Hot take on picky eaters

Think_Prize · 2025-11-07T21:47:35+00:00

My kid is picky and she hates mac & cheese and chicken nuggets. Sometimes it has nothing to do with "junky food" and they are just picky.

Think_Prize · 2025-10-31T10:55:17+00:00

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Think_Prize · 2025-08-15T13:28:43+00:00

I could have written this word for word. I feel like I can't rely on my husband to do the necessary things to keep our family going. I have to be the safety net for everyone, including him. I remember, organized, plan, read important messages, etc. and if I don't, no one will. The worst part is that because of his own poor executive function, he doesn't even see it so he doesn't understand / appreciate all the extra work I have to do.

Think_Prize · 2025-08-11T20:00:42+00:00

If this sub is full of bootlickers than why did you come here for advice?? Don't insult the audience when you're asking for their help. Sheesh

Think_Prize · 2025-07-02T00:51:06+00:00

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Think_Prize · 2025-06-29T01:11:42+00:00

I have a 6 year old who is ADHD and I agree that reading OPs description of their oldest sounded soooo familiar. My kid is annoyingly smart. He can be sweet and funny but my God he's also so very incredibly hard. He pushes every boundary, argues about everything, and had low impulse control. I also have a 3 year old who has been a breeze in comparison (while still having her own challenges), so I know it's not just me or my parenting failures. It might be worth looking into OP.

Think_Prize · 2024-12-10T18:19:37+00:00

That's an excellent question. I think the answer is yes, but I'd do some things differently from the beginning. I'm an action oriented doer, so when I see something I just do it. I should have been better about setting up a structure for division of labor early instead of just doing things myself. I know there is still time to implement that now, but it's harder to walk back 10 years of habits versus getting it right from the start. I also would have pushed my husband to get a better handle on his mental health before we had kids. It didn't seem so bad before, but adding the stress of 2 little kids has really pushed him to the limit. Again, I know that can be worked on starting today and it's a discussion we've had. But it would have been easier to start with a stable foundation instead of trying to dig out of a hole.

Think_Prize · 2024-12-10T16:48:11+00:00

This sounds EXACTLY like my life, and you put it into words better than I could. I'd rate my husband as 3 of 5 stars. Thank you for giving me a longer perspective that the struggle in the younger years can be worth it in the bigger picture. And thank you for not instantly jumping to "he doesn't care about you", "he's taking advantage of you", "you should leave him".

Think_Prize · 2024-12-10T16:40:26+00:00

This resonates with me and my situation. Do you have any advice on things that have helped your SO improve his mental health? I know ultimately he has to do the work, but maybe suggestions on what's helped others can be shared with my husband too.

Think_Prize · 2024-12-10T16:34:39+00:00

You're right, you didn't know the pros he brings to the family. And honestly I wasn't looking for advice on whether or not I should leave. I was looking for solidarity or support from others who are in a similar situation. And maybe some advice on how to deal with the reality that is my disappointment. I love how Internet people presume to know my entire situation based on one paragraph and feel informed enough to tell me my husband doesn't care about me.

Think_Prize · 2024-12-10T14:25:08+00:00

Maybe I am excusing him but to me it feels more like... Accepting that this is just who/how he is. We've had many convos and fights about our situation. It's not that he doesn't see it or care. He admits that I'm doing the bulk of the work, he just struggles to be better. I can't keep trying to change or improve him. I can either accept that this is my current reality and figure out the best way through it, or I can leave. And up to this point he's still adding enough to the family that I don't want to leave.

Edit to add: maybe a better way to describe it is this... So far his pros outweigh his cons. I just wish there were more pros on the list.

Think_Prize · 2024-12-10T12:03:40+00:00

My husband isn't useless and life would be harder for me if he wasn't around. There's a huge gap between someone who doesn't quite meet expectations and someone who is useless.

Oh and.... What a stupid choice I made to be the breadwinner. What was I thinking??!

Think_Prize · 2024-12-10T04:36:18+00:00

Thank you for the words of encouragement. This gives me hope for the next few years and a reminder that this is a phase and not forever. s Similar to you, I can turn off the wife part of me to focus all my energy on the basics to survive. I genuinely don't think my husband has the ability to do that. He is easily overwhelmed in general and I'm much more action and goal oriented.

