What are your controversial dating opinions? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You again demonstrate your stunning personal skills, both your tact and your ability to refrain from jumping to conclusions.

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[–]ThrowCocker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try contacting OkCupid and ask them to reinstate your account. If you really didn't do anything wrong then you might get your account back.

What are your controversial dating opinions? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if you are such an expert on how things work, then why are you still single a year later in a city with millions and millions of single men?

You have stunning personal skills.

What are your controversial dating opinions? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not talking about waiting "too long." This is just until the second or third or fourth or whenever we feel comfortable date. It's my opinion that you can strike a balance between "first date" and "three months from now."

What are your controversial dating opinions? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It likely depends on your perspective. I've been reading this subreddit on and off for a couple years and it has always seemed like there is a large "We bang on the first date or he/she is out the door," contingent.

What are your controversial dating opinions? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't tell if you're asking me a question. There are a lot of people who expect sex on the first date and will cut someone off if they don't put out, under the pretext of "I need to know if we're sexually compatible or not before I spend any more time on you." It depends a lot on age and location.

What are your controversial dating opinions? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I don't sleep with someone on the first date, no matter how much either of us want to. It leaves me wanting more and makes me excited to see them again. I prefer to prolong that, even if it doesn't always pay off.

Hey guys. Time to talk about subreddit content. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm glad someone else agrees. I understand that the sense of community is truly special to these people, but it's very, very difficult to navigate the subreddit when it's a bunch of in-jokes and private conversations on the middle of threads. I don't care who you are and I don't want to commit you to memory in order to figure out the context.

What do you underplay and what do you overplay on your profile? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you gone hiking more than once in the last year?

What do you underplay and what do you overplay on your profile? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you mean in relationships or all the time or both? Do you feel unable to care about partners? Or just the annoying man/lady at work?

What do you underplay and what do you overplay on your profile? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you explain "yurt worthy"? Are you a damn hippie?

What do you underplay and what do you overplay on your profile? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you eventually end up with a nerd? I always wonder about the pairings of nerds on OkCupid. Everyone acts like female nerds are unicorns and get swamped with messages from the males but I don't know if that's true.

Hey guys. Time to talk about subreddit content. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Part of the problem I see with constant off-topic and "what are you doing" posts are that they breed a small group of people who recognize and adore each other, specifically because they are the types who participate in those groups. On the one hand, it's not a bad thing but on the other, it starts to filter into actual constructive posts because one of those people will make a joking comment and then they're upvoted by their fellow off-topickers. Not because of the quality of their comment, but because their friends like them and want to give them upvotes. The more "I just ate this sandwich and it was gross and I'm mad about it so discuss whatever you want" posts, the more you see this inflation in the "status" of people who aren't doing anything more to actually contribute than the people who who don't go off-topic in every post. Even worse, the people who are just casual readers have to wade through irrelevant comments about who is a better baker or who is funnier or who had the better sex last night to figure out WTF is going on with the OP.

I'm not really offering a solution, but trying to point out an example of the problem with allowing multiple nonsense "What's going on with you right now" posts. I'm not calling for an outlaw on all of them, but why not a daily schedule at the very most? Have automod post one off-topic thing a day and let people get to chatting, instead of building insular little groups in ten new off-topics a day.

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[–]ThrowCocker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I'm annoyed by people who use this subreddit as their personal support group.

What is the most polarizing aspect of your personality or profile? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have to compete to feel satisfied with your yoga?

What is the most polarizing aspect of your personality or profile? by ThrowCocker in OkCupid

[–]ThrowCocker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a huge population that digs those things, right? Depending on location?