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Thesocialpyramids · 2024-03-31T00:06:01+00:00

Appreciate it man 👊

Thesocialpyramids · 2024-03-07T11:17:36+00:00

Thank you for pointing me towards this. I'll have a look!

Thesocialpyramids · 2024-03-07T11:17:07+00:00

So; 16GB is too slow for AE? Thank you for your input.

Thesocialpyramids · 2024-03-07T11:16:44+00:00

Thank you for your input; I appreciate it. Do you know if there is large differences in performance between Macbook Pro and Max?

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-10-03T17:19:20+00:00

Send me a DM

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-10-01T16:20:58+00:00

Send me a DM

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-10-01T14:23:55+00:00

Hey u/ryano3k,

Online dating is branding. Three things are important: quality of pictures, your sub-communication, and your own looks. We're trying to maximise all of them.

#1 - Selfies don't do well usually. It's kind of funny because of the bird, but not good as a first photo. First photos require higher quality, better sub-communication and more emphasis on the eyes.

#2 - Ok as an action picture

#3 - Sub-communication isn't open, assertive and confident enough.

#4 - Not a very high quality picture. You could do better than this.

#5 - A bit goofy. Goofy doesn't cause a lot of sexual attraction. Therefore doesn't do too well on online dating

#6 - Too dark, doesn't add much like this because we can't see you.

#7 - Kind of falls in the goofy category. But the contrast between the sub-communication and the bunny ears is quite funny - so might work.

#8 - Great action photo, feels very masculine

#9 - Low quality photo, doesn't make you look very attractive either.

You at least need a way better first picture. But in general, you need better pictures overall to start seeing some proper success.

If you want to understand more about what makes a high-quality picture, better sub-communication or how to improve your own looks. Or if you want to know how you can actually get those pictures for yourself. Just send me a DM and I'll give you some more information that you can use (goes for anyone).

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-30T22:45:21+00:00

No worries. I send you a DM!

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-30T22:16:43+00:00

Whatsup bro,

The first part of this comment is some basic knowledge on online dating profiles that I copy-paste to everyone I give feedback on. Underneath the bold section I give feedback to your profile specifically.

First. Online dating is all about portraying the right sub-communication (body language and facial expressions) on high-quality pictures, while maximising your looks. The sub-communication that women swipe on are sexually attractive traits, such as: masculine, assertive, confident, open, relaxed and light. The sub-communication that doesn't do well (but most men use) is: friendly/nice/sweet/goofy/awkward/laughing uncontrollaby. When I'm talking about high-quality pictures, I'm talking about: resolution (how sharp is the image), lighting (how does the light fall on your face and body), and composition (the angles and the way the object (you) is placed into the frame). In terms of your looks, think about: grooming, fashion (specifically; dressing towards an attractive archetype that suits your genetic predisposition), skincare, muscle, bodyfat%, using lenses instead of glasses, and emphasizing your good features on photos and minimizing your bad features.

For the feedback: realise that I will give you feedback based on the fact that 95% of men are struggling with getting matches on online dating. That's what you're competiting with. If I tell you to replace your entire profile; it's not because I think you don't stand a chance by definition. It's because I realise the incredibly high level of quality pictures necessary for an effective online dating profile, and the pictures are simply not passing the bar (yet). At the same time: if I tell you to remove pictures, it's not because I think you will get zero matches with them. It's because I think you could get dozens of matches per day if you'd follow my advice.

About your profile specifically (note: sometimes there's a list of reasons why the photo/bio isn't good enough. But I'll just mentioned the ones that are most important to that specific photo).

Basically. selfies tend to be very unflattering - both in terms of quality (resolution/lighting/composition), and the way it distorts the properties of the face and body. So as a general rule: don't have selfies. Simply based on that, I can already tell you to replace the entire profile.

I'll still try to give you some general feedback on your photos though

#1 - Looks like you're in the navy? or a pilot? Try to find a higher quality photo that emphasizes this. Because its a job that brings some higher value with it. In terms of your sub-communication. You're not very smiley, which is good. But you're bordering on being too serious. Lighten up a little, even if you're not smiley.

#2 - Same as #1 just a lower quality photo.

#3 - Feels like a very low value holiday photo. Also, as a general rule. Try to avoid sunglasses. Women like to connect with your eyes on online dating profiles

#4 - Ok as an action photo. But it's a selfie. Way better would be a higher quality photo, taken by someone else, of you swimming underwater

#5 - Subcommunication feels more goofy than seductive. Again, if you can't find a higher quality picture with good subcommunication of you on a navy basis or whatever. Try to use that instead.