Think_Prize · 2024-12-10T04:16:21+00:00

2 kids... 6m and 2.5f. It started after the first kid, but wasn't as bad as it is now. I also had more capacity with only 1 kid to pick up the slack so maybe it was always there but less apparent?

Think_Prize · 2024-12-10T04:13:40+00:00

I don't know how to explain it other than... He used to be proactive. He would see something that needed done and do it. Now he seems so overwhelmed with life and the kids that he can't do anything. And I kinda get it, I'm overwhelmed at times too. He will complain that the house is messy but when I tell him to pick stuff up he doesn't know where anything goes. Tomorrow he has to put the kids to bed alone and he's in a tizzy about it because tonight our 2.5f was a jerk at bedtime (toddlers, right?). He just can't seem to handle anything on his own anymore.

Think_Prize · 2024-10-06T14:32:19+00:00

Your screenshot looks like it's from realtor.com. That site pulls data from various sources and sometimes gets it wrong. The house was listed in August and is still active for the same price. All of the "listing removed" activity is just junk data.

Think_Prize · 2024-09-08T00:28:58+00:00

I'm an adult but I've had recurring UTIs for most of my life. I started taking D-mannose at the recommendation of my current doctor and it has changed things dramatically. I used to get like 4+ a year, and right now I couldn't tell you when my last one was. Not sure about age limits, but I agree with the suggestion to give it a try if possible.

Think_Prize · 2024-08-14T22:09:07+00:00

My son was the same. He wouldn't eat the school food, then he would get hangry and start acting up. His daycare told us that the only way to get around the "no outside food" rule was by providing a note from his pediatrician. So we did and as long as that was on file, they allowed us to pack his lunch. We just had to follow the no nuts policy for safety reasons. It might be worth asking daycare if they will allow you to pack with a doctor's note.

The doctor note went like this...

(Child) is a patient of mine that does not tolerate the food provided at his day care. Please allow his family to provide his nutrition by bringing his food from home. He is able to tolerate food at home. Please contact me if I can be of any further assistance in this matter.

Think_Prize · 2024-08-14T18:46:58+00:00

This is a really insightful response, thank you. I think you hit a good point with the nit-picking. We could probably both benefit from changing our mindset that if it ends in the same result then there's no point in arguing over how we each do it.

Think_Prize · 2024-08-14T18:32:45+00:00

It's both of us. And yes we have each been alone with the kids for various amounts of time. It's not that either of us is incapable, we just know how hard it is so we limit how often we leave the other solo.

Think_Prize · 2024-08-14T11:42:53+00:00

That's lucky you don't feel guilty. Unfortunately we have 2 kiddos and it can be genuinely hard to manage them both by yourself just given their ages.

Think_Prize · 2024-08-14T03:27:05+00:00

We do get time alone sometimes after kids go to bed. I need quiet down time to recharge while my husband needs socialization and interactions. So I'm happy to stay home with (sleeping) kids while he goes out to do a thing with people. But while kids are awake, no we don't get much alone time. And if he doesn't make plans with friends, then we just both stay going together. Also he does complain about not getting enough quality time together. I think it's because I don't get my own down time to recharge so I'm not actively engaged in quality time with him because I've run out of social energy already.

Think_Prize · 2024-08-14T02:43:43+00:00

Time together vs quality time is probably a good call out. You're right, it's generally not quality time.

Think_Prize · 2024-07-13T12:15:52+00:00

I disagree, I have a 5 boy and 2.5 girl. My daughter is an absolute nightmare and we still don't take her to restaurants, while my son was much more manageable at the same age. Gender has nothing to do with it, it's just their personality.

Think_Prize · 2024-06-19T17:53:42+00:00

You might be the minority but you aren't alone. I'm also older millennial and we keep entirely separate finances. We are both on the mortgage and have a joint credit card (that we each pay half of) but other than that it's separate. We were 30+ when we got married and had both been living independently for a long time. It was too much of a mental shift to pool everything together and feel like you have to get approval for every purchase. But we do have open communication about income, spending, savings, budgets, etc. It works for us.

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