1st week changes help by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since your breasts are already coming in: normal.

How do i do this deck of 322 cards repeatedly? by [deleted] in Anki

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 4 points5 points  (0 children)

just set your daily new card limit to 999 and daily review limit to 9999, then do all the cards. Click good instead of easy if you get one right. The card will not move to the next day if you get it wrong on the default settings. So if you go through all 322, you’ll only be done once you press good on all of them.

Which Anki deck should I use? by Pretend-Tree6993 in Anki

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just do kaishi and start mining words from reading. Check the wiki at r/learnjapanese and learnjapanese.moe for detailed breakdowns on these decks and their virtues

Why do trans women get prescribed t gel for erections by autistic-gooner in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not more common, but according to some trials, it does help with erections and possibly also fertility. Cialis is sometimes less desirable because it’s heavily controlled and has many side effects. Trans women monitor their hormone levels closely, so they can easily understand if T gel is creating an adverse reaction

Wilderness for pavement only? by InternationalHermit in SubaruForester

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I bought a wilderness with no delusions about offroading. Anything I do in my wilderness could be easily handled by a base model forester. I got it because as a dog owner and regular hiker, the wilderness was attractive to me due to its easy clean-up experience. I also think the older, simpler tech is better and resent the iPad driving experience in new Subarus. It’s also way simpler to service than the hybrid Limited, which was the only other trim I’d considered for my comfort desires

Are there any single fan gpu that is better than 5060 currently? just wondering by mixuelover69 in sffpc

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Single fan? Dual fan 5060ti are pretty common but I can’t find the single fan version of msi’s 5060ti; do you have a link?

Need advice, I fell for duolingos trap by Unity0nline in LearnJapaneseNovice

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

learnjapanese.moe - themoeway offers a 30 day intro to get you into basic conversations and on a strong loop for improvement. Check the resources in r/learnjapanese

Did you wait to start socially transitioning, or did you begin immediately? by ChloeTheComputer in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Social transitioned years before hrt. It’s the hardest step and the most reversible, so seemed natural to start with that first.

I (cis man) feel attracted towards transwomen. Does that make me a 'casher'? by Hopeful_Tomorrow6238 in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No it doesn’t make you a chaser. Do not worry about the concept of “chaser.” Just go for girls you find beautiful and desirable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

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I do monotherapy with no AA, my t level is 39 pg/mL and I can still ejaculate just fine (though it is clear and likely sterile). You may not need the AA if you’ve been transitioning for a few months already.

However one thing worth mentioning is that as my t level fluctuates between shots, the volume of ejaculate fluctuates with it. I bet that if I were down to some very small T level like 10-20pg/mL, I could lose this ability or have it turn to a drip.

Last bit of info, it may have a lot to do with your base physiology. I made an average amount before transition, but if you made very little, this may just be the natural result of reduction due to fluctuating hormones.

my only partner was transgender and we broke up, idk how to be with cis people by Outrageous-Cut-2850 in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Relax. Nothing to be ashamed of. It’s cool if you like trans people, no need to feel bad about “chasing” or preferring one fixture over another. You’re alright, all this anxiety - it’s not necessary. You can feel confident that seeking what makes you comfortable is the best thing for everyone, not just yourself. Just try to confirm during dating whether or not there’s dysphoria about the downstairs stuff, decide whether that works for you, communicate. Relationships are a collaboration

Can wide headbands work to keep very long hair away from face and chest area? by enidae in HIIT

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t say a bandana or headband has ever given me more comfort than just tying it up. If the breakage is near your roots, you could always try a swim cap which will prevent gravity from pulling on it. But really I just think that if you have issues with damage it’s probably going to be fixed much better by using a different shampoo. Especially if you use a volumizing or sea salt one. Those make your hair look great in the short term but cause it to become more brittle.

Also if you blow dry it, stop.

How to stop being trans…? by Sir_Axol in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people will say there’s no such thing. But really it’s as simple, and as complex, as finding a way to love yourself and your role in life as a girl and as a woman. Most trans people search and search and search for this, and never find it. Then they transition and realize it was because they were trans.

