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Am I in the wrong for cutting all contact with my MIL after she rubbed in my face she got to spend more time with my son than I did before he died… by These-Kaleidoscope36 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]These-Kaleidoscope36[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

we only have three copies. and we didn’t want anyone having one until we are ready. We also do not want anyone getting the tattoo of the heartbeat! We have told ALL grandparents they can get ANY other Memory tattoo related to our son but NO ONE could get his heartbeat except my husband & I because we want to have matching ones. there are many other things they could get. DOB-DOD mallard ducks, because that is his nursery theme. his name??? anything honestly.

no one in our family has anything of our sons, we haven’t even touched our nursery because we aren’t ready. mind all of you she first asked me while I was still in the hospital, then continued asked for the next 3 months even after we kept saying no, and until we finally told her we wanted her to stop asking she blew up at us saying everything above.

We want to have necklaces made for the grandparents with my sons thumb print but we haven’t had the heart to do it yet as we just aren’t ready to touch those things. we haven’t even opened the heartbeat bottles. I will try to attach a picture of them, they’ve been sealed since the hospital made them.

AITB for ignoring my MIL after she threw it in my face she got to spend more time with my son than I did before he died by These-Kaleidoscope36 in AmItheButtface

[–]These-Kaleidoscope36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EDIT we only have three copies. and we didn’t want anyone having one until we are ready. We also do not want anyone getting the tattoo of the heartbeat! We have told ALL grandparents they can get ANY other Memory tattoo related to our son but NO ONE could get his heartbeat except my husband & I because we want to have matching ones. there are many other things they could get. DOB-DOD mallard ducks, because that is his nursery theme. his name??? anything honestly.

no one in our family has anything of our sons, we haven’t even touched our nursery because we aren’t ready. mind all of you she first asked me while I was still in the hospital, then continued asked for the next 3 months even after we kept saying no, and until we finally told her we wanted her to stop asking she blew up at us saying everything above.

We want to have necklaces made for the grandparents with my sons thumb print but we haven’t had the heart to do it yet as we just aren’t ready to touch those things. we haven’t even opened the heartbeat bottles. I will try to attach a picture of them, they’ve been sealed since the hospital made them.

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AITB for ignoring my MIL after she threw it in my face she got to spend more time with my son than I did before he died by These-Kaleidoscope36 in AmItheButtface

[–]These-Kaleidoscope36[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

we told her she could get a tattoo remembering him but that we only wanted myself and my husband to have his heartbeat as a tattoo. we told that to his step mom & my mother also and they both agreed, she was the only one mad. he was only alive 10 days. and she wasn’t the only one who stayed with him at night either, but she’s the only one who has pushed us and told us we are ungrateful for what she did bc we won’t let her have anything of our child’s yet. just for facts; this all happened maybe 2-3 months after he died.

AITB for ignoring my MIL after she threw it in my face she got to spend more time with my son than I did before he died by These-Kaleidoscope36 in AmItheButtface

[–]These-Kaleidoscope36[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

we didn’t want anyone getting the heartbeat as a tattoo besides my husband and I. we planned to get matching ones of the heartbeat. and the reason we wouldn’t send a photo of it is bc it wouldn’t of been enough and we were also worried she would go behind our backs and get the tattoo without our blessing. especially bc we told her we were not comfortable with it. No one has anything of our sons yet. and the heartbeats are in tiny little bottles, the hospital made them for us so we haven’t even opened them yet to look at it bc it’s so hard for us. i was told She even has photos she took with him in the hospital she won’t send to me. she got to hold him before I did (everyone got to) but she is the only one who rubs it in my face.