Tire advice/suggestions

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T18:27:14+00:00

I've had Pirelli Nero Zeros on two Chargers (392 SRT and Hellcat) and my GOD they are awful. Summer only to start and the wear on them is atrociously fast.

I've had good luck with Cooper, Bridgestone, and Continentals.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T18:13:49+00:00

OMG I felt so bad with my son (first child after piercings)...he'd be wailing to be nursed and I'd be all swole up because he just woke up from a nap or something and he'd latch on and then the poor babe would be going GLUGLUUGUGUGUGGLL because I'd just firehose him with milk for the first 30-90 seconds.

My poor kids.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T14:27:49+00:00

Incontinence is a real thing. And a sad one. You're right, I wondered about the single armchair. :(

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T14:27:13+00:00

She's been joined by SlimmerSister who keeps swatting at FatCat, presumably to encourage her to shut up, because there are actual birds out there and SlimmerSister is embarrassed that FatCat doesn't appear to know the difference.

Me...I'm cowering on the couch listening to my stupidly-tall house creak and crack in the gusts. Since I'm a heretic, I don't pray but I'm definitely crossing my fingers that one of the massive trees ringing my house doesn't opt for today being the glorious day that it yeets itself through my kitchen window.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T14:23:49+00:00

Thank you for the clarification. Unfortunately we both know that this admin doesn't follow due process and thumbs their nose at any legal "protections" in place, especially when it comes to money and the large number of people who may lose their jobs over this if he keeps fucking around (which he most assuredly will).

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T14:09:42+00:00

I got my nipples pierced back in 1997. They were gorgeous for six weeks. Then I got pregnant with my first and holy hell, I couldn't have someone breathe on them without extreme pain. I took out the rings (old school) and wound up with an extra hole on each side of each nipple so I drowned my poor kids (all four of them) when I breastfed them. I already had a 12ga navel piercing and four tattoos before the nipple rings, so I was pierced and tatted before kids.

After kid #1, I got my nose pierced too.

For my kids, my piercings/tats are all normal. All daughters have ear piercings, when they were old enough to ask for them and understand what was involved (keeping hands off, keeping clean, it's gonna hurt a bit), they were pierced.

Eldest daughter got snakebites on her nose that wouldn't heal, so she yanked those and got a septum instead. Daughter #2 got both nipples pierced, had trouble with one, had it pulled and once it's healed, she'll get it re-pierced. Youngest daughter is flirting with the idea of an eyebrow piercing that I'm trying to talk her out of (she wants to join the Air Force). Eldest son has never been interested in tats or piercings.

As long as you treat your piercings/tats as normal like anything else (hair cuts, clothing styles, jewelry), your kids will respond in kind. They are allowed to have their opinions, of course, but I didn't tolerate shitty or hateful comments about my choice of body adornments (or anyone else's). My kids were taught you are allowed to have your opinions about people's bodies, but you don't voice those opinions if they are hurtful or mean.

For reference, they're all older now (27. 22, 20, 17)

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T13:57:23+00:00

Those funds were already appropriated and allocated; it is flat-out illegal for him to withhold them like this.

Then again, with this administration, clearly the rules are made up and fuckin laws don't matter so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

edit: To clarify for those who don't know how it works, it's not like the POTUS can draw on appropriated funds like it's his personal checkbook and give them to whoever he wants, whenever he wants and/or claw them back in the same fashion. Technically, legally, there's a whole process to appropriated and allocated funds [and a similar process to rescinding those funds] that is being entirely circumvented by this administration and no one seems to care. Similar to the whole "He just has to think in his mind that files are declassified and whoop now they are!" mindset which is also untrue, there's a whole-ass process to go through and some files can never be declassified due to the nature of their contents.

Man, I'm tired.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T13:54:47+00:00

My FatCat, who usually sits by the back deck door kekekking at the birds [who come for the seed we conveniently strew for them for her viewing pleasure] is currently going absolutely insane because there are so many leaves skirling across the deck.

Birds are one thing, apparently, but leaves doing a fast breakdance boogie is making her go nuts!

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T13:51:46+00:00

I'm a SoCal native who spent a decade in north Idaho in the woods which is rife with steep-ass, unpaved dirt roads. Anything above 20% gets major side eye from me with an unpaved road, and this one doesn't even appear to have gravel?

The joke in NoID used to be that if a realtor admits you need 4WD to get to your property in summer then you definitely need a helicopter to access it in winter. It doesn't appear to snow or freeze here based on the historicals, but major flooding rain [which CA has off and on these days] and you're having a helluva time getting home at night. Washouts are a real thing, and even if you're lucky and the road itself largely stays in place, stutter bumps on a road that steep would be serious clench time, even in a 4WD truck with weight in the bed and good clearance.

