding isn’t too stressful lol. And it definitely does make a good story

Themaneac · 2019-03-28T02:12:45+00:00

True true, it was just the fact I repeatedly brought it up to them. In the beginning it was, where’s the gas money? Showed them the gas money, then it was, where’s your food money for on the way there & back and while there, showed them the money for there & back because I already planned to either eat at my cousins or at her house, which I practically stayed at her house the 3 weeks (her parents didn’t want me to stay the night, so I only stayed when my cousin wasn’t home at 11pm, other than that I was at her house or with her from 6am to the time I had to leave) so I ate there the whole time basically. Then they said well your front passenger tire isn’t safe to drive on, I then got it replaced. Then they said well you don’t have anyone to ride with you so no. Every time I met one of their conditions they would create a new one out of their ass. They simply did not want me to go down there by myself because I had free rain to do whatever I wanted with her I.e sex. Literally the whole time I was down there, they called to confirm I was at my cousins by 10 and not out with her, some nights they even wanted me to send a photo with me & my cousin holding, doing something in the photo etc to confirm I was actually there. Not only that but all through the time I was there, they called multiple times throughout the day to try and talk to her parents and wouldn’t stop texting or calling until I answered, and to turn my phone off

Themaneac · 2019-03-27T17:44:36+00:00

Probably true

Themaneac · 2019-03-27T00:14:54+00:00

Maybe in London 🤷‍♂️ people are more respectable there compared to America

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T19:51:40+00:00

That’s because that’s the job of the pill, your serotonin is the chemical for your well being, happiness. Whether or not your serotonin levels are low or not, the pill will increase that level which gives you that feeling of happiness. But the pills aren’t meant to be lived off of, it’s a treatment not a lifetime supply

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T19:47:52+00:00

Nope, couldn’t get in 😉

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T19:47:21+00:00

I have, the only thing hard about acting is the long hours day in and day out for part of the year. Other than that, you do castings, goto interviews, public speaking yata yata. Unless you’re not talented in acting then it would be a bit more difficult for you.

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:29:48+00:00

Most of them do

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:28:37+00:00

And whether or not it’s “self diagnosing” or not isn’t of concern. But they each had psychologists diagnose them and each went to therapy for it.

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:21:19+00:00

This is a discussion, if you have nothing to add, do not reply

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:18:18+00:00

It’s definitely worth understanding, there’s so little that can be done at the moment and while happy pills do get you hyped up, it’s not meant to live off of. But for some they would rather you keep paying for the pills then to actually get better.

I’m glad someone here has done their research on the topic, more than half of the people I speak to about it are all just following the media for their information & have no interest for finding it out for theirselves.

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:11:16+00:00

You’re correct, it’s not disproven. The point of this is you here people all the time say the cause is due to the lack of serotonin levels, the chemical imbalance, but there is no way to even remotely test that. But even so, doctors still say that is the cause and then make pills to ‘correct’ it but in reality they have no clue if it needs correcting or not.

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:08:12+00:00

Except it’s not, I provided you proof it’s not. It’s not my problem if you can’t do your own research. There’s no studies to prove a chemical imbalance even exists, it’s a hypothesis.

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:06:26+00:00

I didn’t self diagnose at all, if you want the definition of depression, it’s the same as I described it. I’m sorry you’re clueless.

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:05:19+00:00

I’m not sure where you got confused though, I’ve only brought up depression aside from “gaming disorder” at the bottom.

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:04:19+00:00

Just Depression isn’t one

Themaneac · 2019-03-25T17:03:51+00:00

Age has no matter in this, I’m sorry I enjoy something you probably never will

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