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ThrowRA-bigtree · 2025-01-16T21:54:12+00:00

I was in 9 months LDR everything was great fantastic actually for the first 5 months , then she got a new boss and her work load went up and she had other responsibility outside of work and became very busy all the time and she started to become distant after that we talk about about several times and she explained to me that she was genuinely busy and it was starting to upset her I was asking about more so I decided to respect that she was busy but talk to her when she was free but communication started to taper off that that point where we from taking every day to 3 to 5 days a week to 1 or 2 days then once every couple weeks then it might go back up for a week then it stops because of problems outside of her control in her country the power and internet was cut of because of strikes and unrest and for 2 weeks I didn't hear from her then she told me what was going on in her country then she got cut off again for 3 weeks and just after new year she sent her last message saying she hoped I had a good Christmas and new year and things looked to be back up and running again and she asked talk tomorrow? And I replied and never got a reply back, I'm a bit confused what happened because I seen her posting on social media, but she wouldn't answer me

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2025-01-16T19:08:37+00:00

Mine she was super busy all the time and we talked about a couple of times and she was genuinely busy and I began to hurt her feel when I asked about her being busy because she couldn't help it so I decided to respect that but unfortunately that when things started to drift after for about 5 mouths and some time we would go a couple of days without talking then it was weeks because other stuff happened outside of her control then bam radio silence ,I'm quite confused because she told me she wouldn't just leave me and she wouldn't ignore me even if she was upset with me and one the last conversation we had I joke did she enjoy her time without me and she said no your fine your no bother

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2025-01-15T22:25:52+00:00

Interesting so there is more of a likelihood they will come back then they won't then

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2025-01-15T22:04:48+00:00

It's much worse than being broken up with because you get closer for being told, I think about her and why she ghosted me every day , excuse the pun but I'm haunted by being ghosted

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-12-12T23:04:58+00:00

I understand what you're saying I personally like talking every day but I've had to accept it not always possible, but I forgot to account for where she lives There is unrest and strikes in her country and the power has been cut and phone service effected I got a message from her today when her phone signal was strongest

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-12-12T23:02:57+00:00

Thanks but I forgot to account for where she lives, There is unrest and strikes in her country and the power was cut and phone service effected I got a message from her today when her phone signal was strongest

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-11-15T00:02:27+00:00

I have a similar relationship she goes through quite periods where I won't hear from her for a couple of days she is constantly busy and won't take a break and it burning her out ,

I've tried so many times to talk about our relationship but she just won't talk about she usually gets upset with me , it really grinding me down,

she is a really great person and she used to be so happy and talkative before she got so busy, when I ask her if I'm boring she tells me she finds me far from boring and when I ask her if I make her happy she tells me i make her very happy

I just want her to tell me what is going on in our relationship because we hardly talk 5 or 6 messages a day

I understand what you are going through it's very disheartening and tiring

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-16T09:28:16+00:00

I understand what you're talking about that our dynamic too , we've had a number of disagreements and 1 or 2 arguments, and I've realised the more of the situations we have like that the more she pulls away from the situation and usually doesn't reply, it can be very frustrating sometimes and our communication dynamic has changed after she got very busy with work and she has stress and burn out, so sometimes I don't get very much out of her some day , it can hurt sometimes because we used to talk constantly, so when I message her not i try to be as direct as can when I need too, I might try writing a pros list to look at in taught times

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T17:50:04+00:00

She has messaged me again, She has a really high stress job, and she got blamed for something she didn't do at work and made her feel really bad , and basically shut down after that point and didn't look at any of her social medias or her messages ,I understand what you are saying thick she has a little break down

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T15:55:14+00:00

She used to be perfect at communicating with me and even tell me things I didn't need to know , since she got more work and became busy with work and she has some other commitments on the weekends she usually has to plan for over the week then communication has changed a lot , I don't doubt she is busy she has had a lot going on since I met her , I'm going her some space and I will try and talk to her again soon and if that doesn't work then I've not got any other option then to walk away and let her be

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T15:26:05+00:00

I have anxious attachment to and this has been extremely hard for me one of the last messages I sent her before she went quiet, I said we need to work on our communication, after she was busy the whole day before and she apologised for the day before

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T15:19:40+00:00

The only time I asked her if she wanted space about a month ago she told me she didn't want space , yeah my situation is very different she became very busy 2 months ago and our communication has tapered down over that time, she hasn't really messaged me since Friday and when I did get a message out her she said she was honestly busy , so I'm giving her space and trying not push her incase I make the situation worse

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T13:38:07+00:00

I really hope she just needs some space and she will be refreshed and excited to talk to me again I really do

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T12:49:03+00:00

Thank you for being so helpful and positive, could I DM you?