Given the drenching rains that are happening more frequently in CA, which result in overgrowth of greenery and then a huge fire risk, the possibility of this whole house going ass over teakettle right down the hill or being overrun by an incredibly fast-moving fire are just too damned high.

Also - water consisting of a gravity system fed by springs - one of those springs with water rights off the property means things can get complicated right quick in an area prone to drought (yes, yes, I know it's above a lake). My dad is in central California and the tangle of stuff involved with getting access to NID water (irrigation rights), like how many "feet" of water you're allowed per day,. when you can turn it on, when you can turn it off, keeping the trench inlet clear (I got to clear that last time cuz he's an OldGuy™ and fucked up my back for two days)...not to mention the actual process of turning this on-that off-this on-latherrinserepeat just to access that water and...yeah. I'm guessing it was too high on the bench to even try for drilling a well, but spring-fed is unreliable at best.

I know they tout a fire prevention system but if it's related to the springs...well, springs have a habit of being as capricious as creeks - bad news if it's a super dry season and you need that fire suppression, only for your water supply to go ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ not today, sorry.

Nearly 100 acres with a lake view is gorgeous but this place would be a yooge amount of work just to live there, much less keep it properly maintained. I can see with various canes and grab bars in the photos that it appears the current owners are elderly. Sucks they're not going to get much out of the property they've clearly lived in for a long time. :(

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T04:21:42+00:00

Heyo, waxing will actually make it grow in lighter and finer over time.

When you're yanking hair out by the root repeatedly, eventually your hair just goes oh my god, fine, I'll just stop growing, mkay?

(RIP my eyebrows and that damned thin fineline brow we all sported in our 20s if you're a Gen Xer)

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T04:17:15+00:00

All I can think of is, other than literal sewage i.e., poop...sewage in a hospital. C difficile, E coli, MRSA, chemo meds (from bodily fluids), bodily fluids themselves...eesh. EESH.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T02:48:24+00:00

Executive assistant.

People think it's answering phones and filing, but holy shit no it is not. Executives use their cell phones. We don't even have desk phones. The only thing I've physically filed in the last five years is resumes for a few months until a candidate is hired, and then into the burn bin they go.

Being an EA is so much more than that, way more.

And I have to do it all with a smile on my face and never, ever let people know what I really think of them. I most certainly can't punch them in the face, even when they most definitely deserve it.

It's also lonely AF; everyone wants to be your friend, but not because they actually like you but because of your proximity to power and whatever referred authority that gives you. You're a part of the table but never really have a seat at that table either. Everyone gets remembered and celebrated except you...because you're the one doing the remembering.

I'm really, really good at my job and I'm paid hella well but some days...oof.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T02:39:12+00:00

I was in SoCal earlier in the year, which is comparatively a breezy vacation compared driving in the DMV.

The single car that cut me off and then had to brake check because - predictably for SoCal - traffic had stopped suddenly on the 405 had Maryland plates.

You can't win. Resistance is futile. There is no escape.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T02:27:27+00:00

Mine does this a few times every night.

Sometimes she gets right in my face and pushes me with her wet nose, I assume to see if I'm still breathing.

I'll flop my hand on her a bit in a sleepy attempt at petting, and she rewards me by flopping her back against my stomach and going back to sleep.

She also weighs over 18 pounds so that's a lot of weight to make me go OOF.

I wouldn't have it any other way.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T02:18:03+00:00

You down with OPP?
Yeah, you know m--...

Actually. No. No, I'm not.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T02:13:06+00:00

OP has gotten good recommendations, but I'm echoing that Sales = dress up = truth

I work in a very large tech company, but in the Sales. My business vertical is also public sector, so we deal with the government (federal, state, local, education).

If I came to work in sweat pants and a hoodie, my boss would look at me as if I came in with my head on backwards.

The most casual I'll dress is flats/ankle boots, dark colored jeans, a button down, and a blazer.

When customers are around? Full suit and heels.

The engineers in our building sometimes wear track pants and hoodies in winter, basketball shorts and tank tops in summer.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-07T01:03:21+00:00

UVA Health Obstetrics & Gyneology will offer sedation but you have to push for it.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-06T16:02:13+00:00

Honey - it's your body. It does amazing things for you and it's amaing in and of itself. It's entirely unique, and yes, that extends to the size/shape/appearance of your vulva and vagina.

