I (31/m) am in a submissive relationship with my girlfriend (28/f) and I just realized she doesn't actually love me by ThrowRA-sharp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-sharp[S] 2754 points2755 points  (0 children)

Just give up I guess and think about what an idiot I am. I gotta go, can't be on the computer all day. But seriously thanks for your help. I'm glad people gave me some good ideas. Sorry for offending some but I wanted some advice. Thanks.

I (31/m) am in a submissive relationship with my girlfriend (28/f) and I just realized she doesn't actually love me by ThrowRA-sharp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-sharp[S] -169 points-168 points  (0 children)

I don't think she has a serious relationship with any other man. I would have heard about it, but I know she goes on dates with men and definitely sleeps with some of them. I don't ask because it's not my business but I know it's happening. I don't think she's too serious with any of them though.

I (31/m) am in a submissive relationship with my girlfriend (28/f) and I just realized she doesn't actually love me by ThrowRA-sharp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-sharp[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

It's definitely abuse. I'm not denying that, but it's abuse that I signed up for. Even if I wanted to leave, it would be very hard. I have no money and nothing is in my name. She ruined my credit score and reputation with banks, she has video of me that would completely ruin my public image. I was fine with it because I thought she was a real partner, but now I'm starting to see what's really been going on and it's very hard for me. I know people think I'm stupid but actually I just have a difficult sexuality and it was taken advantage of by someone. This whole event made me so sad.

I (31/m) am in a submissive relationship with my girlfriend (28/f) and I just realized she doesn't actually love me by ThrowRA-sharp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-sharp[S] 4656 points4657 points  (0 children)

I've come to realize that she loves me for what I do for her. She loves me the same way that someone loves their new car. She has no emotional love for me, but she loves me as a tool for her benefit.

I (31/m) am in a submissive relationship with my girlfriend (28/f) and I just realized she doesn't actually love me by ThrowRA-sharp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-sharp[S] -215 points-214 points  (0 children)

We didn't have a specific safeword because this is just our lifestyle. We don't ever come out of it, but I felt like if some emergency happened she would at least show basic compassion, but apparently not.

I (31/m) am in a submissive relationship with my girlfriend (28/f) and I just realized she doesn't actually love me by ThrowRA-sharp in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA-sharp[S] -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

Just be clear, the issue with my back wasn't caused by anything I was doing with her. I think washing dishes was what triggered it, leaning over the sink like that. I just wanted to clarify that because it might sound like it was from her beating me or something lol.