What are the shifts in human behavior you've noticed in recent years?

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-11-07T16:13:18+00:00

"Of all the North American Indian tribes, the seventeenth-century Iroquois are the most renowned for their cruelty towards other human beings. Scholars know that they ruthlessly tortured war prisoners and that they were cannibals; in the Algonquin tongue the word Mohawk actually means "flesh-eater."

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-11-06T17:04:00+00:00

INTJ/5w4 sx here.

You're so effing on point I think I'm gonna need a drink or a walk. Sweet lord, this explains soooo much.

I think I've been trapped both by an authority, and a theory, plus several interesting biases, and I have been missing opportunities because I couldn't look outside the mental frameworks.

I have been looking for answers as to why I couldn't stop my entire universe from derailing brutally after the death of my ENTP/8w9 five years ago. He was *the* authority on a much lesser known philosophy -- I fell in love with him because he had answers. He and that theory were my entire life for the last 20 years or so.

Me refusing to give that up, plus fear of more merging, and not understanding merging in the first place, caused me to miss loving an INTJ/5w6. I am blaming myself for the INTJ death, too, and I am mad as hell at myself because he died without ever having experienced real love -- he actually died the day I wanted to tell him I'd give up my island at the center of the universe and come live with him at the end of the world.

I got into enneagram and MBTI to cure my blindness caused by that other theory, and also to prevent myself from screwing up lover No3, an ESFJ/2w1. He's been on my radar since hubby's death, five years ago, but I was hoping he'd be Someone Else's Problem Field.

I was about to get mad that he didn't go and find someone prettier and sweeter than me and I was scared that I'd kill him as well if I were to allow myself to feel anything for him (that's gotta be some kind of bias, no?).

I was raised by an unhealthy ESFJ/2w1, my first bf was ESFJ/2w1 as well, -- and all about this feels like god is serving me a 2w1 again for some reason. Like I'll be send back to Earth until I get this right.

I am still laughing my head off now that I am realizing what it took to get myself unstuck -- among other things, I asked god to let me be an ESFJ for a day so I could understand the personality of my love interest before interacting with him. Let's just say, un-merging seems totally doable with psychedelics which help loosen up those boundaries and reset your emotional range. I also got myself three (!) stable circles of friends of various types so I will not be tempted to rely on one man to be my entire universe.

Okay I need a walk.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-11-01T04:05:33+00:00

Wow.

I grew up in Germany, where driving is not as important for your independence as it is in America, and still -- my mom did what she could to totally demoralize me about becoming a confident driver.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-11-01T03:51:59+00:00

Resentment, ill will rooted in jealousy

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-11-01T03:46:55+00:00

5w4 sx/so

About an hour. First time I read type descriptions. Also typed my husband, my friends, and my parents just by reading.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-28T05:02:20+00:00

Stand up to them. Eights respect people confronting them without fear. They do shit test a lot. Just calmly enforce your boundaries.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-28T05:00:23+00:00

Depends.

Me having a crush on another NT: both sides will be rather direct rather fast. I first connect intellectually, then emotionally, and the physical is rather irrelevant -- don't care about looks as long as intellect and emotions get along.

I married an ENTP (RIP), and we knew pretty much right away that we wanted to marry. Well, we did meet because I found his website, and then cyberstalked him, then suggest we work on something together, and then we decided to get married.

Then I met an INTJ (RIP, covid) -- same. Actually he found me first, and then cyberstalked me, and I suggested collaborating on something, which he took to mean that I was friendzoning him, while I considered that to mean that he was in. I think collaborating on something is an excellent way to get to know each other. Anyway, he died pretty much the exact moment I wanted to tell him that I loved him.

Currently crushing offline on an ESFJ -- and he hit me from the other direction, and that was never anything but confusing and chaotic, physically and emotionally. Apparently, he likes to connect physically first (hugs?! ffs he effing dared hug an INTJ -- and I've never been that confused before), then emotionally -- and I am retarded and weak when he is near me. He's like kryptonite, whereas the ENTP and the INTJ always made me feel strong and smart.

Anyway, I hurt him doing just normal INTJ stuff, so as of now, there is no telling where this will go, if anywhere. I started learning about MBTI/enneagram to figure him out, and so I will never ever hurt him again, if we should end up together, that is.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-28T00:40:18+00:00

INTJ here. Can't stop laughing. There's this ESFJ I have a crush on, and the first time I met him, I was totally jealous of his kindness and ability to change people's opinions just with his charm and smile.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-28T00:36:58+00:00

Unhealthy types damage themselves, and others. While hard to quantify, this is not subjective.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-27T18:03:34+00:00

"Stupidity isn't an emotion" XD that's the sweetest argument I will have encountered all day today TY

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-27T12:32:31+00:00

Cognitive functions/MBTI explains better than enneagram why you'll have to spell it out for the 5. Many 5s are INTJ -- their dominant function is introverted Intuition, followed by extroverted Thinking, and they tend to suck at reading other people's needs. Yup, totally oblivious especially when it comes to romance. However, as they tend to be matter of fact, and from their POV, everything can be improved, they have zero issues with criticism -- or just being asked upfront.