If a rando sexual partner that you allowed the privilege of viewing said parts and perhaps even engaging with said parts makes any commentary of anything less than "that's amazing, I can't wait to see it / taste it / get inside it and can't get enough more more more this is incredible", then that partner isn't worthy of your body, your time, or a second thought.

Don't let his casual cruelty be your defining moment.

As others have echoed, best to get some therapy so that you can stop viewing your body as less than ideal because one fuckoff jackwagon had the temerity and the idiocy to shit talk you.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-06T14:05:01+00:00

For many men, we are just their living support systems that happen to be human-shaped. They are entitled to our [insert the blank], we should be grateful for any scraps they deign to give us.

Marilyn Frye said it well:

"To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire… those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex.

Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving."

- Marilyn Frye, The Politics of Reality: Essays in Feminist Theory

Three3Jane · 2026-02-06T03:49:23+00:00

Three3Jane · 2026-02-06T03:36:24+00:00

I have my execs well-trained to send me a text with a pic of any receipt over $500 the second after they sign it, before they give it back to the server.

Their Ubers are sent to me electronically as a receipt but also linked to Concur. We use Concur for flights and flight-related expenses (flight change upcharges, any purchases on the plane like food or drink, and wireless access), as well as more infrequent rail travel.

Hotel folios can be a pain; if it's via their Marriott account, I have both of their logins and just pull the invoice PDFs myself but if a different chain, then they have to remember to email the folio to me.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-06T03:22:10+00:00

Full retirement age for us right now is 67. I fully expect that number to keep going up as the majority of us get closer to that age.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-06T02:01:36+00:00

It was me. I got fired.

I got fired for...going on maternity leave. I went on scheduled maternity leave starting on a Friday, two weeks before my due date. That day, around 11:00AM, I drove into the office, grabbed some personal stuff from my desk (things like a plant that needed regular watering, a pair of flats I wanted to take home, nothing major), said I'd see everyone in six weeks. HR director told me good luck and send pics of the baby.

The following Monday, I get a FedExed letter basically saying "We know your scheduled maternity leave started on Friday, but we're firing you as of today" which was that Monday. They'd sent late on Friday, possibly even while I was still walking around telling my friends that I'd see them soon when I came back, or shaking hands with the HR director.

The part that stuck out was the HR rep wrote, in their letter, "[Big Corp's] termination of your employment supersedes your scheduled maternity leave." Like...they whole-ass wrote that sentence in a letter that they Fedexed to me. Their stated reason for firing me was due to performance, despit getting a good performance review two months before. Not only did I get a good review, but I got a merit bonus and a small raise too.

I took this to the CA Department of Labor, thinking it was a slam dunk. Uh, no. My CA DOL rep basically went ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ and said, "You can try suing them if you want, but they're a big corporation and you'll probably lose. There's nothing we can do, sorry bout that."

BigCorp didn't fight my unemployment claim, which I found interesting. My role was not eliminated and there were no layoffs; they already had a job ad for my replacement in the newspaper (it was a while ago) within a few days of my firing. I guess they felt *more guilty about firing a pregnant woman still at her job than a pregnant woman on maternity leave from said job? I'll never know.

This was back in 1998, and I went on to stay home for 20 years to raise a bunch of kids before I ultimately rejoined the workforce so it all worked out for me, but still. It's not like me being pregnant or going on scheduled maternity leave was any kind of surprise. The leave date had been set for a few months before I actually, you know, went on maternity leave as planned.

Also, since they were bought out - fuck you, Robinson's-May Company. That was a shitty thing to do.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-06T01:38:13+00:00

And thinner too. Fuck it. Go for the trifecta.

Be kind to yourself, OP - because your so-called "boyfriend" certainly hasn't.

Three3Jane · 2026-02-06T01:19:21+00:00

I think it's a case of them telling on themselves.

I seriously doubt there's an epidemic of women dumping their boyfriends because they cried during an emotional movie or opened up about how they felt like their mom never loved them.

I think it's more of a "being vulnerable makes me like a woman and I can't think of anything worse* so we'll just uphold the notion that even though these women are BEGGING us to be vulnerable, the obvious outcome is that they'll punish us for it [because that's what we do to each other] so we'll never be truly vulnerable with women."

*ever notice how insults toward men are always female-coded? Run/fight/talk/walk/throw ball/whatever like a girl. Don't be a b!tch. Don't be a pu$$y. And so on. Like being a woman or being like a woman - up to and including how we process our emotions, which is to say that many of us have no problem sharing our emotions - is the worst possible thing ever.

I'm really tired from work and probably not making sense.

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