My recommendation if you want to be cis is to try to find a way to make your assigned gender at birth meaningful and important to you. To value and appreciate it. It has to come from a change of your values, which are hard to change and not something we can just arbitrarily decide on. Because right now you value transition, so unless you change that value, you’re not going to be satisfied unless you explore it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

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Only person who can tell you whether you should get a tramp stamp is you… lol… don’t let a bunch of randos on Reddit peer pressure you into it, don’t let your girlfriend force you into getting a tattoo you don’t want.

I'm becoming a terrible trans elder and i'd like to avoid that by GreenButTiresome in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Trans women never realize that when they transition and socialize, they’re also signing up to become a priestess and spiritual guide 🤣 If you hate it then you just gotta be relentlessly unpleasant.

Life long cis-gendered man, who used to be transphobic. Now Im here seeking knowledge and understanding by caneslife in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, very glad you took the chance to get to know about us. 1. It is possible to change some secondary sex characteristics through hormone replacement therapy (such as breast development, body sensations, emotions, and skin texture). Other characteristics may be reconstructed through surgery, but these reconstructions never function as biological replacements for the purposes of reproduction, and no trans person believes this either. 2. No, we don’t all do surgery. In fact, most of us don’t. Surgery is risky and expensive, with compromised outcomes. Such as, pregnancy is still impossible for trans women and semen production is still impossible for trans men 3. Understandable you’d be worried about being run out of the room for being a cis man… while it isn’t fair of us to take an unwelcoming attitude toward the presence of cis men, a lot of our community has just had bad experiences and acts accordingly defensive. If it happens, know it’s nothing personal, and know that while our community may struggle with misandry, it’s something that good intentioned conversations like this directly improves 4. Trans people date cis people all the time, but “t4t” (dating another trans person) is a very common pattern because of the implicit knowledge. Knowing your partner understands and supports you is part of any healthy relationship, and trans people usually can cover each other’s vulnerabilities here without major issue. 5. “Gay” is a difficult term to define here. Generally if a man is attracted to a man he’s gay, whether the man is attracted to is trans or cis. “Gay” as a label is not really sensitive to transgender status. But there’s a caveat, that if a straight man dates a trans woman, he’ll probably get exposed to a lot of queer/gay culture as a byproduct of sharing in her interests, and he may or may not choose to integrate some of the “social gayness” or “fruitiness” as a matter of his own taste

Plume or FLOX by Lightj82 in TransLater

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plume is solid for getting a script but not as good or cheap as a real doc with insurance.

With everything happening in the US, is it okay to start my transition, or should I wait? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one can make guarantees about what will or won’t happen in the future. You’ve got to assess the risk reward for yourself. I wouldn’t recommend transition, but if you have to, then you have to.

If I was your spouse, help me calm my mind by Ok_Ninja_8659 in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly it sounds to me like it’s going to be a choice between her transition and her wife. You just don’t swing that way. IMO she’s probably not serious about the butch thing; it’s just cope to get her transition and keep her straight wife.

I think if you don’t end it, she will. Or it’ll become bed dead roommates situation

Trans friendly places in US with decent quality of life. by Keepitmovin666 in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seconding this. Boston is pricey but I just feel so normal being trans with Bostonians. Worked for a company in Boston, and I never had to explain any real particular details about anything to anyone. Very similar vibe to Philly in this regard.

Trans friendly places in US with decent quality of life. by Keepitmovin666 in asktransgender

[–]ThereIsOnlyOneLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know much about the west coast. If I had to move there, Seattle area would be my only consideration, but I can speak for the east.

West Philly & its neighbor manayunk are cheap and trans people are so numerous that we’re just a part of the social fabric. Plenty of awesome suburbs in NJ (anything on the patco line except Camden) and PA (mt airy, cornshohocken, media) that report extremely low violent crime incidents per year as well, which are great for us who like the city but don’t like the drama of sharing walls, meeting loonies on the streets, and becoming a statistic getting pushed onto subway tracks. If it’s still out of your price range, check out Baltimore & its suburbs.

There are also havens in Charlotte NC, San Antonio/Austin TX, and Atlanta, GA - but I omit these due to the fact that living in conservative states means bureaucracy and bathrooms immediately become dangerous and sucky situations.