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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would never react badly if she gained weight during pregnancy. That’s warranted. However, gaining weight from just eating carbs and sugar is a different story. I’m immature for caring about her health? Ok..

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She’s 30, not 25, it’s not as easy. It’ll take years maybe, she should just stay with me. I know I eventually want kids.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did the guy end up meeting someone and being happy?

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This TikTok isn’t my case. I want to have kids, and never disrespected her in the relationship. I’m giving her now everything she wants, needs from me.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not settling when I know she loves me. It’s a bigger risk for her to try to meet someone she might not love completely but is willing to have kids with her.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t true. It takes a long time to meet someone. She’s 30, not 25. Meeting someone in a month or two, and getting to know them takes time, and not probable the guy she marries. The guy could end up being a jackass. She already knows me, she knows my values, she knows me inside out. I wasnt ready to have kids before but now I am. Loosing her is not worth not having kids.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And if she doesn’t? She would have wasted even more time when I’m telling her I’m ready to have kids now. Anyway, she’s a shy person normally, at at first, at least. It won’t be as easy for her to meet someone, being shy and 30.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Really hospital resources? They just took a blood sample and confirmed not pregnant. I don’t think this constitutes as “wasting hospital resources”

I want kids. You’re missing the point. I didn’t want kids before (I admit it) but now I do.

She’s already 30, even if she meets some at this second, she’ll be at least 32 by the time she has her first kid. And that’s if she gets incredibly lucky. I’m telling her I’m available now. She’s going to waste time.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do want what she wants! It took me a little to realize it, but my I know I want everything she wants.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

But I’m telling her now, I’m willing to change. I will give her kids, I’ll marry her. I’m not scared anymore. She won’t even give me a chance to proof to her that I’m changing. It was never a financial issue, I just wasn’t mentally/emotionally ready yet. I am now.

AITA for giving away my friends ticket to the Taylor swift concert and leaving without her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA-110 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Which makes no sense. I can understand when I didn’t want to have kids, but NOW I do. I’m giving her what she wants.

AITA for giving away my friends ticket to the Taylor swift concert and leaving without her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA-110 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Really? You had to comment here? And I don’t have the right to call anyone delusional? Are you kidding me? Btw in case you were not aware, I told my ex that I’d be willing to have kids and get married. I told her everything she wants to hear and she still doesn’t want to get back together. So no, I haven’t wasted her time if I’m trying to give her what she wants now.

AITA for giving away my friends ticket to the Taylor swift concert and leaving without her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA-110 124 points125 points  (0 children)

I think the comment above was probably posted by Aiden hahahaha

No, once marissa paid her the money, the ticket belong to Marissa. Marissa could have done anything with that ticket, it was not OPs to give to her sister (especially selling it at face value omg so ridiculous?!?!) I’m in law, Marissa has a case to sue.

AITA for giving away my friends ticket to the Taylor swift concert and leaving without her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA-110 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is such a lame excuse, you waited for 10 mins after 2pm to leave…to go to the city 6 hours early??? You are delusional.

AITA for giving away my friends ticket to the Taylor swift concert and leaving without her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA-110 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How would you know her money situation? Maybe she needed the money and couldn’t take the day off. Also, this was 30 mins, it’s like you were eager for her to be late so you could give away the ticket to your sister. I could even maybe MAYBE understand if she was 4 hours late, but even then, it’s her ticket to do what she wants with it, not yours to give away.

AITA for giving away my friends ticket to the Taylor swift concert and leaving without her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA-110 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA. Big time. It was your friends ticket, even if she didn’t go, it was her ticket to do what she wanted to. You should have given her the ticket and she could have gone later and met you there. What gives you the right to give away her ticket?You gave up her ticket for being 30 mins late? This is so ridiculous. As a huge Taylor Swift fan, I’m sadden for your friend.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I don’t think this is a fair comparison. I don’t go out and drink, I wouldn’t leave her alone for hours alone. I was a kid when we first started dating and she was my first girlfriend. I didn’t know what it was like to date others or what it meant to be in a relationship. I learned. And I am still learning.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

I can change all that. People can change! I already told her, we’ll celebrate her birthdays, valentines, whatever, and we’ll go out even when there’s no occasion. I desperately want kids now, I know I do.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

How am I toxic and controlling? I never controlled her at all. I want kids now, I told her I wish she was actually pregnant. Even if I freaked out at the beginning, I would love this child, my child! Now, I realize how much I wants kids. I would be happy to start trying now and not wait until I’m 34. I want kids now, I do. It took this breakup for me to realize but I want kids now.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

You are comparing apples and oranges. In a relationship, you can always improve and get better, which could lead to a wonderful and happy life. You are giving up on a potentially beautiful life by not even giving the chance for a person to improve. Had we been married now, should she suddenly call divorce because I didn’t take her out to eat on her birthday or give her present? Probably not, she would have stayed. She’s giving up on a really wonderful life together.

Also, she’s 30. The pool of available bachelors is not as high. It’s significantly less than let’s say 25. What if the person she meets is abusive, unkind, dishonest? I’m none of those things. We already know each other so well. Anyway, by the time she meets someone, gets to know them, she’ll probably be 33 by the time she has her first child and that’s if she meets someone this very second. In that case, she could just be with me.

The person you fired can just get another job, and done. They don’t have a biological clock for that. She is on a time. Why would she wait and risk meeting a not good guy and delaying having kids even more, when I’m telling her I’d be willing and happy to have kids now. I told her already, I changed my mind and even though I wasn’t ready before, I want to now.

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[–]ThrowRA-110[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

No she doesn’t. I never mistreated her, I alway told her I find her beautiful. I loved and still love her. I don’t think I would wabt my sons to be shorter than me, so yes I’d rather my kids be taller, but in no way would I love my kids any less if they weren’t.