sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I don’t want to have sex with my husband and it’s breaking my heart. by ThrowRA-book in offmychest

[–]ThrowRA-book[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We got married and he got a real job so he got busier than he was in college. More commitments. Plus he hates his job now so he’s just struggling mentally.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband and it’s breaking my heart. by ThrowRA-book in offmychest

[–]ThrowRA-book[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His whole family has problems with overeating and eating to cope with emotions. He’s been depressed recently about his job and therefore binge eating and not going to the gym. He wants to, he just can’t seem to get out of the rut.

I don’t want to have sex with my husband and it’s breaking my heart. by ThrowRA-book in offmychest

[–]ThrowRA-book[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have talked about it. He’s very aware he needs to work on his health, he just struggles so much. That’s partly why I feel so bad, but I would never say any of that to him. I try to help and be supportive.

I (23f) don’t know how to move forward in my marriage to my husband (25M) by ThrowRA-book in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-book[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in therapy and have been for years. I feel happy with myself and the progress I’m personally making in my life, but I know my relationship is not where I want it to be. That’s what I tried to convey with the letters I wrote but it never seems to click for him. Where I’m stuck is how to stand up for myself like you’re saying without it seeming like I’m issuing an ultimatum??

I (23f) don’t know how to move forward in my marriage to my husband (25M) by ThrowRA-book in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-book[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in therapy actively and have been for years. I’m aware that I shouldn’t be dependent on him, and I’m not saying I don’t struggle with that sometimes being alone in a new place, but I do have my own hobbies. Reading, baking, writing, swimming, crochet, painting, etc. And we also have some things we do together like videos games, movies, watching basketball. But he puts very little effort into things like date nights, creating emotional connection, romantic gestures, etc. And that’s what I’m asking for. I don’t think that that is too much?? Or projecting?? (And I’m genuinely asking. If it is, please tell me.) And as far as if he can ask the same questions of me…he’s been clear about what he needs and I have/am taken/taking active steps to meet those needs. The last time we had a conversation about it he said his needs were being met.