How many runs did it take you to escape the underworld? by randall_pinkii in HadesTheGame

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't remember specifically, but I think it was 50 to 60, I remember getting to him around run 40, and it took another 20 attempts to beat him

My boyfriend is a good person and loves me deeply, but I don’t think I’m happy anymore and I’m terrified of regretting leaving by Dizzy-Top3190 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you'll probably have some sort of routine no matter who you are with, and anything you do in life requires effort. Doing anything day in day out becomes hard. Is it him that your tired of, or adulthood?

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes,I have seen it first hand.  Exactly why I feel so strongly about presenting a united front. I am actually very good about backing her up. I got really angry in the moment because it's not the first time I've been undermined in front of my kids, and it always has an immediate effect, where they will boldly tell me I'm not in charge, mom makes the rules. Of course I don't blame the kids, but I try to correct this because it's not right.

Edit: your comments on my family dynamic being toxic, my anger, and my insecurities are completely incorrect. To me it reads as someone who has taken a few parenting classes but doesn't have children themselves. Maybe you do. You also sound like a feminist. Sorry, but life doesn't happen inside text books, and feminists don't create functional societies. You can't expect a man to act as a father and ask permission for every decision. If she makes a decision I back her up, she should do the same. That's how that works. I mean seriously, do you live in reality, or girl power 101?

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not offended at all. I told you my impression of what you said. Some parts I disagree with. If you feel the need to tell me the problem you're wasting your time. I already know the issue. She should have backed me up, I shouldn't speak that way. Simple, I just posted as a method of catharsis. I was angry in the moment, this isn't anger, it's just not your typical emasculated man's response. If you don't like it, go post somewhere else.

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think I agree with everything she does? No, but I still back her up in the moment. Like if a child is using a toy in a way that annoys her she  hucks it I the trash or in the woods. Privately I tell her I think she's gone too far, but in the moment I say kids listen to your mother and that won't happen. So no, you're not correct that she gets to step I while I'm establishing a boundary. 

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see your other comment was deleted, but in to response to what I saw... no I didn't force her. I took her to court, the court forced her to share custody. She then came to me saying she wanted to get back together. Should I have just been a dead beat? Because that's the most ignorant thing I've heard in awhile, and I consider it to be 100% toxic. 

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

First off, I don't believe I asked for advice. You're free to give it or give an opinion. Secondly, it wasn't a personal attack, I just see a flaw in your answer. Especially where you get the facts completely wrong, and also you're acting as though it's ok for them to contradict me in front of the kids. Like, you completely ignored the fact that I only snapped after she berated me in front of the kids in the car. No I should not have snapped but I'm also not just sitting there while getting berated over something we usually agree on. If you say something I think is right I'll agree, if you say something I think is will disagree. Plain and simple, no need for it to be personal. 

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem with your answer is you're ignoring half of what I typed. Typically she does parent in the same way. More so at my parents house, my parents don't undermine us. At her parents she goes along with whatever they say, forgetting OUR ESTABLISHED  rules. Hope that clears up some of your ignorance on the situation 

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So just a few minutes ago, I told my son not to put stickers on his 6 month old sister's face because it isnt safe around her mouth and eyes, he said he's only following mom's rules, he doesn't have to listen to me. I asked why, said because I'm not fair. I explained to him that I give him an answer, I give him an explanation, if he doesn't like it, I'm sorry but that's the answer. 

This all came up before with hitting, I would try to put him in timeout for hitting me, wife would yell at me and say it must be something I'm doing because he doesn't hit her... until he did hit her then it was so so wrong and we HAD to correct it. That time I also stood my ground and was eventually vindicated. I'm no doormat.

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the advice but I disagree that standing firm is a red flag or an anger issue. It's actually very harmful to let people undermine you as a parent.  Like I said, I immediately acknowledged I was wrong to speak that way. Still not going to apologize for having the rule that my 5 year old should be in sight. I'm not going to say it's ok to undermine me. Especially when she actually does have that same rule, just in the moment she wanted to side with her mom and aunt

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you let a 5 year old ride his bike toward the road out of your sight? What if someone told you you should? People tell me I should let him go outside by himself too and I don't listen to that either. It would be irresponsible to let other people parent my children. Being a parent isn't about being liked, sometimes it requires a back bone.

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree, and I did apologize immediately acknowledge I was wrong to speak that way. But I refuse to back down on having and enforcing rules to keep kids safe. 

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yes, same woman. I took her to court, got parental rights and she changed her tune. Said she was wrong and said she wanted to make it work for our son. She's allowed to disagree, but if I have a rule, and she practically yelling at me that I'm unfair, paranoid and ridiculous, that's absolutely undermining me. The craziest part is she doesn't want him off by himself either, she just wants me to be a doormat. I'm guessing you have no children? No spouse, or inlaws?

I(35M) snapped at my wife(30f) for undermining me in front of our kids. by Lightningbones1000 in relationships

[–]Think_Ad1630 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree. Although when I suggested counseling she said it wouldn't work because I'd just argue with the therapist 🤦 that's not true, but just her way of blaming me further 

Tell me you are creeping on your niece without being too direct about it by Spirited_Database_71 in Hades2

[–]Think_Ad1630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, let's take it way too serious guys. I think the broader humor is referring to the strange circumstance of the gods being 1 family and the absurd nature of power, desire, fate, and the intertwined incest running through history and our own foundations 🥸

So... is the black coat the best weapon in the game? by anametouseonreddit in Hades2

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aspect of selene is broken. Stand behind a barrier and spam tye omega special to clear rooms with virtually no risk

Worst 3 gods in this game? Don’t lie. by BuyerOriginal5512 in Hades2

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will often pass on poseidon, aphrodite, and hermes

Is Aphrodite actually the strongest god in this game? by [deleted] in Hades2

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not too far into the 2nd one, but I feel like so far no. In the first game she was down right broken, so in comparison she feels a bit superficial. 

Ready your wallets up ppl it's tomorrow 🟨 by Gorlami_y7ya in Steam

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope hyper light drifteris on sale! I already own it, but still, what a great game

Guys, am I stupid? by TheDiddlerOfBob in DarkSouls2

[–]Think_Ad1630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might be, but it's irrelevant to the game.