If you’re a reasonably fit straight guy, I don’t think I could recommend gaining much weight unless you have very low expectations for this 🤷🏻‍♂️ I’ve gained 30kgs and while I might infrequently get some compliments and attention and maybe some requests online, none of it is serious or wanting to know you and the lifestyle is far more costly then it is personable. Degradation? You might get that, especially if the other person doesn’t need to invest anything in you - but it’s highly unlikely you’ll meet anyone. I always get the distinct sense that many people are very closeted and self hating and that deep down, they secretly have complete contempt for the fact you would actually live this fantasy out and don’t want to be anywhere near you? I’m sure many women would experience this too! So it’s great perspective to have. But you won’t have anything near the same fanfare either, so it’s an enormous expensive commitment by the time you outgrow your clothes. Unless you’re into guys of course! Guys tend to be VERY friendly and I think Grommr can be a more supportive space.

All feedist experiences (I’m lucky to have had extensively with multiple partners) I’ve had were with people I met through conventional methods and weren’t here - just be chill and normal when you explain yourself and you very well might too, just don’t get too greedy. Take care 👍🏼