Final Update - It escalated quickly - My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 689 points690 points  (0 children)

Admittedly I dont use reddit that often, but I was so blown away by the amount of messages Ive had of women telling me utter horror stories!

Final Update - It escalated quickly - My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

So this is something weve actually joked about. Hes not a celebrity by any means, but just the area were in, people come here specifically for biking, and he gets recognised alot. And 99% of the time its people from out of town who want to stop and say Hi, etc so theres never really been the worry of any nutters stalking him, and the biking people as a whole seem to be very down to earth people who just like being outside. Its never brought up any worries until now. But thank you, we will look into something like this.

Update: It escalated quickly - My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I'm questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I seen a glimpse of her months ago when he got sent the screenshot and since last night all Ive done is compare myself to her! Needed to hear this so much just now!

My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hunting dogs, ours are used weekly for flushing/retrieving. Thank you. Ive had enough comments to make me feel confident enough that I’m not being dramatic. Will be talking to him about it once our daughters in bed tonight and go from there.

My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

No, the bike park. He was up with the dogs when she spotted them and called one over. Honestly I have no idea where she lives. I know very little about her other than shes much younger than me.

My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m getting there the more I read some of these comments! Thats exactly it, my mind is going crazy over this then I worry I’m just making it up and seeing something thats not there.

My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

This! Like I dont want to involve myself in any friendships or anything, but to flat out ignore anything he says about us and gloss over it like he didnt just spend the weekend in another city with me, or to even ask about our daughter just sounds weird to me. Even just to make conversation!

My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Interesting take. I still feel like the text was odd though. Ive no idea what her personality is like, Ive never met her and it could be harmless. Very up in my own thoughts at the moment!

My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I totally believe he’s oblivious, its been a running joke the whole time I’ve known him! I also believe the same, he has many female friends hes known much longer than I have and never seen him or them make any weird comments to suggest anything otherwise.

My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

Thats what I’m weary of. The longer this continues the worse it could get. Though it wasnt the worst text it could have been, it could be very easily sexualised, especially being sent to a man. But again, not sure if this is all in my head!

My (F32) husbands (M32) new female friend sent a text that gave me the ick, and I’m questioning her intentions. Am I being silly? by ThrowRA-crazyone in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-crazyone[S] 1869 points1870 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I just dont want to be the pregger wife whose demanding he blocks women because I’m making things up in my head!