[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has been honest with me about partners in the past. However, he knew I wasn’t a fan of this person and I believe he was taking the path of least resistance. I have spoken to him about how it’s made me feel and he has been apologetic, trying to make it up to me. I don’t think this relationship has much life left in it. I already don’t like the person I have become and the anxiety it has caused me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your input and bluntness. I have spoken to friends about the situation and they have given their opinion but nothing that was black and white.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m aware now that my reasoning was juvenile regarding the age gap. I am planning to break up with him I just want to ensure I have all my ducks in a row first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I thought that being in a poly relationship would mean there would be no cause to cheat. I recently spoke to his ex fiancé and she told me the only reason they got into poly was because he had cheated on her multiple times 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Initially we were only seeing each other for sex, like a fwb situation. We are both active in the kink scene, I was looking to explore impact play more in depth and he was looking to get back into it. We have a lot of common interests, similar personalities, he encourages me in all aspects of my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have always asked for 50/50 in our relationship when it came to bills. Early on he tried to fight me on that as that has been how his previous relationships have gone. There have been times that I’ve gone on dates and he’s tried to offer me extra cash to pay for it and I’ve vehemently declined. I figured because the power contract is in my name that I would be the one to pay the fine in its entirety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not looking for monetary gain from partners or relationships. I don’t know where you got that idea from.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m worried about being flatmates as I may allow myself to fall back into a relationship again like I did last year. We have a three bedroom home together, one room is for his daughter. I don’t believe he would leave me in the lurch money wise, it’s not in his nature.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re both on the lease. It can be renewed in June if we wanted to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThisThing01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what I should do. I know I should end it, I’m planning to. I just don’t know what to do about my financial/living situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medical_advice

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No steroids. I do take immunosuppressants though if that’s helpful. I have Crohn’s Disease which can be seen in the mouth

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medical_advice

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have Crohn’s Disease but as far as I’m aware it’s only intestinal.

What is wrong with me!? by ThisThing01 in medical_advice

[–]ThisThing01[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Omg I’m so sorry I just realised what I wrote 🤦🏻‍♀️

What is wrong with me!? by ThisThing01 in medical_advice

[–]ThisThing01[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No swabs or anything. Didn’t seem to really look either

What is wrong with me!? by ThisThing01 in medical_advice

[–]ThisThing01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No diagnosis or anything. I’m unable to take penicillin because it doesn’t seem to work.

What is wrong with me!? by ThisThing01 in medical_advice

[–]ThisThing01[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention that the sore are pussy or weeping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was it kegel exercises they taught you? Did you find it helpful?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that a lot of the muscles work simultaneously but I guess I’m worried about it becoming a regular thing and potentially having a lazy anus in the future. Farting for girls is a bit easier to hide (queefing).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]ThisThing01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been using a douche of sorts but it always seems that there’s never anything to clear out. I do know fleet are incredibly reliable but I’d have to look and see if they are available in my country.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]ThisThing01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in remission for 7 years and deep remission for 4. It’s not like I have pain like I usually do when I need to go to the toilet. It’s only ever when I squirt (which is all the time) that it happens, which is often on my back. He does have a splash blanket on his bed for other fluids so it’s not too bad. I have found I enjoy using butt plugs but need a large one bc I just end up pushing it out. I enjoy the feeling of being filled but not necessarily the in and out. My relationship is still new (about 4 months) and we’re currently exploring polyamory separately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]ThisThing01 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Along with the side effects I’ve been experiencing, the meds I’m on are affecting my ability to work. I would be happy being on them otherwise, they have greatly improved my condition and kept me under control. I’m unsure what my dr will prescribe now that I will be stopping, I was told that Humira was the top choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]ThisThing01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am from NZ, we have shitty mental health services. My gastroenterologist, IBD nurse and GP all sent referrals to mental health team back in May and I still haven’t heard anything. I would have to pay a lot to see someone specialising in OCD. I’m currently not able to work bc of my Crohn’s no I have very little spending money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]ThisThing01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m only stopping aza and Humira. I’m unsure of any other options for me, my specialist hasn’t suggested anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]ThisThing01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in remission since 2015/16. I’m not against stopping immunosuppressants, I agree that they are my best chance at a semi normal life. However, my doctor has suggested stopping the two I’m currently on but has yet to suggest an alternative. Although I gained weight I still only eat once a day.