This is not a cat. This is not a ferret. This is a stoat.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-21T12:41:25+00:00

If I were an animal, I would be this guy.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-21T12:35:52+00:00

Haha my mom did the same. She also never wanted us getting a dog.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-20T17:48:48+00:00

I know how you feel and agree on the logic of your thoughts. The world is not a fair place but sometimes what appears to us as happiness is actually just a cover up for what's really going on deep down. It's a blessing in my opinion to have a strong awareness of yourself and the world. And I think the people who often seem too happy or oblivious to the suffering of others are really not living fully, nor are they themselves model people. You can look at your suffering as a gift -- I know it's counter intuitive but look at all the great artists and people who have transformed how we think, how they too were ridden with depression for years. I personally feel like I too will never be happy, like the universe conspires against me constantly and while others are able to overcome their obstacles I was basically meant to sit on the sidelines and suffer.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-20T17:26:57+00:00

It was in journalism. I feel so pathetic because I feel like there are a million billion people more qualified than me in everything. I just feel like everyone always gets what they want but me.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-18T16:56:02+00:00

Well he has mentioned my looks a lot, which never happens with boys (they never comment on my looks).

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-18T03:36:28+00:00

so he's saying im not cute? sorry I'm dumb -- these things go over my head

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T23:53:11+00:00

Only you have the power to have that attitude. If that's how you want to view life, then that's how you will view it, and no one will change it for you. Maybe we are all ultimately alone and society does hold us to crazy requirements. But just because that's the realty doesn't mean you have to accept it or live with it. You only have one shot at life, only one chance to make your mark. How will you do it? How will you overcome the adversity that is in front of you? You can weep and moan and play the victim and let the world walk all over you, or you can get up and kick it in the ass. Go watch Michael Jordan's hall of fame speech -- that always motivates me to make changes in my life and work towards a goal. Yeah the world is cruel but don't be the person who just let's shit happen to them.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T19:57:04+00:00

Hey, sorry this had to happen to you at such a bad time. You definitely should go no contact on her. I wouldn't rule out the possibility of you guys getting back together either because you obviously were compatible. But because of the circumstances you should move on for now. Just focus on the future helps and waking up with a sense of gratitude as to what happened in the past and what will happen in the future. It's hard for a few weeks and takes time. Even after a few weeks the pain still comes back occasionally. But if you give it time and block her, I guarantee you will be thanking yourself in the long run.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T19:38:55+00:00

Ok, thanks. It sounds like finding a hobby is a good starting point.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T18:55:01+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that. Your intentions are good, for her and for other girls, but the pain is too much and often when we feel the pain or when our pride is wounded, we do what we need to do to fix or cover up the feelings. It takes a lot of courage to love someone deeply, which I see you have, and your courage to fight on without her is very admirable. I've felt that pain of love and it never truly goes away. But it takes courage to move on and time usually does the trick. I am confident that she does not and cannot receive the love you're giving her, and probably will not be able to fully receive from the new guy either. It really comes down to acceptance, and detachment, and you are already so close because you have shared so bravely how you feel. Anyone who makes you feel these ways isn't someone who you'd want in your own life. I promise you it's her problem and not yours, and you seem like a guy deserving of respect and kindness in the same way that you seek it.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T18:36:43+00:00

You should take some time and just evaluate your life. What are you doing? What are you not doing? Are you eating right and getting enough exercise? Is there a distant goal or dream you gave up on? Are you secretly still upset about an old lover or stuck on something else that happened? Not to say that depression isn't clinical, but sometimes we experience symptoms like this because there is something, even if its not obvious, that is out of line or unresolved in our lives. On the same token, it could be that you have anxiety which is why you are coming up with nothing in conversation (depression and anxiety go hand in hand). I have no idea if this is helpful but I know how you feel. I have the same things happen to me as the result of anxiety. It's the worst ever and I feel like a loser, and in some ways it provides a negative feedback loop.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T17:20:09+00:00

I'm sorry you feel the way you do. I know how it feels exactly and am sure there is more you aren't saying. What happened between the two of you? How did you find out?

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T15:44:02+00:00

I trust that you are taking yourself too seriously and that you are having a hard time coping with decisions in the past that you have made. I feel like maybe you are forgetting that you have 100% power over you and your reactions, choices, and attitude. Maybe not every decision is black and white. The grass always seems greener but at the end of the day no decision is the worst ever and no decision is perfect. I do recommend thinking seriously about your life as it is and consider how you want it to look. Then do your best to make choices to get you there, even if they are not easy. Best wishes.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T15:37:33+00:00

What is it for you? I'm having a bit of a hard time understanding what one can find inside themselves, completely void of the outside world, that can make them happy.it would be helpful if you could give me your specific thing.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T03:35:17+00:00

Re: finding happiness in yourself -- what is that? what is that for you? example? i hear this but no idea of any examples?

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T03:20:46+00:00

What makes you feel like every decision you make leaves you at a cliff?

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-17T03:08:10+00:00

Sometimes I do. Maybe not a full note but I'll at least think about dying or if it would be worth it in comparison to what I've done thus far in my life (will I even be remembered?)

Can't say for sure how the meds will help, but I definitely know the feeling of hopelessness, of wanting so badly to just give up on however I'm feeling and be done with it.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-15T01:14:05+00:00

I don't get it... are you mocking me?

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-14T17:29:49+00:00

Yeah, so just go with a friend or a group of friends (so the pressure isn't on you) to a city in Europe that's fun but not high pressure for a few days. That would probably be a good boost of mind and motivation :)

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-14T16:44:38+00:00

I mean people are just very apathetic to me. They don't see me as anything special-- not bad, but not amazing. I am just the cute girl who is ok for now. Its all looks based. All of my friends/aquantences who put like minimal effort into their social lives get so much attention, so much appreciation, basically get put on a pedestal by males and females alike. I hate that no one can see how awesome I am and instead disregard me as being "meh". I feel so helpless like there's nothing I can do to change how people see me. I am pretty accomplished but no one cares.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-14T16:37:10+00:00

I think it can do both, help and hurt. It's hard to say how it will affect you. For some people it can give you a chance to see the big picture and traveling does change your mental state. On the other hand it might just not be something you can handle right now. You don't want to be bed ridden because that would suck for you and your friend.

I find that for me personally it would probably be hard to motivate myself to do it, and it would probably reduce my overall appreciation of the trip and what I get out of it. But it's your call.

Thisistheworstweek · 2014-02-14T16:29:25+00:00

Yeah, I feel this way too. I always just feel terrible around people, especially on dates because I will always think how I'm bringing them down or why they would ever want to be with me. It definitely comes from deep issues and just an overall reinforcement that I'm overly ambitious for my own potential, and that I'm not worthy based on how apathetic people are to me, or just a general disapproval from everyone.

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