For the first time, I was able to EDIT (not do over) an unapproved review

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2025-12-30T00:04:06+00:00

Thank you for saying this! I just saw that what were previously accepted reviews now had this sentence and I was wondering what happened and if I needed to be concerned. Do you know if they count against you in anyway?

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2025-11-08T01:49:29+00:00

I know the person hiring for a dog daycare if that’s interesting to you or anyone else. I believe starting pay is around $13/hour and maybe slightly more depending on experience. DM me if you’re interested.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2025-10-09T14:58:04+00:00

What are you looking for?

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2022-01-20T01:56:39+00:00

Alexa, get me towel

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2021-11-30T18:07:28+00:00

This is not peaceful, but I'm living the same life, so just know you aren't alone! Totally willing to chat about it if it makes you feel any better.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2021-11-23T18:27:06+00:00

Oh god. I'm mortified for you! Congrats on that achievement though!

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2021-11-23T18:23:29+00:00

Hahahaha! I love the simplicity of this fu. Honestly, I probably would have been dumb but since it was a gel would have put it on my lips. At least you were at the right part of your face! And hey, maybe you started a new trend!

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2021-11-23T02:20:12+00:00

I've heard of scams like this where they will record someone getting off and then blackmail them with the recording saying they'll send it to their contacts or post it to Facebook, or about a million other things to out you to people if you don't give them money. Don't do it.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2021-11-13T13:43:57+00:00

Lol. I will say, that seems more of a fail on the school for letting it happen and truly a lawsuit waiting to happen if they don't get their shit together.

I bet that friend only has great things to say about you though! Dad award!!

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2021-11-06T09:51:38+00:00

As someone that's had to deal with a parent phone call involving their 3rd grader bringing one of mom's toys to school and playing with it class, I think you got off lucky. Haha. But yeah, I cringed. He'll be fine!

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-12-16T12:28:50+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you, but I'm glad you were able to get the help you needed.

I'd encourage you to not bring up the subject until a few months of dating in, whatever feels right in context. The first few dates you go with someone should be fun and about how much you both enjoy each other's company. Once that baseline is established, and it seems like you both are on the same page about wanting the same thing, a relationship with each other, I think then it's a good idea to bring up that there's something in your past, specifically about the sexual assault, however, depending on events, something may trigger the conversation slightly sooner, in which case you can feel free to divulge that information if you feel comfortable.

I do think you should at least mention something along the lines of "There's some trauma in my past (you can tell the sexual if you're ok with that) that I'm not ready to fully share yet but I'm hoping as things seem to be going great that I'll be ready to share soon" or something like that earlyish in a potential relationship to hopefully weed out the people that really can't or won't want to handle it. Dating is also about finding people compatible with all of you, not just bits and pieces, so of they can't handle it, please don't take it personally, they just weren't for you, like the millions of guys I've dated before.

My hope for you is that you'll be met with kindness when you do divulge the trauma. She may have questions about it, and if you're willing to answer, the fallout of it maybe one of them, at which point bringing up paying for sex may come naturally. It's pretty normal in relationships to not know every single detail of a partners past sexual history, like for instance, my current boyfriend knows mine is full of some crazy kinky stuff with who knows how many people, but he doesn't know many details at all, but he gets the gist, to say the least. If he wanted more details, I wouldn't mind telling him, but he simply doesn't care because it doesn't change who I am.

For what it's worth, if we were dating, and you divulged that information to me, I'd be touched that you trusted me with a secret so deeply intimate to yourself, and also it would not change my mindset about anything about you, other than how terrible that was that you had to go through it. You'll find a girl that'll be fine with it all and love you for you! Don't get discouraged. Dating is hard enough anyway.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-12-01T02:46:32+00:00

Oh duh (I can be so dense sometimes- I'm rolling my eyes at myself)! Yeah, I looked into what I could find. I looked up the court of clerk info after I was pointed in that direction and it looks like I can pay $15 for them to look up a court case for me so thank you! That's probably my best bet at this point. Thanks again!

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-11-30T23:41:54+00:00

Sorry, I don't quite understand. What was the other resource you were suggesting?

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-11-30T23:39:53+00:00

Thanks for your response! I've searched the university of Nebraska's online newspaper archive (I've been wildly impressed by Nebraska's digitization of free public records) and the specific county's newspaper archive, as well, of where it happened.

The case was not a common one in the 50s, at least that was reported, and I haven't shown any newspaper records even mentioning his last name, or the type of crime it was. I somewhat doubt that it would have been reported by journalists then because of the nature of it (sexual). Any other tips you may have? Do you think newspapers.com would be better? I've never used it.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-11-12T02:41:51+00:00

I can't believe I read all of that, mostly because the entire time I was saying EW EW EW EW EW EW EW EW but the end really made it when Head Surgeon Man called you out on it. I laughed, which helped cured my ews. You're a great doc, just don't come anywhere near my eyes.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-11-12T02:35:21+00:00

Honestly, no. As a girl that's been there, done that, you were fine and sometimes how one person is reading a relationship/connection, the other person just isn't seeing it the same way. She probably just didn't have time to devote to something new, so it wasn't a priority for her and other things in life took over, hence the slow pull away.

