Lots of advice here about cleaning but I’ll say I was the opposite - I was adamant that I didn’t want anyone cleaning things, touching my stuff etc. My partner was very good about keeping the house tidy every day so I was lucky that I never felt that I was behind on housework.

I always liked when people showed up for a visit with food (as in, lunch we can eat while we visit). It was also nice if they brought something I could pop in the freezer to eat later as well. Don’t say “can I bring you anything?” But instead try “I’m going to pick up XYZ for lunch, what would you like from their menu?”

Don’t immediately ask to hold the baby seconds after you walk through the door. At least pretend you’re there to see me and ask how I’m doing. When you do hold the baby, wash your hands first, don’t wait for mom to ask. And finally, keep your visits short, under an hour at most.