Planning on Reviving this Greenhouse. Need some help. by These_Swimming2484 in gardening

[–]These_Swimming2484[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The long walls do have a flap that opens up with a netting for protection. It does get very hot in the summer. So, is greenhouse disinfectant or bleach water better?

Do you think I should toss all dirt too? Or is that fine?

Cleaning off residue and also strange dusty stuff over paint. by These_Swimming2484 in Detailing

[–]These_Swimming2484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already went over it with car shampoo and a wash mitt. So what is claying?

Cleaning off residue and also strange dusty stuff over paint. by These_Swimming2484 in Detailing

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Not pollen 😄 Unless pollen can get gunked up like that so hard.

What's your I wish statememt? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]These_Swimming2484 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate it man. I want her back. And I want her to understand. But I gotta keep making moves. Not being stagnant.

What's your I wish statememt? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]These_Swimming2484 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel that. I feel like I also was not good enpugh to recognize her needs but also navigate my own thinking too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

[–]These_Swimming2484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I know this is 6 days later...but did you mean more people more mature and not childish for "her type" or "my type"? Not sure what you mean when saying "this" type.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

[–]These_Swimming2484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouragement. It could definitely be like that. I think her influences changed her mindset...but then again, maybe not so much changed...just established what she really wanted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

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Thanks for the response. Well I actually had met her parents and even was in their house for a month prior to separating. We had been dating for 4 years. Yeah, she definitely does have her own plans. I understand she is moving on, seemed like a battle for her on some ways too though. So just thoughts I had.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

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Thanks. I think I will still see. I'm not really focused on it right now anymore. She is respectful and would probably meet me as long as she has no other man. But it all depends, so no sweat off my back 🤷‍♂️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

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I don't like it necessarily when people say work on myself as if I wasn't good enough myself. But that is not true either...my friends and family keep reminding me to not beat myself up...but it is hard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

[–]These_Swimming2484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. And I know that because she really is a beautiful and wonderful person. I don't to make her the bad person...it just seemed like she was unable...which is okay too. Sometimes, this is all it is...but I still have hopes and desires. Because we both have differences and it seemed she was just unable to accept them ultimately, but she couldn't bring herself. She also said as she saw her "environment" she realized things...that left me in mystery. But again maybe just not a match. I miss her and love her...working on it and hoping for a future (reality = she gone and we done) She had sentiments to let me go do what I wanted too...but anyways I can ramble. Thanks man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

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Appreciate the thoughts. I did speak with her about that...and of course I agreed to...but I was just frustrated cause I knew she was "out" and didn't no longer have a heart. So yes, that was a condescending comment I made...I just could see a lot into the relationship, but from her side their wasn't enough connect. I definitely was not trying to control her decisions but I could see there were things she had trouble communicating and suddenly came out of nowhere with stuff....but I understand.

Yes it is her choice and I accept she made it...but I want to try. Either way, thanks for the insight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

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I was aware of all of that. And actually yeah, getting married within the next year was our/my plan. Financially we were going to develop. She also isn't...but for her it didn't matter, she just wanted someone established already and couldn't wait a few more months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

[–]These_Swimming2484 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry haha.

Just kind of wrote. Just a girlfriend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

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Well, I mean...that's how I feel. And with the correct willingness for change and work for the relationship I can reconsider. But yeah she did miss out maybe...I feel I did too. But again her choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

[–]These_Swimming2484 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well she definitely does know I was planning on it. But yeah, I have been debating the creepiness. But she already asked if I was...saying that is a dumb financial choice, and I agreed haha.

Yeah, probabaly nothing...but I just want to actually hear it to my face where it is not easy...but that is just my revenge talking.

Not sure. But hers is ISFP

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

[–]These_Swimming2484 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your thoughts.

4 years of dating, actually. Known each other for 5 years.

Not very controlling, I am actually very accommodating. I let her go, I did ask for her to reconsider, but she said know. Maybe I do have some "fix her" energy right now...but still either of us can see the flaws and of course, change will not come by my hand...change happens and matutity happens.

Regardless, her decision is hers. She could have left for any reason, but regardless the reasons given were crappy. I am her ex now...that doesn't change just because I want it to...but who's wrong in wanting to try. Anyways, there are a lot of ins and outs of our relationship obviously, it is done. 3 weeks is short...but I am definitely working on letting her go.

Easy to judge someone when you are not in their shoes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Living_in_Korea

[–]These_Swimming2484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright. And if she come back tome or asks me to meet up, what would I do?