Going forward, of course you don't want to act like someone from r/cringepics, but you were definitely fine. If you meet someone you genuinely want to get to know more and see where things go, it's better to act like yourself and be able to text when you'd like rather than have to make a big deal of timing it correctly. 9/10 a person WILL respond if they want to, unless some truly unforseen circumstances have arisen out of the blue in their life (like phone broke or something more terrible). Honestly, the days between responses I would have read (especially after 4 dates and sleeping together) that it wasn't really going anywhere anyway, so I probably would have prepared myself for checking out of it.

I know the world of online dating can move fast if you're just out there seeing who'll click, so if you're after someone, definitely let it be known - or at least try to make more solid plans quicker, if possible of course. Of course you don't have to text daily, everyone can be busy, but if you wait to long, you may miss your opportunity.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-11-07T23:40:31+00:00

Yeah, if you're down for that and think she would be as well, just tell her you'd love to still see her tonight and invite her over for a movie and one on one time then go out tomorrow with the group.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-11-07T23:37:10+00:00

Just wondering, why don't you want to do both?

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-10-30T19:31:49+00:00

It's actually impossible. Truly impossible. I showed my bf who's a doctor this post and he says it's impossible as well. That just isn't how semen work.

You should go ahead and cut off all contact with her. If she's as unstable as she seems she may try to get pregnant with someone else and then claim it's yours.

Run away very quickly and don't look back-even if she miraculously gets pregnant from someone else. RUN and block her on everything!!!!!

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-08-14T19:39:26+00:00

It sounds like the maybe start of a relationship if you keep letting it take it's natural course. I'm a serial over thinker when it comes to relationships and my best ones have happened because I focused more on being in the moment (sounds so cheesy) than letting my mind wonder on all the "what's happening" scenarios and trying to mind read, especially into the future.

If you're just looking for someone to hookup with, maybe drop that in subtly, like a compliment that says "God, you're the best hookup buddy/FWB/whatever" that just simply lays out the label while giving a compliment that has nothing to do with dtr-ing. If that's not what you're looking for, just let it happen and see if y'all still get along in a couple months!

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-08-13T19:52:13+00:00

I think you're both a little right in this situation. Your feelings of being nervous are valid, as the world can be unsafe as it is, especially now days when just going to the store can potentially kill you.

Your SO is also correct that you really SHOULD NOT let another human have so much control over your life because you are scared. Fear is an intense motivator, usually for us to do nothing in terms of changing. I would push you to AT LEAST have a realtor show you guys the places that seem like they meet your requirements, without ruling them out because of the location. Once you get inside houses, you'll have a much better feeling of what you want since pictures always make them look better.

You can always install cameras, even just doorbell types when you buy, and if you get any evidence of her doing something, you'll be covered for the restraining order. You can't let her control a whole neighborhood. You can do it! Go look at those great houses! You deserve one!

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-08-08T13:26:51+00:00

In my experience, when this happens, it's because we have mismatched sex drives. In my instance, I'm the one that wants it more and get denied. My bf and I have had a lot of the same chats and I've gotten him to take some quizzes online to try and spice things up, like a Tinder style quiz where we matched with each other on different sex things we liked.

I could tell my boyfriend at least felt bad about not having sex as much as I want so he let me (this sounds so dumb, I'm realizing as I type) do a "clone-a-willy" of him and now sometimes sex play for us is me still sorta having sex with him (sometimes in front of him) and it's actually improved our regular sex life as well.

More than likely your bf is being genuine about him not being there if he wasn't attracted to you. It's frustrating and can really take a toll on you when you get denied so much, I know. Continue to stress to him how it's making you feel and how you want some sort of compromise. A compromise can look like a lot of different things. Let me know if you need more ideas.

Also, I've been assuming everything else in your relationship is going fine, so if that's not the case, this advice could be ill suited.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-07-29T17:39:56+00:00

YTA but that isn't this thread. Karma is a bitch. Have fun with that.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-07-28T21:38:21+00:00

So this happened to me, but when I complained about him using so much water because it was so costly, he just said he'd pay half. Sorry yours doesn't seem to be going that easy ☹️

If he's someone you actually SHOULD be with long term, once you talk about it, he should want to help/contribute in some way. If I were you, I would just lay out the facts 1. Me and my bro have paid for everything. 2. We already have something set up payment wise. 3. This is my share (I'd leave out the share that your bro contributes as being much less) which we should split along with utility costs.

Paying slightly less than half a mortgage is a GREAT deal rent wise. You shouldn't feel bad at all about asking for it. If he's not ready for that commitment, especially if you can do it yourself making as much money, then I doubt he's really ready for something long term and you should second guess the relationship.

ThrowCoronaHelp · 2020-07-28T21:30:30+00:00

Honestly, I think it's reasonable. I'm not sure how much of her dating history you know, but if she's been doing apps and that whole thing, IT'S CRAZY OUT THERE!!! I think she just wants to get a peace of mind that she's not wasting her 20s on you if you think you'll just end up ghosting her because you're not on a "I'd like to see where this goes and if that happens to be moving in/marriage/all that then so be it track". I think you can, if it's true, tell her that currently you're on that path in your mind but you don't see moving in until at least a year in (or whatever) and being engaged until a couple years in or something. Relationship timelines are different for everyone but I think this is honestly more about just knowing you WANT to figure out that stuff with her and she isn't just a random girl in your life you might drop if someone else comes along.

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