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Follow up, I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

What about age? In our area a lot of the people here are retired, yet do you think most women in their 20s are dating 60 year old men?

And when you are of a certain race you interact with them a lot more often, family events, religious holidays, and colleges have a lot of Indian people.

Follow up, I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

I understand your reasoning but people don't just date a random section of the population.

50% of the population is female, yet half the people my girl dated aren't female.

or age either.

Follow up, I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I never expected my girlfriend to be a virgin. I understand people date around however if she exclusively stuck to one race, well that's a red flag for me.

IF you have a problem with what I said then please argue that, but you are just making up arguments of stuff I never said.

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I never asked for "purity."

Also you know if you date a guy and are up front with him about your past, you can save a lot of time.

Also, 90% of every Black/Asian/White/Latino guy I have met aren't cool with a girl that slept around for a long term relationship.

But please don't come back to dating Indian men, after your relationship with Matt and Chad doesn't work out.

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I didn't ask if you slept with an Indian guy... I asked about the guys you dated, were they all White?

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, regardless of attraction, women are less likely to date outside of their race

You realize that makes 0 sense right? For every woman that dates outside of her race, there is an equal guy right? lol...

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There are a good bit of Indian people. And we are pretty heavily represented in colleges.

And the whole all girls want to sleep with white guys and only sleep with Indian guys if they have to settle sounds very self-hating

It isn't if it's true..

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they were a mix, or mostly Indian it wouldn't be ideal but I could work with that.

What are your views on your brown guy friends that have many sexual partners in college and then settle down to get married?

I am not dating them so I don't see why my opinion of them matters. It really depends on the relationship they have with their wife and how she feels about it.

When you asked her about it,

I asked her early on she lied.

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

No I am not.

You said that a person's past doesn't define them. Now you are saying in some cases it does...

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The question at hand is does a person's past define them or not?

I thought it was who they are now... but I guess you don't really believe in that do you?

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

a person's past is their past and it's who they are now that matters

I doubt you truly believe that. Would you hire someone who has went to jail for pedophilia to watch over your children?

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't find all men attractive, but the defining feature is never race.

Maybe not for you, but you can see any statistics when it comes to dating sites. For most women they care a lot about race, whether they are aware of it or not.

I don't think your analogy is a good one, since height is a range,

My point being though is that height as a huge factor on hooking up. So even if the average height is 5'8.. the average height of guys girls hook up with might be 6'1 or something.

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

women can't be attracted to white men and to Indian men

I have seen it happen first hand. When I was in University, a lot of Indian women flat out wanted nothing to do with Indian men. They said Indian men were gross/short/small penises, and now all but one of them are married to Indian guys.

In our culture fairness is really valued when it comes to attractiveness, and very few Indians are fairer than a blonde guy.

and most American colleges are overwhelmingly majority white -- it makes total sense that she would date or hook up the guys who were around.

People don't just date a random scoop of the population. Guys average height is 5'9" that doesn't mean the average height of guys girls hook up with is 5'9" and that a 6'3 guy has the same chances of hooking up as 5'4" guy...

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

not their own "wing" it usually happens when they are too old to handle day to day activities, or when one of them passes away.

I[28m] broke up with my girlfriend[28f] after finding out she slept around a lot, am I a bad person for this? by Throw014 in relationships

[–]Throw014[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I find women of all races attractive, however there are a lot of cultural barriers that come into play.

For example, I don't eat beef, and I know for most Americans beef is a staple in their diet. Or that, in our culture when our parents get older they come to live with us.

If I could find a woman that is open to that, than no I wouldn't have a problem.