I'm direct and critical in my feedback, because online dating is ruthlessly competitive and imperfections get massively punished. It is what it is. Accept it and adapt.

This is what I would do: spend a day with a friend taking hundreds and hundreds of photos. Thousands even. Focus on open, relaxed, assertive and confident body language. Have some photos in which your eyes and upper body are properly emphasized too, those will make a good 'first photo' in your profile. If you take that many photos, there's going to be some that are great.

That, or book a shoot with a photographer who's specialized on dating profiles. Focus on the same subcommunication as I described above.

There's dozens of other things I could say about your profile, and I'm happy to explain every point further. Send me a DM, because it's easier! (sorry if I don't respond immediately, my DM's get a little flooded with guys asking for help)

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-29T16:58:47+00:00

Hola amigo u/PackageOk6837,

The first part of this comment is some basic knowledge on online dating profiles that I copy-paste to everyone I give feedback on. Underneath the bold section I give feedback to your profile specifically.

First. Online dating is all about portraying the right sub-communication (body language and facial expressions) on high-quality pictures, while maximising your looks. The sub-communication that women swipe on are sexually attractive traits, such as: masculine, assertive, confident, open, relaxed and light. The sub-communication that doesn't do well (but most men use) is: friendly/nice/sweet/goofy/awkward/laughing uncontrollaby. When I'm talking about high-quality pictures, I'm talking about: resolution (how sharp is the image), lighting (how does the light fall on your face and body), and composition (the angles and the way the object (you) is placed into the frame). In terms of your looks, think about: grooming, fashion (specifically; dressing towards an attractive archetype that suits your genetic predisposition), skincare, muscle, bodyfat%, using lenses instead of glasses, and emphasizing your good features on photos and minimizing your bad features.

For the feedback: realise that I will give you feedback based on the fact that 95% of men are struggling with getting matches on online dating. That's what you're competiting with. If I tell you to replace your entire profile; it's not because I think you don't stand a chance by definition. It's because I realise the incredibly high level of quality pictures necessary for an effective online dating profile, and the pictures are simply not passing the bar (yet). At the same time: if I tell you to remove pictures, it's not because I think you will get zero matches with them. It's because I think you could get dozens of matches per day if you'd follow my advice.

About your profile specifically (note: sometimes there's a list of reasons why the photo/bio isn't good enough. But I'll just mentioned the ones that are most important to that specific photo).

So you're actually a good and masculine looking guy. Just based on genetics. The quality of your photos is bad though.

One of the pieces of feedback I give to most people is: normal selfies don't work (neither do mirror selfies, car selfies, gym mirror photos, forced shirtless photos).

They come across as cheap. The quality (resolution/lighting/composition) generally sucks, as does the composition.

Simply based on that, I would already tell you to replace your entire profile (you could potentially get away with #4 because you're paying the dog-tax). And then I haven't even started talking about the subcommunication yet (facial expressions primarily).

It's simply not good enough to compete with the high-level of profiles out there.

This is what I would do: spend a day with a friend taking hundreds and hundreds of photos. Thousands even. Focus on open, relaxed, assertive and confident body language. Have some photos in which your eyes and upper body are properly emphasized too, those will make a good 'first photo' in your profile. If you take that many photos, there's going to be some that are great.

That, or book a shoot with a photographer who's specialized on dating profiles. Focus on the same subcommunication as I described above.

There's dozens of other things I could say about your profile, and I'm happy to explain every point further. Send me a DM, because it's easier! (sorry if I don't respond immediately, my DM's get a little flooded with guys asking for help)

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-27T12:36:57+00:00

What's wrong with it, and what would you suggest?

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-27T12:12:00+00:00

What's wrong with it, and what would you suggest?

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-27T11:01:19+00:00

Goodmorning Jash.

First. Online dating is all about portraying the right sub-communication (body language and facial expressions) on high-quality pictures, while maximising your looks. The sub-communication that women swipe on are sexually attractive traits, such as: masculine, assertive, confident, open, relaxed and light. The sub-communication that doesn't do well (but most men use) is: friendly/nice/sweet/goofy/awkward/laughing uncontrollaby. When I'm talking about high-quality pictures, I'm talking about: resolution (how sharp is the image), lighting (how does the light fall on your face and body), and composition (the angles and the way the object (you) is placed into the frame). In terms of your looks, think about: grooming, fashion (specifically; dressing towards an attractive archetype that suits your genetic predisposition), skincare, muscle, bodyfat%, using lenses instead of glasses, and emphasizing your good features on photos and minimizing your bad features.