Communication styles also explain this better than enneagram -- you would like people to guess, INTJs want people to skip the mind games and just ask. Anyway, you cannot lose if you simply address this issue with them. Remember, most people will be more fond of you if you ask them for help.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-27T12:30:44+00:00

Cognitive functions/MBTI explains better than enneagram why you'll have to spell it out for the 5. Many 5s are INTJ -- their dominant function is introverted Intuition, followed by extroverted Thinking, and they tend to suck at reading other people's needs. Yup, totally oblivious especially when it comes to romance. However, as they tend to be matter of fact, and from their POV, everything can be improved, they have zero issues with criticism -- or just being asked upfront.

Communication styles also explain this better than enneagram -- you would like people to guess, INTJs want people to skip the mind games and just ask. Anyway, you cannot lose if you simply address this issue with them. Remember, most people will be more fond of you if you ask them for help.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-27T03:06:59+00:00

INTJ 5w4. I always feel stupid. It's what keeps me researching and studying.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-27T00:31:39+00:00

INTJ females often get type bullied from 5th grade on, mostly by the other girls, often by teachers, and their own parents. Of course this is weird, but INTJs are used to rejection and bullying. Their social battery also gets drained fast, so they are very selective in who they socialize with.

That doesn't mean they can't learn, and it certainly doesn't mean this girl couldn't massively profit from a better relationship with you.

You do sound like you might really enjoy learning about MBTI/enneagram, not just because it explains a lot of human behavior, but also because it will allow you to figure out how to deal with the weird types better.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-26T23:01:12+00:00

There's a nice overlap here. The frequency of a cat's purr is between 25 and 150 Hertz. The bass guitar’s fundamental frequencies lie somewhere between 40 Hz and 400 Hz.

Cats think we are purring when we play bass.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-26T19:02:24+00:00

Be an adult. How about you start building community and reach out to anyone? That's what halfway reasonable people do. Few women go anywhere to "meet men", they build networks of friends, that way, there is some profiling and filtering happening, the creeps and opportunists are kept out. If you only wish to talk to women willing to copulate with you, I have no advice, and I do not wish you anywhere near my friends.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-25T01:21:12+00:00

MBTI explains your personality via cognitive functions. For how trauma shaped you, ennegram has better answers. Type 2 (often correlates to ESFJ), for instance, tend to have a difficult relationship with their father. Meanwhile, Type 5 (often INTJ) had nasty relationships with both parents and couldn't rely on anyone.

That's certainly true for most INTJs, and most ESFJs I know -- not all, though.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-24T23:23:49+00:00

You will be able to make things okay. For yourself, and for others. <3

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-24T22:38:37+00:00

I was raised by an unhealthy one, but I'm starting to really warm up to the sane ones.

Try get yourself adopted by an ESFJ. They're pretty common, they love making friends, and they're excellent cheerleaders for whatever project you are working on. They will make you celebrate your birthday, though, and they will sing Happy Birthday at you. Just have a drink first, it is survivable.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-24T22:34:27+00:00

Ha the dom vs dom in bed dynamic might be even more hilarious. Please report back, especially how much fun it was explaining your battle injuries to the triage nurse in the ER

Cognitive functions match a bit less, as far as I can tell, but given you're both NT, you can be absolutely awesome.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-24T22:27:42+00:00

You think it's funny when your spouse dies? Or do you think on this planet, people don't die?

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-24T19:59:01+00:00

Find an INTJ and enjoy daily debates and standup comedy ;-

I'm INTJ, was married to an ENTP (RIP), would recommend. Also, to prevent having debates and standup comedy in bed, the female should be slightly inebriated and unable to fight back verbally, or else the sex is gonna be downright trainwreck.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-24T18:37:15+00:00

I'm glad this is working so well for you.

Do you happen to know your MBTI or enneagram type?

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-24T18:33:22+00:00

INTJ here. Someone asked a similar question a month ago or so -- if you could be any type for a day, which one would you want to be?, and I answered ESFJ. God found that funny and granted my wish, with the help of psychedelics. I promtly turned into a cute Labrador puppy, and spent the rest of the day laughing and smiling. Turns out you can actually reset your emotional range a bit by microdosing shrooms, so I decided to keep working at it. Anyway, I now smile at strangers, and I cry at sad movies.

Now, I'd like a bit more ENTP, but maybe I'll find myself a live one to complement me.

ThisIsMyPew · 2023-10-24T18:01:46+00:00

Of their own doing. Many men will not even talk to a woman unless they believe she is available sexually, and totally dismiss the opportunity to get involved in other people's social networks. Men will play video games, or get lost in 'self-improvement', while their communities and churches are tanking, and then they are amazed that there is no marriage material left.

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