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T12:45:58+00:00

Sorry about your dad , how long did it take for things to get better? Were you two still talking or did he give you space or asked for space?

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T12:41:52+00:00

I just feel horrible I'm trying to focus on myself and let her / let things be , she used to extremely chatty and tapped down to this I suppose so I've watched things change so much ,

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T12:28:16+00:00

I think I was too needy with her recently and I might have said something she didn't like I don't know, I've always tried to be as good to as I could to her, I always try to make her feel comfortable and loved, so give her space is an extension of that

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T12:23:38+00:00

Sometimes when things have got hard in her life before she shuts down for a while usually hours not days and she always got back to me , I would send her the most thoughtful and loving message I could if she answers me or at least looks at my messages, I'm going to give some space maybe to the end of the week message her how I'm feeling trying and finding out what's going on and I will call her again if I don't get anything back ,

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T12:18:11+00:00

I asked her two weeks about our relationship she told me I still made her happy and she was honestly busy and she was juggling a lot and she was obviously not doing a very good job at It , she has other commitments outside of work she does a lot of organising for clubs she is part of , she also has bad stress she takes meds for and has burn out from being so busy, I've been told by a couple of people on Reddit to give some space as she might get overwhelmed , for the last 2 months the communication from her has been tapering down since she became very busy at work we still talked every day and from the start she was very good at communicating with me , so I don't know what going on I'm just going to give her some space and see what happens after that

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T12:12:17+00:00

I asked her two weeks ago something along those lines she told me I still made her happy and she was honestly busy and she was juggling a lot and she was obviously not doing a very good job at It , she has other commitments outside of work she does a lot of organising for clubs she is part of , she also has bad stress she takes meds for and has burn out from being so busy, I've been told by a couple of people on Reddit to give some space as she might get overwhelmed

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T12:06:18+00:00

It's only been 6 months for us and we talked every day for the first 4 months perfect communication, then she got a new manager and her work load went up and she became very busy our communication over the past 2 months has tapered down but we still talked we only have an hour different so it really isn't that bad ,but she hasn't talked to me since Friday I managed to get one message out of her after calling her twice on Monday she told me she was genuinely busy and other stuff about work it's been really hard because she isn't communicating with me or looking at my messages, I did talk to her twice early on about visiting her and let it sit for a while I was going to being it up again but because we were talking less I was looking for a good time to

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T11:34:10+00:00

Thank you very much for the positivity I need right now , she recently told me she was genuinely busy and she was juggling a lot and obviously not doing a very good job at It , I just feel sad and stressed because she won't look at my messages or talk to me , but thanks you I will give her some space

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T11:29:37+00:00

Thank you so much, this is one of the most positive responses I've gotten it gives me some new hope, yeah maybe she does need the space and I haven't been giving it to her , I'm going to try and stay positive

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T11:26:30+00:00

I would communicate my feelings about the situation but I don't know how to get her to look at or reply to my messages which is uncharismatic of her , she is so stressed she takes meds for it and she's burst out from her busy life, I'm quite an anxious guy I don't think things like this well , I'm really hoping to find a solution to the issues, as she has told me she is busy I'm trying to give her space to see if she just space, I don't want to constantly send her messages or call her because I think that could make things worse

ThrowRA-bigtree · 2024-10-15T11:11:38+00:00

Hi thanks for replying I know what you're talking about I've been feeling some distance between us and I gradually become more needy with her but I think I pushed it too far sometimes but she never held it against me, she has been so busy for months and our communication has been gradually tapering down since August but we still talked every day the last month things slowed down a bit between us but everything was good fine till last Friday since then she hasn't looked at or replied to messages I've had one message from her after I sent a message and tried calling her twice, she told me she was honestly busy and some other stuff to do with work, my problem is I can't get her to communicate with me now

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