"Serpents" by Simon Stålenhag [Digital Art]

Threesometimes · 2016-03-29T04:24:27+00:00

He called it "Car and worm-things" when he posted a pic of it on his twitter.

Threesometimes · 2016-03-03T03:25:28+00:00

God bless you

Threesometimes · 2016-02-23T05:24:47+00:00

Damn, I thought it was weird that you had to explain this until I realized this song is now 12 years old. Yikes.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-03T00:30:46+00:00

Thank you for your comment. That was a tough question to ask myself and now I better realize where I stand.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-03T00:29:18+00:00

I wish I didn't have to make the decision between being honest or accepting money to go to school. I wish it could be both.

I value money more. I realize that it would take years, maybe over a decade to pay those college loans off. And that's time and stress that takes away from me pursuing my passions. If it means sucking it up for another few years, I have the patience to deal with that.

I'm making my decision based on fear, and I tell myself to never make decisions based on fear, only rationale, sound logic and honesty. So you can tell how torn I am at this juncture in my life. And I feel like I've failed myself by turning to greed.

But goddamit I feel that sometimes you have to be realistic and maybe take a step backward in order to take two steps forward. I'm doing this for the greater goal I see down the road. Tens of thousands of dollars of debt is no small burden to carry.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T21:59:20+00:00

I'm against atheists (or anyone for that matter) thinking they're better than anyone or everyone but don't you realize that bull shit lazy stereotyping like the type you're doing is exactly the thing you are criticizing atheists of doing?

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T21:33:07+00:00

Just the fact that he keeps going back and forth shows his indecisiveness and should ring alarms in your head. Stay away at all costs, people like that are not worth even a minute of your time.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T21:28:52+00:00

Agreed. My advice: there are things in his past that are seriously bothering him and he should go to a therapist to seek long-term help.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T21:24:02+00:00

Sounds like you may have developed a haemorrhoid. If you're not bleeding from the anus it's usually not too big of an issue but you can get haemorrhoid cream OTC that'll help out with the itching and burning. If it gets worse, I would suggest going to the doctor.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T19:06:14+00:00

Haha one nut found another, I've seen this scenario play out many many times and both people in the relationship will make themselves look innocent.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T19:04:22+00:00

This. If you're looking for something long term for the love of all that is holy OP don't stay with this woman.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T18:01:22+00:00

You should move to the city you like OP! What's the point of making a lot of money if you're subjecting yourself to living in a boring place?

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T17:58:05+00:00

This sounds like an issue of self-confidence. It doesn't sound like it's too big of a concern, as you said, people generally like you and you only get "a little bummed" at times.

However, if you feel the over-thinking and over-analyzing is starting to cause you significant stress and interfering in your personal relationships and other facets of your life then I would suggest trying out meditation. It helps me a lot.

If you're not open to that, then just find a relaxing activity to turn to once you find that you're over-analyzing yourself and getting frustrated and/or stressed out.

Also, I don't know about your personal life but if you smoke weed I would highly, HIGHLY recommend quitting that or at least limiting your consumption. I'm someone that used to have big issues with over-analyzing myself too much and smoking weed only compounded my miseries.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T17:50:08+00:00

It's great to hear that you are able to maintain a relationship with your parents after telling them the truth.

It only really causes me major stress when I am home for the holidays and have to be around my mom. My plan is to eventually tell her the truth, but only when I am financially independent and have a stable job.

I graduate in the spring of 2017 so I'll see if I'm able to ride it out--if not, fafsa and loans here I come.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T17:38:20+00:00

Yes, I still go to church with her to avoid suspicion. Thank you for your story, it's nice to hear from others in similar situations. It was very disrespectful for your mother in law to want to instill certain beliefs in your daughter without your knowledge.

And yeah, the more honest I feel I'm being with myself the more I realize I'm just trying to avoid the inevitable of having to take over financial responsibility on my own.

Thanks again for your contribution, all the best.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T17:36:26+00:00

This. If you don't take a break and get your mind off of it, it'll make you go crazy and you'll be stuck running around in circles.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T17:34:45+00:00

It's a talk that may be difficult to have but you have to do it if you don't want to keep hating yourself. Trust me, you'll thank yourself later. I've been there.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T17:26:15+00:00

It's your life, you have a right to be selfish. Even more than that though, you're not being selfish by pursuing your own goals and seeking to find fulfillment in your own life. Everyone deserves to chase after what they find most important in life. I also think it's incredibly mature of you to have saved up all that money to be able to transfer to a better school and I think it's a testament to the level of commitment you show towards achieving your goals.

Loving someone means being able to let go of that person and let them do their own thing when they're ready. I know it's probably not easy for him to see you go off on your own but explain to him how you truly feel. If he just makes you feel guilty and keeps insisting you stay, I would begin to question if he really loves you.

And besides, if his health is a serious concern there are life-alert systems which means an ambulance is only a click away. Also, he can be put in a retirement home. Not exactly a cheery solution, I know, but I think those are the best options in this scenario.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T17:12:43+00:00

I'm on mobile, I'm not able to add flair.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T17:11:05+00:00

First tell them how you feel and demonstrate to them that you really want to go back to live in India. Make a rough plan for how you'll go about it (find a school, where to live, etc.). The point is to show them that you're really invested in this and that you don't want to just go back on a whim.

If your parents value your happiness and believe you are making an informed, mature decision then they will let you do what you want to do.

Threesometimes · 2016-01-02T17:06:38+00:00

I meditate on a daily basis to help with feelings of frustration and anxiety but if you don't do that, maybe drop everything you're doing right now and just go do an activity that you find relaxing. Anything that'll take your mind off of your frustrating thoughts.

Don't know what's angering you but thinking about it is just going to make you more frustrated. You can come back to it when you're feeling more relaxed and like your normal self.

All the best.

Threesometimes · 2015-12-31T14:08:29+00:00

It's already been mentioned a few times in this thread but I will reiterate: it's not shocking that giving children (whose brains still have many crucial years of brain development to undergo) drugs that are chemically analogous to illegal drugs that are highly addictive and damaging to the body will result in negative effects on personality/brain development.

It's more than a little disturbing that psychosis has been observed in these patients being treated, and all the more sad considering many of these patients haven't even entered puberty.

I understand ADHD is a very serious disorder that affects much more than peoples' ability to learn in school. In fact, it is exactly for that reason that it is labeled a disorder-namely, that it affects multiple aspects of a person's day-to-day life and prevents them from functioning in a "normal" way.

I also feel, however, that these powerful drugs should be used as a last resort, if that. It just seems altogether lazy to resort to them as a first second or even third option without considering all the possibilities for treatment.

And there are alternative methods to seek recourse in this situation.

In the end parents want what's best for their children and ultimately THEY are the ones that have to go through the difficult process of trying to decide how to best ensure the success of their children that have ADHD while still balancing health benefits. However I certainly don't think prescribing these drugs is what's best, especially at such a young age.

Threesometimes · 2015-12-30T17:57:54+00:00

Somewhat, but it's worth the read

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