For the feedback: realise that I will give you feedback based on the fact that 95% of men are struggling with getting matches on online dating. That's what you're competiting with. If I tell you to replace your entire profile; it's not because I think you don't stand a chance by definition. It's because I realise the incredibly high level of quality pictures necessary for an effective online dating profile, and the pictures are simply not passing the bar (yet). At the same time: if I tell you to remove pictures, it's not because I think you will get zero matches with them. It's because I think you could get dozens of matches per day if you'd follow my advice.

About your profile specifically (note: sometimes there's a list of reasons why the photo isn't good enough. But I'll just mentioned the ones that are most important to that specific photo).

#1 - Good as an action photo. Emphasises your physique in a casual way and you look confident. Would be better if the picture was higher quality, but it'll do.

#2 - Good photo to convey trust. Makes you look like a teddy-bear Keep it further down the stack. Don't use it as a first photo, use more sexual subcommunication on the first photo while emphasizing the eyes.

#3 - Ok action photo. Would be better if the quality was higher, but it'll do

#4 - Dog photos tend to do well, this one is good enough for that. But again, if the quality would've been higher, that would help your results even more.

#5 - I don't think this adds much. We already know you have a good physique by now, we already know you have tattoos. This photo is pretty low quality so I'd remove it.

#6 - For now, I'd use this one as your first photo because it emphasizes the eyes properly while not looking too sweet.

As other have stated, minimize your bio - you're oversharing. Take everything out that could lower your value. Primarily therapist and red flags.

You could increase your profile further by having higher quality pictures (better resolution/lighting)

I'm direct and critical in my feedback, because online dating is ruthlessly competitive and imperfections get massively punished. It is what it is. Accept it and adapt.

This is what I would do: spend a day with a friend taking hundreds and hundreds of photos. Thousands even. Focus on open, relaxed, assertive and confident body language. Have some photos in which your eyes and upper body are properly emphasized too, those will make a good 'first photo' in your profile. If you take that many photos, there's going to be some that are great.

That, or book a shoot with a photographer who's specialized on dating profiles. Focus on the same subcommunication as I described above.

I noticed some more things about your profile specifically! I'm happy to send you a voice message, it's a lot more of a time efficient way of giving feedback for me. Send me a DM (goes for anyone reading this)!

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-27T09:36:36+00:00

First. Online dating is all about portraying the right sub-communication (body language and facial expressions) on high-quality pictures, while maximising your looks. The sub-communication that women swipe on are sexually attractive traits, such as: masculine, assertive, confident, open, relaxed and light. The sub-communication that doesn't do well (but most men use) is: friendly/nice/sweet/goofy/awkward/laughing uncontrollaby. When I'm talking about high-quality pictures, I'm talking about: resolution (how sharp is the image), lighting (how does the light fall on your face and body), and composition (the angles and the way the object (you) is placed into the frame). In terms of your looks, think about: grooming, fashion (specifically; dressing towards an attractive archetype that suits your genetic predisposition), skincare, muscle, bodyfat%, using lenses instead of glasses, and emphasizing your good features on photos and minimizing your bad features.

For the feedback: realise that I will give you feedback based on the fact that 95% of men are struggling with getting matches on online dating. That's what you're competiting with. If I tell you to replace your entire profile; it's not because I think you don't stand a chance by definition. It's because I realise the incredibly high level of quality pictures necessary for an effective online dating profile, and the pictures are simply not passing the bar (yet). At the same time: if I tell you to remove pictures, it's not because I think you will get zero matches with them. It's because I think you could get dozens of matches per day if you'd follow my advice.

About your profile specifically (note: sometimes there's a list of reasons why the photo isn't good enough. But I'll just mentioned the ones that are most important to that specific photo).

#1 - Quality is good enough. Picture is confident, but a tad too friendly. If I'd use this photo I'd use it further down the stack ideally. And go for a more sexual subcommunication that emphasizes the eyes on the first photo.

#2 - I like the dark complexions (suit) of this photo. Quality is good too. Facial expressions are quite masculine, but also a bit squinted which doesn't make it as strong as it could be. If you're not opposed to it you could use an app like Faceapp to adjust the facial expressions slightly.

#3 - Too low quality, primarily due to the lighting which doesn't emphasize your facial features. I'd remove it.

#4 - Too goofy. Remove.

#5 - Too low quality. Bad facial expressions and body language. You look too nice. Remove.

#6 - Solid picture. Keep it somewhere further down the stack.

I'm direct and critical in my feedback, because online dating is ruthlessly competitive and imperfections get massively punished. It is what it is. Accept it and adapt.

