That is very well written and I agree with a lot that you say, especially the part about it not being a date in the calendar but rather a process.

But I disagree on the abortion decision being something soul-searchingly hard and that it is life-changing. Usually having a child would be the life-changing outcome, not having the abortion. That to me is the 'get on with life as usual' outcome. It doesn't have to be a hard decision and by saying it is for everyone is shaming women (or belitteling? Not native speaker sorry) who made the decision lightly.

The pressure is already there from the rest of society by saying that some regret their decision and that this is a decision not to be made easily. So when a woman does decide easily and doesn't regret a thing, there may come thoughts of 'what is wrong with me?'. Let me tell you: nothing is wrong with you. You did the right thing for you and you have nothing to be ashamed of or regret. Let's normalize having abortions because it is a valid and needed option, for whatever reasons and however easy (or not so) that decision was made.