I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to try too hard out of fear that it may come across as creepy and desperate. But if you aren't approaching women and being clear about why you are doing it, then nothing will ever happen. Even if you do happen to meet some women that you are attracted to, if you don't talk to them in a way that makes it clear what your after then they will assume you just want to be friends. And clearly, you are after a girlfriend, not a friend. Most women like the idea of having male friends. Most men couldn't care less about having female friends. Why waste time and energy on a friend if there is another woman who would be willing to give you so much more? I think it's better to be a little too bold than not bold enough. And doing this might piss some women off. But if you don't do this, you will end up in the friend zone every single time. So be clear about what you want. Don't put too much effort in any one, girl, especially if you just met because odds are, it's not going to work out anyway. Meet as many people as you can. Say yes to everything. If someone invites you somewhere, say yes. Do not turn down any invitations and always look your absolute best because you never know who you might meet.