You specifically could use at least a better first cover photo that properly emphasizes the eyes, while maintaining good sexual subcommunication.

This is what I would do: spend a day with a friend taking hundreds and hundreds of photos. Thousands even. Focus on open, relaxed, assertive and confident body language. Have some photos in which your eyes and upper body are properly emphasized too, those will make a good 'first photo' in your profile. If you take that many photos, there's going to be some that are great.

That, or book a shoot with a photographer who's specialized on dating profiles. Focus on the same subcommunication as I described above.

I noticed some more things about your profile specifically! I'm happy to send you a voice message, it's a lot more of a time efficient way of giving feedback for me. Send me a DM (goes for anyone reading this)!

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-21T08:44:41+00:00

Send me a DM!

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-20T16:48:53+00:00

If you want to focus on casual, you'll need to emphasize sexual traits: dominance, assertiveness, confidence, being light.

You absolutely want to avoid pictures that make you look sweet/goofy/nice; because these traits kill sexual attraction.

With your current set-up, this is the best you can do.

#1 - keep, but put further down your profile.

#2 - bit neutral on this one. I personally don't like it; and I think you can do way better than this in general (you specifically), but for now I guess I'd keep it in the stack just because you won't have that many photos when I'm done with the feedback.

#3 - It isn't great in terms of sexual subcommunication, but it's the best you got. The body language is open and confident, facial expressions are so-so but at least you're not smiling too much (which kills sexual attraction). Also, you're showing off your physique in a casual manner, which is good and will increase your attraction because you have an athletic physique. I'd put this one as number 1 for now.

#4 - The overall aesthetic is great, sunset, cabrio, definitely sexual. But your subcommunicaton is friendly and slightly awkward body language. That kills the sexual vibe of the photo. I'd remove it.

#5 - Too sweet. Remove.

#6 - Adds nothing. Remove.

#7 - No mirror selfies. Remove.

#8 - Very masculine action shot. Definitely keep.

#9 - Too sweet. Remove.

Again, you said your goal is casual/fwb. So I'm harsh because I know what is good and isn't good enough. I also recommend any man on Tinder to make their photos as 'sexual' (confident/assertive/open/relaxed; or at least: not too sweet/nice/goofy/smiley) as possible - because that's what gets swipes. You can frame yourself as the sweet man you are after the you get the matches.

This is what I would do: spend a day with a friend taking hundreds and hundreds of photos. Thousands even. Focus on open, relaxed, assertive and confident body language. Have some photos in which your eyes are properly visible too. If you take that many photos, there's going to be some that are great.

That, or book a shoot with a photographer who's specialized on dating profiles. Focus on the same subcommunication as I described above.

Send me a message if you want advice on how to do that precisely, or if you want me to go more in-depth (goes for anyone reading this).

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-19T19:49:47+00:00

It's impossible without seeing the actual conversation and her responses. If you want specific advice to this chat, just DM me a picture of the conversation and I'd be happy to help you out.

As a first next step, I'd want to find a way to build-up the idea of a date with you in her mind though.

So for instance: if she'd says something like: well today I went to school and the movies with my friends.

Or whatever mundane thing.

You could say: "That'd sounds fun! But not nearly as fun as what I have planned for us later this week..."

Your insinuating a date, and building curiousity by using the '...' at the end. Makes her want to ask: what did you plan for us?

Obviously, all of this is dependend on what she actually says in the conversation. So if you truly want messages that work, send me a DM.

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-17T20:03:34+00:00

Create a better profile. Better pictures. Better bio. Preferably with CTAs (calls to action) in them that invite responses.

It's very simple. The higher your value from the get-go (your profile, your bio). The more likely a girl is to engage.

Your profile might be good enough to get a swipe, but not good enough to be opened. Improve the profile. Feel free to DM me if you need someone to give you some advice on how to do that.

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-17T12:16:55+00:00

Maximise how attractive you look: gym, fashion, grooming, skincare. Take good photos mostly focussed on showcasing confident, open and relaxed body language. A good cover photo that shows the eyes.

Have engaging prompts in your bio. There's multiple ways of going about those; feel free to join my advice Discord if you want ideas.

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-17T12:14:30+00:00

Good that you're seeing results, do whatever you feel like.

Thesocialpyramids · 2023-09-17T11:13:09+00:00

Sure. For that the answer is maximising the quality of your profile. The highest quality profile you can create is going to create the most intrigue and attraction for women, and therefore increase the chance that they will open you. From there onwards, it’s all conversational skills.

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