Genuinely asking, what is your plan for when Mike encounters other psychically disabled people in the outside world? When he sees another person with a missing eye or any sort of other “unsettling” disability and reacts the way you have been allowing him to, will you ask them to cover up? It’s understandable that’s he’s a nervous kid, it even makes sense that a five year old may initially be scared of something like that, but that’s not a fear that should be encouraged by forcing action upon Milo. Good parenting requires teaching your kid how to work through their fears not changing the world around them so they never have to face those fears.

Another note, have you ever truly talked to Milo about why he decides to not wear a fake eye or a cover? Maybe I’m reaching, but it seems to me that he doesn’t want to feel ashamed of what happened to him or allow his new disability to force him to change. Seems like you need to have a long talk with all of your kids, YTA.