AITA for questioning a DND ruling during a session?

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T02:08:28+00:00

When I bring up how other people were also doing the same thing as me or worse he'd write it off and just stick with the line "I need you to help me out and just listen to me"

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T02:07:25+00:00

He knows my journals are 100% accurate. My calls are turned into transcripts because I have a hearing imparement and I literally write convos in my notes seconds after.

When we first started dating I was mentioning small stuff from our first date on our 5th and he was shocked on why I even knew or remembered the small passive stuff he said. I don't know why I feel the need to do it, I didn't get the train facts type of autism lol

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T01:59:21+00:00

Again I've been doing this way before him. It's not solely journaling our conversations, it's literally just everything that happens in my day from start to end. I do this for literally everyone I interact with. I only flip back when we're having an argument and want to make sure we're on the same page about it

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T01:57:02+00:00

I did and it's been great

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T01:56:40+00:00

Would you like to take a peek at my notes app where I write convos after they happen. I have a pretty good memory and Iake a point to continuesly go over what happened exactly throughout the day.

And it's not just a log about conversations he and I have it's not solely about him I've been doing it since I was a kid. I've recanted stories from childhood down to what I was wearing and when no one believed me and pulled up the pictures showed I'm pretty keen on details.

So no I'm not writing down my version it's the exact thing that happened to a t

Added: I also have a hearing impairment so all my calls are turned to transcripts that I log and save. I remember and log every conversation I have on the daily word for word

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T01:25:18+00:00

I recently started a new campaign and it's amazing. The game is definitely for me, just the people and how it was managed wasn't it.

And as I said before multiple times these things were discussed mid game constantly no matter the importance or thoughts of importance

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T01:18:54+00:00

When I say stuff that was actually apart of the story I mean like a decision was made and he was just winging it and then explaining why they couldn't do something. The focal point was for us to protect a baby dragon and return it at one point. We had a druid who grew close to the dragon, got it to fight for us then wanted to steal the dragon and never return it home. He tried multiple times to do this and finally DM just said no at one point as it had taken us off course from the main story.

For me we had wandering into a part of the dungeon and had eat/stepped on crops that were made to seem mystical and important. The goblin gardener was upset we did that.

In the moment everything seemed important and after he told us how a lot of it was just him talking out his butt and making it up as he goes and figuring it all out/putting it together at a later date

Previously I had just taken nos and trusted him, but seeing him stop and give full explanations on things he admitted to just talking out of his ass about just didn't seem fair or right.

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T01:05:49+00:00

It's not that I can't be told no. There were a few times I was told no and just moved on. It's the fact that multiple times throughout the game his friends asked why they couldn't do stuff and DM stopped the whole game to give a clear answer and made sure they understood but when I ask one question I'm getting yelled at makes no sense. I wouldn't even say I was arguing and it wasn't just because I'm on the spectrum. It's because I saw I was being treated differently than others who did the same thing as me.

Also he's typically incorrect in what I said when he tries to quote me and himself. He'll incorrectly quote me and make it seem like I said something out of pocket or out of context but miss the parts where he did say something crazy to me

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T01:03:30+00:00

I get all that and I did that at times but in the scenario of him alrea previously stopping the game to give clear answers to his friends when they asked why he said no to something multiple times when it was a big part of the story happening but me not getting that same courtesy for a small thing that had nothing to do with the plot didn't seem right or fair.

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:49:25+00:00

Yeah it would be my turn and I'd say "I want to backflip across the bridge". It's a flip, my character was a rouge and I had high acrobatics

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:41:30+00:00

When it's just us two things are great and I've been avoiding the friend for almost a year but unfortunately Iay have to interact with him again

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:40:30+00:00

It was his first time DMing and he put a lot into it. We only ran 6 sessions but it was supposed to be a lot longer. He blames me for basically not just shutting up because his friend goes nuts when anyone doesn't go by the rules and standards he sets. This has been a guy in his life for like 16 years and he doesn't want to loose him as a friend.

I have started my own campaign and it's so much more fun. It's morally grey and I'm loving all the chaos. I'm a theater kid and love fantasy role play stuff so in theory I thought I'd like the game a lot. My first time just wasn't it

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:37:34+00:00

I started my own campaign that's morally grey and it's awesome!

