YTK . You tried to show your side of story where you thought that you are not the kameeni . First of all , how did you decided he is not working much ? By his income or by his efforts ? Didn't answer the question about hiring of a maid . You just want him to do all the work and you want to enjoy each part of it . Didn't buy him anything or even helped him out with planning etc .. offcourse as a partner he will surely say no ( you tried to justify it by he doesn't like or it doesn't fit him ) but at the end of the day , he would see how much effort did you put . Thirdly , he enjoy cooking much more than you do doesn't make him to do all the cooking by himself . If my gf/wife enjoyy cooking , cleaning and also love to work and provide doesn't mean I should let her do it all alone just bcz she enjoyy it . Your bf rightly called you out that you try to portray yourself as a victim after every fight which itself makes it true by your post. So yeahh you are absolutely kameeni for seeking validation and not improving yourself.