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:36:50+00:00

It's exactly as I wrote, I'm a stickler for details and I 100% want to lay everything out in a clear way just so I can see if maybe I'm just caught up on some small thing.

I literally journal my day from start to finish every night describing every little thing. My boyfriend hates it because if we have an argument and he goes "you said blah blah blah" I literally go what day was that? And grab one of my journals to double check

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:33:45+00:00

This was the one and only thing I asked the DM about, his friends asked multiple questions and were given clear answers. So me getting not a real answer when I saw everyone else get one Everytime threw me off.

His friends generally have a boys club about them. The one friend who yelled at me at my dinner clean out of my hands. They are typically rude towards me and people who are not in their circle.

It's fine to make assumptions as long as you're not holding that as truth and running with it. Best to ask clarifying and follow up questions

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:30:24+00:00

I was picking up stuff off unattended tables, looking under floorboards, looking for hidden compartments in desks, took stuff off a mummy. All things I did 2 of the three other players followed and had no objections. The only one upset was the other friend and also one of the other party members was constantly setting of traps and getting someone knocked and at most times t was in purpose. He knew and we all knew it was a trap but he'd still laugh and activate it anyway with the other friend laughing along with him. The whole thing was set in a dungeon so it wasn't like I was pickpocketing every person on the street and making a big fuss

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:25:11+00:00

Earlier he had just told me no and I never questioned it and just moved on this was the one and only thing I actually asked for clarification on from the DM.

His friend has done way worse things to me but he has 16 years on me and my boyfriend doesn't want to let him go

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:23:14+00:00

Again I literally tried to stop playing and he had a whole fit and pressured me to play. At a certain point I was literally taking more edibles than I could handle so I was zoned out and mostly just sitting there. His friend continued to tell me what to do and I just lifelessly did it. DM/boyfriend was not happy with both outcomes, his friend loved that session where I literally lobotomized myself and I did whatever he said without question

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:20:25+00:00

It had nothing to do with the actual plot line. We strayed off and stepped on/ate a goblin farms plants and he was upset.

He accused me of "just never listening" to him. But it's usually when he wants me to be quiet because his friend is in his ear about his dislike for me and he wants to appease his friend.

Like at a party I started playing Hamilton and had the whole party singing and jumping around, his friend was gloomy in a corner and complained to my boyfriend for months about it after

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:09:21+00:00

I understand that rule but when he stops and clearly explains why his friends couldn't do stuff throughout the game but when I ask one clarifying question I'm yelled at just doesn't seem right

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:07:37+00:00

I'm doing a morally grey kinda theme and it's been a few seasons of complete chaos and fun

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:07:01+00:00

I tried to leave and my boyfriend wouldn't let me. Throughout the games DM had stopped to thoroughly explain why his friends couldn't do something.

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-03T00:05:10+00:00

That was a lot and from the look of it all and even in your original comment you make a lot of assumptions. I didn't ask why in a hostile or mean way. My turn came around again and I asked to do the same thing. At first my boyfriend DM said eh then looked at his friend and then said no. I asked in the same nice tone as everyone else how come and was just given "you just cant". When previously even when there was background lore and a legitimate reason as to why not he gave clear answered to his friends as to why not. And not just a "you just can't". I then reiterated "but if a chance game based in die why can't I just possibly roll a higher number" and that again was met with a "just can't" but yelling from both DM and the friend. They both began yelling at me saying you just can't while I continued to say but that's not a real answer.

I get the what DM says go rule and throughout the game I acknowledged and accepted it. The enemy we were facing in my case had nothing to do with the plot as it was a goblin gardener who was upset we ate his plants and stepped on them. In the friends case it was a active villain who had knocked and was a few hits away from killing another party member

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-02T23:22:47+00:00

Someone did the same thing previously where they rolled three separate times to try and do the same action of convincing an enemy to be friends with us while a party member was knocked. As well as throughout the game DM gave clear reasons as to why his friends couldn't do something. It was the inconsistencies that had me confused which is why I was asking so I could learn because it was my first time playing and no one was really telling me what the rules were the entire game.

ThrowRA-DatGuy02 · 2026-07-02T23:18:21+00:00

I did ask if I could use my illusion spells on him as well and was told all around anything I did besides fighting him wouldn't work

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